I am a great husband and father, AMA.

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Anonymous wrote:I am the opposite of everything I read about on here. I have fantastic relationships with my kids and I am a great partner. I am very in touch with my emotions and have very good self control. I manage my emotions very well during times of stress or disagreement with my partner. When we do have conflicts they do not become highly charged and emotional. I assume she is coming from a place of love and good intentions and the disagreement ends up being productive and making us stronger. Ask me anything.

6:17am!! You missed your workout!

It was actually during the workout.

What sort of candyassed, walking-on-the-treadmill "workout" are you doing while posting/commenting here?!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am the opposite of everything I read about on here. I have fantastic relationships with my kids and I am a great partner. I am very in touch with my emotions and have very good self control. I manage my emotions very well during times of stress or disagreement with my partner. When we do have conflicts they do not become highly charged and emotional. I assume she is coming from a place of love and good intentions and the disagreement ends up being productive and making us stronger. Ask me anything.

6:17am!! You missed your workout!

It was actually during the workout.

What sort of candyassed, walking-on-the-treadmill "workout" are you doing while posting/commenting here?!

Must be one of the guys hogging a machine while he plays on his phone, clueless as to how long he’s taking.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you think you're exceptional? You're describing most fathers.

Compared to the fathers i know in real life, not really. Compared to what i see discussed here, yes. And I guess it’s not really a fair sample of course because most people come here to complain because why post if everything is going well.

The husbands I know in real life are generally nothing like the ones mentioned on here a lot. I honestly don't know why that is. I imagine some of it is because of course I don't truly know what goes on behind closed doors, I only know what I see (although I do think I have seen a lot with some families). The rest of it I don't know. Perhaps it's our SES level. Perhaps it's our self-selecting group of friends.

Agree, some of the stuff I read on here is absolutely ridiculous and I couldn’t imagine myself or really anyone I know tolerating what I read here.
I think what you see on DCUM is women that are out the outer limits of their patience with no one left to turn to looking for guidance from other anonymous women who are also at the limits of their patience. The bad husband behaviors don’t come about out of nowhere, they are often in retaliation and proportional to slights and insults from the opposing side, the tiny contributing factors leading up to the horrific behavior are rarely discussed.

Whether OP is doing creative writing or he’s for real he sounds exactly like what most husbands I know are, honest, diligent, hard-working men that have their priorities for the most part in order.

Of course OP is going to have his blindsides, he may be poorly attuned to his wife’s sexual preferences, he might insist on cooking Thai too many times a month, no matter how amazing he may be the emotional treadmill we are all on will bring something to mind that could be just a tiny bit better; go ahead and focus on what could be better and all of a sudden your reality is what you’re not getting, resentment sets in and then you hate the man married.

But like most of us she got herself a good guy and could’ve done worse.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am the opposite of everything I read about on here. I have fantastic relationships with my kids and I am a great partner. I am very in touch with my emotions and have very good self control. I manage my emotions very well during times of stress or disagreement with my partner. When we do have conflicts they do not become highly charged and emotional. I assume she is coming from a place of love and good intentions and the disagreement ends up being productive and making us stronger. Ask me anything.

6:17am!! You missed your workout!

It was actually during the workout.

What sort of candyassed, walking-on-the-treadmill "workout" are you doing while posting/commenting here?!

Workout in my basement of course. Never been a “goes to the gym” guy. Just doing some basic weights, stretching, and body weight stuff.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you think you're exceptional? You're describing most fathers.

Compared to the fathers i know in real life, not really. Compared to what i see discussed here, yes. And I guess it’s not really a fair sample of course because most people come here to complain because why post if everything is going well.

The husbands I know in real life are generally nothing like the ones mentioned on here a lot. I honestly don't know why that is. I imagine some of it is because of course I don't truly know what goes on behind closed doors, I only know what I see (although I do think I have seen a lot with some families). The rest of it I don't know. Perhaps it's our SES level. Perhaps it's our self-selecting group of friends.

I think you’re not getting the whole story with most other couples. It’s always later when they divorce when the truth comes out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am the opposite of everything I read about on here. I have fantastic relationships with my kids and I am a great partner. I am very in touch with my emotions and have very good self control. I manage my emotions very well during times of stress or disagreement with my partner. When we do have conflicts they do not become highly charged and emotional. I assume she is coming from a place of love and good intentions and the disagreement ends up being productive and making us stronger. Ask me anything.

6:17am!! You missed your workout!

It was actually during the workout.

What sort of candyassed, walking-on-the-treadmill "workout" are you doing while posting/commenting here?!

Working out my thumbs!!

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Anonymous wrote:What does your daily routine look like for childcare and household tasks?

This can vary a bit. My wife has older kids, one in college, and when she is around on breaks and stuff she participates a good deal in our day to day and helps out with my kids. I do the majority of stuff relating to my kids though and my wife helps.

Give us the breakdown day to day what do you do?

5-6:30 workout and prep my day
6:30-8 prep kids day
8-5 work
5-9 dinner, hw, 2 nights each week the kids have sports or activities
9-11 clean up, if I have time do something for one of my hobbies or projects or watch show

My wife helps out with some of that when she can but she has her own child in HS still and her own full time job.

So you’re a divorced father with your 2 or so kids 100% of the time? Or 50% of the time?

And your second wife has a teen child some or all of the time too?

Why wouldn’t you include this info in your Op? It’s basic background.

Troll

fake OP is beyond sus

[Anonymous]

Posting so many times since 6am in one day. You must have such a demanding job and responsibilities.

[Anonymous]

What tf are you doing on this website?

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Anonymous wrote:My dh is like you. I’m so grateful. They DO exist.

My only question: what is a fault of yours. You’re not perfect (nobody is), so what do you think is the one thing your dw would change about you?

Oh wow good question.

I have a tendency to obsess a little over health things, even though intellectually I know they aren’t a big deal. They can cause my stress level to increase more than it needs to. I’m talking about like thinking every skin thing is cancer. I also overdo the worrying a bit about how past choices may affect my future. I wonder a lot if the drinking I did in college will impact my health down the line.

Also I think there have been times where I have used matter of fact language in disagreements about sensitive topics and I should have thought more about how my words would land before I said them.

Said no DCUM poster before now. I call troll, lol.

[Anonymous]

I am genuinely surprised by how much animosity this post generated. I am real and this is all true though, but I guess I’ll call it a day since most people were triggered and now I do have stuff to actually do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What tf are you doing on this website?

I am guessing approximately the same thing as you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you think you're exceptional? You're describing most fathers.

This. The husbands and dads described here on DCUM are the anomoly.

The vast majority of Dads I know in real life are great dads, good husbands, good neighbors, etc. Everyone has flaws, including the moms and husbands, but everyone is doing their best.

It's just the horror stories that get the most clicks on sites like this

[Anonymous]

How do you react when your wife is upset at something you did?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am the opposite of everything I read about on here. I have fantastic relationships with my kids and I am a great partner. I am very in touch with my emotions and have very good self control. I manage my emotions very well during times of stress or disagreement with my partner. When we do have conflicts they do not become highly charged and emotional. I assume she is coming from a place of love and good intentions and the disagreement ends up being productive and making us stronger. Ask me anything.

6:17am!! You missed your workout!

It was actually during the workout.

What sort of candyassed, walking-on-the-treadmill "workout" are you doing while posting/commenting here?!

Workout in my basement of course. Never been a “goes to the gym” guy. Just doing some basic weights, stretching, and body weight stuff.

So you're incapable of putting in half an hour without being on this site for distractions? Are you ADHD or otherwise diagnosed?