To my husband’s work AP

[Anonymous]

You two work together. You should know after all these years that he’s sloppy and can be less than thorough when he’s distracted.

I found evidence of your affair from your recent work trip and dug deeper to find screenshots and other useful material. It really wasn’t even that hard. You chose to gamble your future on a fool who doesn’t cover his tracks. Like I said, after the myriad of hours you spend talking and the years you’ve worked together, you should know how he is.

I’m going to share these with your husband. I don’t know when yet. I’m sitting on it and deciding. Your home situation is delicate right now, and I know this is the last thing you need. I’m going to enjoy it. Your poor husband. He has no idea. He seems like a nice man too.

Hope it was worth it. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

He probably already knows.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He probably already knows.

OP: I doubt it based on what I can gather. Even still, I’m happy to help him confirm if he is suspicious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He probably already knows.

OP: I doubt it based on what I can gather. Even still, I’m happy to help him confirm if he is suspicious.

Why don't you focus on you and your marriage? Your husband made the choice to cheat on you - that is your business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You two work together. You should know after all these years that he’s sloppy and can be less than thorough when he’s distracted.

I found evidence of your affair from your recent work trip and dug deeper to find screenshots and other useful material. It really wasn’t even that hard. You chose to gamble your future on a fool who doesn’t cover his tracks. Like I said, after the myriad of hours you spend talking and the years you’ve worked together, you should know how he is.

I’m going to share these with your husband. I don’t know when yet. I’m sitting on it and deciding. Your home situation is delicate right now, and I know this is the last thing you need. I’m going to enjoy it. Your poor husband. He has no idea. He seems like a nice man too.

Hope it was worth it. Good luck.

Why on Earth would you post this shit here? No one cares, lady.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He probably already knows.

OP: I doubt it based on what I can gather. Even still, I’m happy to help him confirm if he is suspicious.

Why don't you focus on you and your marriage? Your husband made the choice to cheat on you - that is your business.

AP is scared.

[Anonymous]

Good for you OP. Actions have consequences. let her burn. Make sure you burn your husband also though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You two work together. You should know after all these years that he’s sloppy and can be less than thorough when he’s distracted.

I found evidence of your affair from your recent work trip and dug deeper to find screenshots and other useful material. It really wasn’t even that hard. You chose to gamble your future on a fool who doesn’t cover his tracks. Like I said, after the myriad of hours you spend talking and the years you’ve worked together, you should know how he is.

I’m going to share these with your husband. I don’t know when yet. I’m sitting on it and deciding. Your home situation is delicate right now, and I know this is the last thing you need. I’m going to enjoy it. Your poor husband. He has no idea. He seems like a nice man too.

Hope it was worth it. Good luck.

Why on Earth would you post this shit here? No one cares, lady.

I do! Sorry, OP! Get them!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You two work together. You should know after all these years that he’s sloppy and can be less than thorough when he’s distracted.

I found evidence of your affair from your recent work trip and dug deeper to find screenshots and other useful material. It really wasn’t even that hard. You chose to gamble your future on a fool who doesn’t cover his tracks. Like I said, after the myriad of hours you spend talking and the years you’ve worked together, you should know how he is.

I’m going to share these with your husband. I don’t know when yet. I’m sitting on it and deciding. Your home situation is delicate right now, and I know this is the last thing you need. I’m going to enjoy it. Your poor husband. He has no idea. He seems like a nice man too.

Hope it was worth it. Good luck.

Why on Earth would you post this shit here? No one cares, lady.

It’s an anonymous relationship forum. Do you expect philosophical discussions and debates?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good for you OP. Actions have consequences. let her burn. Make sure you burn your husband also though.

OP: Oh, he will. This is going to destroy his career.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He probably already knows.

OP: I doubt it based on what I can gather. Even still, I’m happy to help him confirm if he is suspicious.

NP. Be sure, OP, to get tested for STIs right away, for the sake of your health and your future after you end things with your fool husband. You cannot know who else your DH has screwed or whether this AP brought infections to the affair. I get that you're relishing the upcoming vengeance right now (and I do not blame you one bit) but please take a pause to do the pragmatic thing and get an STI test. You'll want another one, in however many months the doctor recommends, because two tests are a way to catch anything which is slow to show up. STIs are rocketing up at this time and no one should assume they're immune, or that their AP hasn't given them anything.

Meanwhile, gather all the financial and business information you need to be prepared so you can drop the bomb on the AP and your DH, and ask for a divorce the same day. I'd wait until I had consulted an attorney and gotten all the financial ducks in a row. Be sure DH can't clear out any joint accounts suddenly when you tell him what you know. And I'd never have sex with DH again, of course, even while hiding the fact I knew about his AP. I'd be oh so conveniently having "a woman problem down there" to avoid sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You two work together. You should know after all these years that he’s sloppy and can be less than thorough when he’s distracted.

I found evidence of your affair from your recent work trip and dug deeper to find screenshots and other useful material. It really wasn’t even that hard. You chose to gamble your future on a fool who doesn’t cover his tracks. Like I said, after the myriad of hours you spend talking and the years you’ve worked together, you should know how he is.

I’m going to share these with your husband. I don’t know when yet. I’m sitting on it and deciding. Your home situation is delicate right now, and I know this is the last thing you need. I’m going to enjoy it. Your poor husband. He has no idea. He seems like a nice man too.

Hope it was worth it. Good luck.

Have you suspected for a while, OP? What made you check?

[Anonymous]

I'm assuming you don't have kids if you're proposing going so public it ruins his career. I've been in your shoes, but had kids so chose to keep things private and divorce quietly. I don't want to ruin his career as that has financial consequences for the family, nor does making my children choose sides. You can be a good dad and a crappy unfaithful husband.

[Anonymous]

What field? I’d be surprised if garden variety infidelity destroys a man’s career so don’t get your hopes up.

[Anonymous]

Your DH probably seems like a “nice person” too.