To my husband’s work AP

[Anonymous]

You sound unhinged and likely why he cheated on you.

Go live your best life. Get divorced or don’t. But keep quiet and don’t blab about an affair.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is AP pregnant? Her spouse should know then.

She's pregnant but apparently it's her husbands, not OPs dh.

They did a fetal paternity test? No hanky panky for a month? Or how apparently?

*shrug* ask OP. I still doubt the married hot 20-something is f***ing and/or pregnant by OPs old ass DH.

Some of you on this thread really have zero idea how a man in his 50s might be attractive to a woman in her 20s and you love making assumptions about what he looks like as well as assuming she's so "hot" she'd never have sex with someone older. You're actually pretty naive as well as prone to stereotyping. And you ignore the fact there might be some power dynamics at play here between them. You can only imagine that 20s equals hot and 50s equals "old ass" and unable to get it up.

lol ok creeper. Look, in my 20s I was hot and had daddy issues so I liked older men. But I wasn't attracted to men over 35. I certainly wasn’t going to have sex with a married man in his 50s who wasn’t wealthier and more powerful than me. Some sexist PPs refer to OP’s DH as the AP’s boss. OP said they are business PARTNERS. As in peers/equals.

I’m 40 now and still don’t find men in their 50s physically attractive. Not even actors. They may be attractive due to charisma, power, and wealth, but even George Clooney was much better looking at 30 than 50.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm assuming you don't have kids if you're proposing going so public it ruins his career. I've been in your shoes, but had kids so chose to keep things private and divorce quietly. I don't want to ruin his career as that has financial consequences for the family, nor does making my children choose sides. You can be a good dad and a crappy unfaithful husband.

OP: Ruining his career isn’t my intention. His business is set up in such a way that this will end it. The two of them are key players in a small business.

How does that happen? I can’t think of a business where its existence depends on two key people not having sex.

OP: I’m not really willing to fully disclose the business field or why it will cause an implosion because I think AP is on this thread. It’s one reason I started searching a little bit more diligently. There were responses to previous threads that just had a little too much information or seemed like they knew the situation a little too well.

still reading through. so you just gave a heads up so they can make an excuse at work? and delete?.

if it is a small business where they are the key "man" who would care?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm assuming you don't have kids if you're proposing going so public it ruins his career. I've been in your shoes, but had kids so chose to keep things private and divorce quietly. I don't want to ruin his career as that has financial consequences for the family, nor does making my children choose sides. You can be a good dad and a crappy unfaithful husband.

OP: Ruining his career isn’t my intention. His business is set up in such a way that this will end it. The two of them are key players in a small business.

How does that happen? I can’t think of a business where its existence depends on two key people not having sex.

OP: I’m not really willing to fully disclose the business field or why it will cause an implosion because I think AP is on this thread. It’s one reason I started searching a little bit more diligently. There were responses to previous threads that just had a little too much information or seemed like they knew the situation a little too well.

still reading through. so you just gave a heads up so they can make an excuse at work? and delete?.

if it is a small business where they are the key "man" who would care?

Yeah... the math ain't mathing with this one.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think the other woman’s husband has every right to know so he can protect his health and make an informed decision about his own marriage

I agree. It’s OP’s glee at the thought of bringing this pain that is disturbing.

Get off your moral high horse. This woman has ruined OP's life. OP has every right to want to see karma kick her in the rear.

Then go kick the AP. Have at it and good luck.

But OP should have more sympathy for the other collateral damage this affair has caused and will cause, not be glad she can hurt another innocent party.

Stop trying to protect cheaters and keep their partners in the dark. Your dirty little secrets are coming out whether you like it or not.

Good lord, you sound absolutely exhausting and unhinged.

It's easy to recognize every one of your posts, based on your signature blend of obsession, projection, and an inability to grasp even the most basic of points.
It's unmistakable.

The message you quoted was a simple one to grasp, you simpleton: it was that the OP should stop salivating at the thought of hurting another innocent bystander — the AP’s husband.

