My sons best friend smells atrocious

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Doesn't he want a girlfriend??

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Anonymous wrote:My son's friend (10) is very stinky but it's just his feet, not BO. Somehow that seems less personal so I have no problem saying "Wow, your feet are pretty stinky. Why don't you put your socks outside and spray your feet with this." He doesn't seem to care. I can still smell them long after he leaves.
I am just grateful that my son has a good friend.

You do that?! So rude. What do you have him spray his feet with Lysol?

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Anonymous wrote:I'd be airing out the house and Febrezing everything after he left. I'd hesitate to correct him, though. My mother did that to one of my brother's friends and he never came around after that.

+1
He might bathe more than you think. My kid showers well daily and others might not think so because he stinks at the end of the day. He had to do antiperspirant earlier than I wanted to, switching from deodorant which he also started early. He is a twig though so I dont think it's weight related to smell. He is always playing sports outside and his odor could knock you out so I chase him into the shower since anywhere he stands, his smell will linger. Teen boys can reek! I send him to school smelling nice but God bless those last period teachers.

Does he use a washcloth and a good soap, like Dial or Irish Spring? Many boys need to be taught how to shower, bless our football coach bc he taught them. I teach HS and so many boys don't wash behind their ears, wash their feet and scrub their pits and bits. AND WASH ARMS AND LEGS.

Also if he is outside all the time, add Lsyol laundry deodorizer and do a second rinse.

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Anonymous wrote:My son is 13 and stinks. He is very skinny. He showers almost everyday - and we have given him deodorant/ antiperspirant. He stinks at the end of the day! I hope it is a phase.

Sounds like laundry might be part of it.

He's 13, he needs to shower EVERY DAY.

[Anonymous]

Are yall making sure your kids actually wash in the shower? If they stink, they are not washing well enough. Give them a washcloth so they can scrub. Get strong soap-Dial, Dettol, Safeguard, Irish Spring, or the Dr. Bronner's peppermint.

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Anonymous wrote:This is something the counselor or mental health professional at school could look into. Is that an option at your school?

I can see but I know it’s been addressed by his parents, stepparents, friends, siblings and peers.

What makes you imagine that your input would have more effect than all of these?

[Anonymous]

I would say they can hang out outside or at the friend's house.

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Anonymous wrote:This is where bullying was helpful

He’s already bullied. So I guess it’s not.

Maybe it is. Maybe without the bullying he'd only shower once a month.

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My teen sons shower every AM and also PM if they sports practice etc- but still can smell a bit funky late in the day. For those with this issue, a travel sized deodorant in backpack can help. Mine use it to freshen up as needed. Also check shoes- on your toes powder (zinc powder from Amazon) can clear up any odors. Also laundry issues as others have stated..

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Anonymous wrote:I would say they can hang out outside or at the friend's house.

This. Make sure he knows it’s the hygiene that’s a problem, not his personality, and that you welcome him anytime if he’s clean. That means shower before he comes over and wear clothes that are all fresh from the dryer.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes this generation is too kind and reserved.
Friends need to tell this guy “Dude, you stink. You gotta shower.” It’s for his own good

[Anonymous]

This makes me remember my friend who would drive carpool for her son and his friends with her head out the minivan window.

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Anonymous wrote:Doesn't he want a girlfriend??

Desperately.

I’m not sure what’s not connecting for him. My son and other kids have brought it up. They say he’s just lazy but I imagine it’s a deeper issue.

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Family life is stable. Lives in a large home with many similar ages siblings and step siblings but he has his own room and access to privacy and shower.

This sounds stable to you?

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What’s odd is his mother allows him to leave the house smelling like that. And if it’s that bad how are kids able to sit next to him in a classroom?

If he doesn’t wash his clothes it’s up to his mother to make sure someone washes,hopefully she’ll wash them.