My sons best friend smells atrocious

[Anonymous]

Maybe just come home one day when the both of them are there and be like "two for one sale on deodorant at the store today, you want one?" To the stinky kid instead of singling him out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My kids shower every day, use deodorant, and by the middle or end of the day, they stink. They are not overweight. They just have an odor about them.

I've never told anyone this, but one of my kids has a scent that really bugs me, and even after I wash his clothes with all the things you would need to make them come out with nothing but chemical fabric smell, I can still smell him. I put air purifiers in his room and spray Fabreeze, and I still have to hold my breath in his room. It's just his natural scent, but it is just awful to me. No one else in the house seems to notice it. But if anyone else is picking up this smell, I bet they would think he never showers or washes his clothes, when he's actually pretty fastidious.

What kind of soap are you using? Are they scrubbing everything well, including his scalp? Drying his body really well? Drinking enough water? Taking a probiotic? Chlorophyll capsules?GI issues can also affect body odor. Get some shower to shower powder or baby powder for him to use after his shower. I wonder if it's his sweat.

But I'm the only one who notices.

[Anonymous]

That’s a bet

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You should help him op.
When I was younger my parents didn't give me deodorant. I didn't know about it and despite showering daily I would get musty pits.

One weekend I was at a friend's house and the mom came to the room and said this room stinks. Everyone is showering today. It was me who stunk but everyone showered. My friend handed me deodorant and new clothes while her mom washed everyone's stuff. From that point on I k ew what deodorant was for and used it after showering and never had a problem again.

It was the right thing to do and I appreciate that family.

I know for a fact he has access to all this in his home.

His stepmom is PTA leader. His siblings are all well groomed. It’s his own issue. He’s much larger than them though and I think therefor self conscience. I also think he’s depressed.

I’ve known a lot of PTA leaders who had kids who needed a lot of help

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is something the counselor or mental health professional at school could look into. Is that an option at your school?

This

High (or middle) school counselors have more pressing issues than some kid’s BO. They could probably spend all 40 hrs of their work week investigating the kids that stink. Lots of teens small bad for various reasons. OP already said his house is stable, family isn’t poor, etc.

But it absolutely could be something more serious that op doesn't know about. Plenty of kids stop showering or changing their clothes if they're being sexually abused in some way.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is something the counselor or mental health professional at school could look into. Is that an option at your school?

This

High (or middle) school counselors have more pressing issues than some kid’s BO. They could probably spend all 40 hrs of their work week investigating the kids that stink. Lots of teens small bad for various reasons. OP already said his house is stable, family isn’t poor, etc.

But it absolutely could be something more serious that op doesn't know about. Plenty of kids stop showering or changing their clothes if they're being sexually abused in some way.

And plenty more just don’t care

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would advise you to talk to the mom. Not in ann accusatory way though - not blaming her for her son’s poor hygiene. Share the body wash your son uses, cologne. She may be unsure of if you are also experiencing the same with your kid. She may be too oblivious to smell her kid.

Renee, while I have you, I wanted to let you know of some products Johnny has been using that may work great for Joaquin. I’ll text you the name of the body wash and deodorant!

For the love of humanity do not do this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Doesn't he want a girlfriend??

Desperately.

I’m not sure what’s not connecting for him. My son and other kids have brought it up. They say he’s just lazy but I imagine it’s a deeper issue.

He probably has a medical condition. His parents probably know and they are all managing the best they can and hoping the kid isn’t embarrassed by kids or their parents. Nice of you to focus on the important stuff though.

[Anonymous]

Talk to his step mom then. Stress that you enjoy having him over but his smell is too much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kids shower every day, use deodorant, and by the middle or end of the day, they stink. They are not overweight. They just have an odor about them.

I've never told anyone this, but one of my kids has a scent that really bugs me, and even after I wash his clothes with all the things you would need to make them come out with nothing but chemical fabric smell, I can still smell him. I put air purifiers in his room and spray Fabreeze, and I still have to hold my breath in his room. It's just his natural scent, but it is just awful to me. No one else in the house seems to notice it. But if anyone else is picking up this smell, I bet they would think he never showers or washes his clothes, when he's actually pretty fastidious.

Maple syrup disease,

[Anonymous]

I had this problem long ago with DD’s neighbor friend in elementary school. The (single widowed) mom was stridently anti-deodorant and made this a talking point, yet apparently used this as an excuse to ignore DC hygiene altogether.

We hosted a couple sleepovers and it was positively jolting. Tried going to swimming pool and have the girls shower and shampoo but the friend would rinse only.

I wish I could say that I came to a great resolution and that our DDs remained lifelong friends, but neither is the case.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would advise you to talk to the mom. Not in ann accusatory way though - not blaming her for her son’s poor hygiene. Share the body wash your son uses, cologne. She may be unsure of if you are also experiencing the same with your kid. She may be too oblivious to smell her kid.

Renee, while I have you, I wanted to let you know of some products Johnny has been using that may work great for Joaquin. I’ll text you the name of the body wash and deodorant!

I would advise going through the school. You don’t know how parents function. My mom would have 100% told me that I’m gross and bff and family said I stink, and it would have made me so self conscious and probably would have dropped the friendship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Talk to his step mom then. Stress that you enjoy having him over but his smell is too much.

I’ll gently bring it up but she kind of scares me. She’s a bit intense and I know she’s been on his case about it but at 15 she can’t do much.

[Anonymous]

No! So if she's regularly telling him something, you piling on will help how?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And he’s at our house almost everyday.

He’s a very big boy (tall and chubby) and DS says he doesn’t bathe frequently and you can tell. It goes beyond just body odor and is weeks of stink.

He is self conscious about his size so wears lots of heavy, thick clothes and sweats like mad.

We adore this kid. He’s a great friend but the smell permeates my furniture and lingers constantly.

DS and other friends have gently told him numerous times he needs to shower daily but apparently once a week is the best he’ll manage.

Family life is stable. Lives in a large home with many similar ages siblings and step siblings but he has his own room and access to privacy and shower.

He probably is depressed a bit but also a bit lazy.

I assume I can’t do anything about it. My poor nose.

His health ed and PE teacher should have intervened by now.
Your son and friends should tell him to soap up and dry off more and what products to use.

Otherwise this is just another lame DCUM troll Op.