Maybe the OP should try summoning a shred of empathy for what he's about to endure... considering what SHE'S been going through. 🤨

Sorry I don't have compassion for cheaters like yourself.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is AP pregnant? Her spouse should know then.

She's pregnant but apparently it's her husbands, not OPs dh.

They did a fetal paternity test? No hanky panky for a month? Or how apparently?

*shrug* ask OP. I still doubt the married hot 20-something is f***ing and/or pregnant by OPs old ass DH.

Some of you on this thread really have zero idea how a man in his 50s might be attractive to a woman in her 20s and you love making assumptions about what he looks like as well as assuming she's so "hot" she'd never have sex with someone older. You're actually pretty naive as well as prone to stereotyping. And you ignore the fact there might be some power dynamics at play here between them. You can only imagine that 20s equals hot and 50s equals "old ass" and unable to get it up.

lol ok creeper. Look, in my 20s I was hot and had daddy issues so I liked older men. But I wasn't attracted to men over 35. I certainly wasn’t going to have sex with a married man in his 50s who wasn’t wealthier and more powerful than me. Some sexist PPs refer to OP’s DH as the AP’s boss. OP said they are business PARTNERS. As in peers/equals.

I’m 40 now and still don’t find men in their 50s physically attractive. Not even actors. They may be attractive due to charisma, power, and wealth, but even George Clooney was much better looking at 30 than 50.

His bank account is much more attractive at 50....just sayin'

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He probably already knows.

OP: I doubt it based on what I can gather. Even still, I’m happy to help him confirm if he is suspicious.

Why don't you focus on you and your marriage? Your husband made the choice to cheat on you - that is your business.

she got fat. she knows what is going on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You two work together. You should know after all these years that he’s sloppy and can be less than thorough when he’s distracted.

I found evidence of your affair from your recent work trip and dug deeper to find screenshots and other useful material. It really wasn’t even that hard. You chose to gamble your future on a fool who doesn’t cover his tracks. Like I said, after the myriad of hours you spend talking and the years you’ve worked together, you should know how he is.

I’m going to share these with your husband. I don’t know when yet. I’m sitting on it and deciding. Your home situation is delicate right now, and I know this is the last thing you need. I’m going to enjoy it. Your poor husband. He has no idea. He seems like a nice man too.

Hope it was worth it. Good luck.

To my work AP's wife. Bring it. Been dying for him to finally be done with you.

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Anonymous wrote:I think the other woman’s husband has every right to know so he can protect his health and make an informed decision about his own marriage

I agree. It’s OP’s glee at the thought of bringing this pain that is disturbing.

Get off your moral high horse. This woman has ruined OP's life. OP has every right to want to see karma kick her in the rear.

Then go kick the AP. Have at it and good luck.

But OP should have more sympathy for the other collateral damage this affair has caused and will cause, not be glad she can hurt another innocent party.

Stop trying to protect cheaters and keep their partners in the dark. Your dirty little secrets are coming out whether you like it or not.

Good lord, you sound absolutely exhausting and unhinged.

It's easy to recognize every one of your posts, based on your signature blend of obsession, projection, and an inability to grasp even the most basic of points.
It's unmistakable.

The message you quoted was a simple one to grasp, you simpleton: it was that the OP should stop salivating at the thought of hurting another innocent bystander — the AP’s husband.

Maybe the OP should try summoning a shred of empathy for what he's about to endure... considering what SHE'S been going through. 🤨

Sorry I don't have compassion for cheaters like yourself.

Again, unhinged and projecting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He probably already knows.

OP: I doubt it based on what I can gather. Even still, I’m happy to help him confirm if he is suspicious.

Why don't you focus on you and your marriage? Your husband made the choice to cheat on you - that is your business.

she got fat. she knows what is going on.

