My sons best friend smells atrocious

[Anonymous]

And he’s at our house almost everyday.

He’s a very big boy (tall and chubby) and DS says he doesn’t bathe frequently and you can tell. It goes beyond just body odor and is weeks of stink.

He is self conscious about his size so wears lots of heavy, thick clothes and sweats like mad.

We adore this kid. He’s a great friend but the smell permeates my furniture and lingers constantly.

DS and other friends have gently told him numerous times he needs to shower daily but apparently once a week is the best he’ll manage.

Family life is stable. Lives in a large home with many similar ages siblings and step siblings but he has his own room and access to privacy and shower.

He probably is depressed a bit but also a bit lazy.

I assume I can’t do anything about it. My poor nose.

[Anonymous]

walk into the room and yell "WHAT IS THAT SMELL???"

[Anonymous]

I’m not going to bully a 15-year-old but plenty of his peers do and that doesn’t seem to encourage him to take his hygiene seriously.

[Anonymous]

He needs to be washing and changing his clothes. And he's probably not.

[Anonymous]

This is something the counselor or mental health professional at school could look into. Is that an option at your school?

[Anonymous]

I'd be airing out the house and Febrezing everything after he left. I'd hesitate to correct him, though. My mother did that to one of my brother's friends and he never came around after that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He needs to be washing and changing his clothes. And he's probably not.

No, he’s not. Which is the issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is something the counselor or mental health professional at school could look into. Is that an option at your school?

I can see but I know it’s been addressed by his parents, stepparents, friends, siblings and peers.

[Anonymous]

You’re deep in dirty water

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He needs to be washing and changing his clothes. And he's probably not.

+1
We had this issue with DS's friend. He left his hoodie behind one time and it positively reeked.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:walk into the room and yell "WHAT IS THAT SMELL???"

AGREE!

[Anonymous]

He might have ADHD. For some reason some ADHD kids don't like to shower.

[Anonymous]

Can the school counselor intervene?

[Anonymous]

This is where bullying was helpful

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is where bullying was helpful

He’s already bullied. So I guess it’s not.