My sons best friend smells atrocious

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe just come home one day when the both of them are there and be like "two for one sale on deodorant at the store today, you want one?" To the stinky kid instead of singling him out.

Pls stop.

BO needs:
Antibacterial soap
Warm shower, soap and scrubbing
Fully drying off
Antiperspirant (not stupid scented deodorant)
Clean clothes (always)
Daily showers unless can back off

Also:
Brush hair daily
Brush teeth 2-3x a day
No wearing dirty or sweaty clothes w clean skin

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m not going to bully a 15-year-old but plenty of his peers do and that doesn’t seem to encourage him to take his hygiene seriously.

Well then.

Limit his time in the house or on anything with upholstery.

Dirt, grime, sweat, ring around the collar, lice, bacteria, and smells ALL soak in to fabrics.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is something the counselor or mental health professional at school could look into. Is that an option at your school?

Agree,
Big cry for help.

If he truly chooses this in order to repel people that’s one thing but this doesn’t sound like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is something the counselor or mental health professional at school could look into. Is that an option at your school?

I can see but I know it’s been addressed by his parents, stepparents, friends, siblings and peers.

Why are you posting?

Call CPS or shut up

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is something the counselor or mental health professional at school could look into. Is that an option at your school?

Agree,
Big cry for help.

If he truly chooses this in order to repel people that’s one thing but this doesn’t sound like that.

+1. Poor kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He might have ADHD. For some reason some ADHD kids don't like to shower.

Or take advice or suggestions or directions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd be airing out the house and Febrezing everything after he left. I'd hesitate to correct him, though. My mother did that to one of my brother's friends and he never came around after that.

+1
He might bathe more than you think. My kid showers well daily and others might not think so because he stinks at the end of the day. He had to do antiperspirant earlier than I wanted to, switching from deodorant which he also started early. He is a twig though so I dont think it's weight related to smell. He is always playing sports outside and his odor could knock you out so I chase him into the shower since anywhere he stands, his smell will linger. Teen boys can reek! I send him to school smelling nice but God bless those last period teachers.

Change the diet around and take probiotics. Something is not digesting well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd be airing out the house and Febrezing everything after he left. I'd hesitate to correct him, though. My mother did that to one of my brother's friends and he never came around after that.

+1
He might bathe more than you think. My kid showers well daily and others might not think so because he stinks at the end of the day. He had to do antiperspirant earlier than I wanted to, switching from deodorant which he also started early. He is a twig though so I dont think it's weight related to smell. He is always playing sports outside and his odor could knock you out so I chase him into the shower since anywhere he stands, his smell will linger. Teen boys can reek! I send him to school smelling nice but God bless those last period teachers.

For my kid, who went through a phase like that, it was clearly bacteria on his skin. Swimming in chlorinated water is what killed it.

Good idea. Get him to a pool or waterpark fast.

[Anonymous]

I think if you talk to step mom, I would suggest that she talk to doctor next time DC goes in. This could be from a medical condition called hiperhydrosis. The answer is washing, clean clothes as everyone says, but also a medicine called Qbrexza which is a wipe. It limits the sweating and thus the odor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are yall making sure your kids actually wash in the shower? If they stink, they are not washing well enough. Give them a washcloth so they can scrub. Get strong soap-Dial, Dettol, Safeguard, Irish Spring, or the Dr. Bronner's peppermint.

Yeah they’re just rinsing.

Same way they “wash” the dishes.

Rinsy, rinsy. Done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My teen sons shower every AM and also PM if they sports practice etc- but still can smell a bit funky late in the day. For those with this issue, a travel sized deodorant in backpack can help. Mine use it to freshen up as needed. Also check shoes- on your toes powder (zinc powder from Amazon) can clear up any odors. Also laundry issues as others have stated..

Clothes that stick from body odor and layers of bacteria sweat need WARM water and a real detergent like Tide or Era. And baking soda in it.

Can’t imagine his pillow and bedding stench.

Don’t bother with organic flower stuff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Doesn't he want a girlfriend??

Desperately.

I’m not sure what’s not connecting for him. My son and other kids have brought it up. They say he’s just lazy but I imagine it’s a deeper issue.

Lazy?

Like asd / adhd lazy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think I’d try to make it about both of them. “Oh boy, teenage boys are so stinky! Did you have PE last period?? Boys please go put some deodorant on and change your shirt and hoodies” and then have some the friend can borrow. If you don’t single him out it feels less personal.

My daughter had a friend like this. I used to make them both take showers. It was puberty stink and got way better after about a year but the girl would wear the same hoodies every day and I truly think that she wore the same one for days and that was the majority of her smell.

Dude, you don’t out deodorant on stinky sweaty skin? Too late. You’ll make a grime-y mess worse.

Antiperspirant and deodorant is only for recently cleaned and dried skin. Not 12-24 hours later even.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Talk to his step mom then. Stress that you enjoy having him over but his smell is too much.

I’ll gently bring it up but she kind of scares me. She’s a bit intense and I know she’s been on his case about it but at 15 she can’t do much.

Of this is true then his bio dad needs to step up and parent and his bio mom needs to too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe just come home one day when the both of them are there and be like "two for one sale on deodorant at the store today, you want one?" To the stinky kid instead of singling him out.

Pls stop.

BO needs:
Antibacterial soap
Warm shower, soap and scrubbing
Fully drying off
Antiperspirant (not stupid scented deodorant)
Clean clothes (always)
Daily showers unless can back off

Also:
Brush hair daily
Brush teeth 2-3x a day
No wearing dirty or sweaty clothes w clean skin

This.

Print it out and give it to him.

He needs a kick start. Send your kid over there to do all the laundry and linens of this stinky sweaty kid.

Set up the shower, nuke the clothes and hang back up.

Antiperspirant and shower daily.