Some of you are just wild. I am glad this is an anonymous forum because some of you are so sh***w AF. I am sure this bouffon saying this is one bizarre dude on real life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You two work together. You should know after all these years that he’s sloppy and can be less than thorough when he’s distracted.

I found evidence of your affair from your recent work trip and dug deeper to find screenshots and other useful material. It really wasn’t even that hard. You chose to gamble your future on a fool who doesn’t cover his tracks. Like I said, after the myriad of hours you spend talking and the years you’ve worked together, you should know how he is.

I’m going to share these with your husband. I don’t know when yet. I’m sitting on it and deciding. Your home situation is delicate right now, and I know this is the last thing you need. I’m going to enjoy it. Your poor husband. He has no idea. He seems like a nice man too.

Hope it was worth it. Good luck.

To my work AP's wife. Bring it. Been dying for him to finally be done with you.

I’m sure his next side piece will eventually feel the same way about you.

[Anonymous]

Don't have any sympathy for the husband or the AP, but this seems unhealthy. Pull the trigger and move on with your life.

[Anonymous]

OP, update?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is AP pregnant? Her spouse should know then.

She's pregnant but apparently it's her husbands, not OPs dh.

They did a fetal paternity test? No hanky panky for a month? Or how apparently?

*shrug* ask OP. I still doubt the married hot 20-something is f***ing and/or pregnant by OPs old ass DH.

Some of you on this thread really have zero idea how a man in his 50s might be attractive to a woman in her 20s and you love making assumptions about what he looks like as well as assuming she's so "hot" she'd never have sex with someone older. You're actually pretty naive as well as prone to stereotyping. And you ignore the fact there might be some power dynamics at play here between them. You can only imagine that 20s equals hot and 50s equals "old ass" and unable to get it up.

lol ok creeper. Look, in my 20s I was hot and had daddy issues so I liked older men. But I wasn't attracted to men over 35. I certainly wasn’t going to have sex with a married man in his 50s who wasn’t wealthier and more powerful than me. Some sexist PPs refer to OP’s DH as the AP’s boss. OP said they are business PARTNERS. As in peers/equals.

I’m 40 now and still don’t find men in their 50s physically attractive. Not even actors. They may be attractive due to charisma, power, and wealth, but even George Clooney was much better looking at 30 than 50.

His bank account is much more attractive at 50....just sayin'

That's the point a lot of men aren't getting. They want to put down women in their 40s and 50s, but think younger women want them for their beer guts in their 40s and 50s. What would be the point of a woman in her 20s or 30s being with a guy in his 40s or 50s unless he was financially well-off? Potentially having babies with health issues, is not enough incentive if the financial means to care for them, is not there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the other woman’s husband has every right to know so he can protect his health and make an informed decision about his own marriage

I agree. It’s OP’s glee at the thought of bringing this pain that is disturbing.

Get off your moral high horse. This woman has ruined OP's life. OP has every right to want to see karma kick her in the rear.

Then go kick the AP. Have at it and good luck.

But OP should have more sympathy for the other collateral damage this affair has caused and will cause, not be glad she can hurt another innocent party.

Stop trying to protect cheaters and keep their partners in the dark. Your dirty little secrets are coming out whether you like it or not.

Good lord, you sound absolutely exhausting and unhinged.

It's easy to recognize every one of your posts, based on your signature blend of obsession, projection, and an inability to grasp even the most basic of points.
It's unmistakable.

The message you quoted was a simple one to grasp, you simpleton: it was that the OP should stop salivating at the thought of hurting another innocent bystander — the AP’s husband.

Maybe the OP should try summoning a shred of empathy for what he's about to endure... considering what SHE'S been going through. 🤨

Sorry I don't have compassion for cheaters like yourself.

Again, unhinged and projecting.

I'm not that person, but there's no way you're not some cheater yourself with this response. Even among cheaters, there are absolute jerks who are unrepentant and twist the knife (which is the type you clearly are) and those who at least actually feel horrible about what they've done...which is the normal response to hurting the people who love you.