To my husband’s work AP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am solidly team OP.

What her DH did is the ultimate betrayal. They got caught. Now they pay the price.

Her DH. Everyone else is just not her problem. She should focus on fixing her own house. Or destroying it/her DH, whatever. But leave other people out of it.

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Anonymous wrote:Sleep with the AP's husband.

+1
Perfect solution...I've seen in work before.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, focus on your own life. You come across as scary vindictive.

She comes across as weirdly unhinged. I feel sorry for the AP's DH. She should just focus on burning down her own house if that's what she wants, and not his.

You’re right. It would be so much better for AP’s DH to continue getting cheated on and disrespected by his wife. Why take that joy from him?

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Anonymous wrote:Good for you OP. Actions have consequences. let her burn. Make sure you burn your husband also though.

OP: Oh, he will. This is going to destroy his career.

Not even if he's a politician. Nobody gives a $hit.

You should leave the other husband alone, it's not your business. Your husband is your business.

Not how it works. You interfere with my marriage, I interfere with yours. Why is there a code that should be upheld by the spouse who was wronged? The wife didn’t cheat. YOU did. If my husband was caught cheating with someone I’d already expressed concern about, all bets for civility would be off.

Because the other husband didn’t do anything to you and you are gleefully looking forward to causing him pain.

OP: Gleefully looking forward to causing him pain? I have the unique advantage that I caught wind of his wife cheating on him. It is a kindness to share that kind of blatant disrespect when you’re investing your life in someone.

AP doesn’t get to destroy my marriage and keep her happy one. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.

That's just your opinion that is not necessarily shared by everyone. It's really not your business, but you sound like you will enjoy it. Worry about yourself and your husband and stop focusing on the other husband.

You really come across as a horrible person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is a better than 100% chance that this is the same OP of the “Husband and his partner” thread.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1219915.page

If OP is also the OP of this thread, damn, the AP is pregnant. After OP outs the affair, I'd want to know whose baby it is, and I'd bet the AP's husband will want to know the same thing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am solidly team OP.

What her DH did is the ultimate betrayal. They got caught. Now they pay the price.

Her DH. Everyone else is just not her problem. She should focus on fixing her own house. Or destroying it/her DH, whatever. But leave other people out of it.

He didn’t cheat with himself. He cheated with someone who is married and who knew he was married, as well. Maybe AP should have left her nethers out of my marriage and I’d leave her out of this.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, focus on your own life. You come across as scary vindictive.

She comes across as weirdly unhinged. I feel sorry for the AP's DH. She should just focus on burning down her own house if that's what she wants, and not his.

You’re right. It would be so much better for AP’s DH to continue getting cheated on and disrespected by his wife. Why take that joy from him?

What an asinine comment. Do you always lack the ability to think logically? I'm guessing you do. Bet that works well for you in life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, focus on your own life. You come across as scary vindictive.

so?

-not op.

Agree. What’s wrong with feeling vindictive toward someone who knowingly cheated with someone who is married? Obviously OP’s DH is the one who impacts their personal household, but I’m tired of people defending the APs and acting like they have no culpability.

[Anonymous]

OP: I’m telling AP’s husband. There really isn’t any 1950s housewife “keep it contained in your own home” bullshit that is going to make a difference here.

She slept with my husband with the full knowledge we are married. It’s on. AP, please know it’s coming.

[Anonymous]

I would want to know if my wife was cheating. You are doing the right thing

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Anonymous wrote:OP: I’m telling AP’s husband. There really isn’t any 1950s housewife “keep it contained in your own home” bullshit that is going to make a difference here.

She slept with my husband with the full knowledge we are married. It’s on. AP, please know it’s coming.

Slow clap. You’re a boss. I wish you all the luck in the world, OP.

[Anonymous]

Good luck, OP. Fkg idiots.

I did what you did and got IMMENSE satisfaction. It made me giddy to light the match.

Health insurance was through me and I had my own high paying job, health insurance.

[Anonymous]

I am wholly and completely on your side OP. Let us know how it goes. Her H deserves to know ASAP. Let your H and his AP suffer the consequences. That's the risk they took.

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Who’s the father, OP?

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Anonymous wrote:Good for you OP. Actions have consequences. let her burn. Make sure you burn your husband also though.

OP: Oh, he will. This is going to destroy his career.

Not even if he's a politician. Nobody gives a $hit.

You should leave the other husband alone, it's not your business. Your husband is your business.

Not OP, but: The cheated-on husband needs to know. He needs to get tested for STDs (as does the OP). Who knows whether his cheating wife has slept with other men as well as the OP's DH? Basic health is one reason to tell the spouse of an AP partner about an affair.

So is fairness: He deserves to live a life where he is fully informed as he makes choices. When people have affairs, they are taking away their cheated-on spouses' agency in their own lives. Imagine finding out years later than your spouse was cheating on you while together, as a couple, you made plans for your kids together, bought a home or made other big changes, shared happy experiences on vacations together, planned your retirement together etc. All while you thought you actually WERE a couple, and the whole time, you were not; a third person was part of the relationship all along. That is part of the deep destruction cheating creates; the cheated-on spouse has lived, maybe for years or decades, believing that choices were made and memories forged and kids raised, as a team of two. When that wasn't real. The cheater can compartmentalize it as "It was just sex!" but the cheated-on spouse's day to day life is actually a lie. That's why the AP's DH should know. It will hurt him but at least he'll get back real agency over his own life and choices.