Do all schools play favorites with big donor kids?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My family was top 5 donor to our private during our time there (including a 7-figure gift) and our kids were treated like absolute garbage. Fact is, teachers don't know or care who the donors are.

I call bs. Who gives more than $1M to a school that treats their kids like garbage? Who even stays at a school that treats their kids like garbage? Mistreated kids = meeting w HOS and new school at earliest opportunity.

People don't donate as much as you think they do. Take a look at a school's annual report for normal donation levels.

Sure, but I was responding to a pp who claimed they were a top 5 donor whose contributions “included a 7-figure gift,” meaning they donated more than $1 million and yet described their kids as being “treated like absolute garbage.” If that was in fact the case, stop throwing money and a school that treats your kids horribly and find a new school.

[Anonymous]

How big is a big donor?
A million dollars is not considered a big donor. If your kid cheat, you will still get an F. If your kid steals, you will get expelled.

But 10 million and above donation may be another story. They will pay some attention to the kid to avoid those awkward situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How big is a big donor?
A million dollars is not considered a big donor. If your kid cheat, you will still get an F. If your kid steals, you will get expelled.

But 10 million and above donation may be another story. They will pay some attention to the kid to avoid those awkward situation.

This is false.

At some independent schools, kids of big donors aren't going to get special treatment, no matter how much money the family gives. But if it's a school where the kids of big donors are treated differently, a seven-figure gift is absolutely going to do it. There's no school where a seven figure donor is not considered a big donor. At least in DC.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How big is a big donor?
A million dollars is not considered a big donor. If your kid cheat, you will still get an F. If your kid steals, you will get expelled.

But 10 million and above donation may be another story. They will pay some attention to the kid to avoid those awkward situation.

This is false.

At some independent schools, kids of big donors aren't going to get special treatment, no matter how much money the family gives. But if it's a school where the kids of big donors are treated differently, a seven-figure gift is absolutely going to do it. There's no school where a seven figure donor is not considered a big donor. At least in DC.

In NYC, seven figure only buys a ticket to enroll, nothing more. At some competitive schools, it can’t even buy the ticket.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How big is a big donor?
A million dollars is not considered a big donor. If your kid cheat, you will still get an F. If your kid steals, you will get expelled.

But 10 million and above donation may be another story. They will pay some attention to the kid to avoid those awkward situation.

This is false.

At some independent schools, kids of big donors aren't going to get special treatment, no matter how much money the family gives. But if it's a school where the kids of big donors are treated differently, a seven-figure gift is absolutely going to do it. There's no school where a seven figure donor is not considered a big donor. At least in DC.

In NYC, seven figure only buys a ticket to enroll, nothing more. At some competitive schools, it can’t even buy the ticket.

Did you see where the post said "at least in DC"?

Your statements about NYC are also false and/or misleading. But I don't want to distract from the discussion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes 100%

Yes!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How big is a big donor?
A million dollars is not considered a big donor. If your kid cheat, you will still get an F. If your kid steals, you will get expelled.

But 10 million and above donation may be another story. They will pay some attention to the kid to avoid those awkward situation.

This is false.

At some independent schools, kids of big donors aren't going to get special treatment, no matter how much money the family gives. But if it's a school where the kids of big donors are treated differently, a seven-figure gift is absolutely going to do it. There's no school where a seven figure donor is not considered a big donor. At least in DC.

In NYC, seven figure only buys a ticket to enroll, nothing more. At some competitive schools, it can’t even buy the ticket.

Did you see where the post said "at least in DC"?

Your statements about NYC are also false and/or misleading. But I don't want to distract from the discussion.

This is not a productive discussion. You kept saying that everything others mentioned is false. That you are a know-it-all. DC or NYC. Do you have any evidence backing up your statements?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How big is a big donor?
A million dollars is not considered a big donor. If your kid cheat, you will still get an F. If your kid steals, you will get expelled.

But 10 million and above donation may be another story. They will pay some attention to the kid to avoid those awkward situation.

This is false.

At some independent schools, kids of big donors aren't going to get special treatment, no matter how much money the family gives. But if it's a school where the kids of big donors are treated differently, a seven-figure gift is absolutely going to do it. There's no school where a seven figure donor is not considered a big donor. At least in DC.

In NYC, seven figure only buys a ticket to enroll, nothing more. At some competitive schools, it can’t even buy the ticket.

Did you see where the post said "at least in DC"?

Your statements about NYC are also false and/or misleading. But I don't want to distract from the discussion.

This is not a productive discussion. You kept saying that everything others mentioned is false. That you are a know-it-all. DC or NYC. Do you have any evidence backing up your statements?

What statements do you think I have made? I never commented on this thread before I responded to the post claiming that a seven figure donor is not going to be considered a big donor, but an eight figure donor may be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes 100%

True.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How big is a big donor?
A million dollars is not considered a big donor. If your kid cheat, you will still get an F. If your kid steals, you will get expelled.

But 10 million and above donation may be another story. They will pay some attention to the kid to avoid those awkward situation.

This is false.

At some independent schools, kids of big donors aren't going to get special treatment, no matter how much money the family gives. But if it's a school where the kids of big donors are treated differently, a seven-figure gift is absolutely going to do it. There's no school where a seven figure donor is not considered a big donor. At least in DC.

In NYC, seven figure only buys a ticket to enroll, nothing more. At some competitive schools, it can’t even buy the ticket.

Did you see where the post said "at least in DC"?

Your statements about NYC are also false and/or misleading. But I don't want to distract from the discussion.

This is not a productive discussion. You kept saying that everything others mentioned is false. That you are a know-it-all. DC or NYC. Do you have any evidence backing up your statements?

What statements do you think I have made? I never commented on this thread before I responded to the post claiming that a seven figure donor is not going to be considered a big donor, but an eight figure donor may be.

Not PP. One million does nothing in Manhattan. Period.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How big is a big donor?
A million dollars is not considered a big donor. If your kid cheat, you will still get an F. If your kid steals, you will get expelled.

But 10 million and above donation may be another story. They will pay some attention to the kid to avoid those awkward situation.

This is false.

At some independent schools, kids of big donors aren't going to get special treatment, no matter how much money the family gives. But if it's a school where the kids of big donors are treated differently, a seven-figure gift is absolutely going to do it. There's no school where a seven figure donor is not considered a big donor. At least in DC.

In NYC, seven figure only buys a ticket to enroll, nothing more. At some competitive schools, it can’t even buy the ticket.

Did you see where the post said "at least in DC"?

Your statements about NYC are also false and/or misleading. But I don't want to distract from the discussion.

This is not a productive discussion. You kept saying that everything others mentioned is false. That you are a know-it-all. DC or NYC. Do you have any evidence backing up your statements?

What statements do you think I have made? I never commented on this thread before I responded to the post claiming that a seven figure donor is not going to be considered a big donor, but an eight figure donor may be.

Not PP. One million does nothing in Manhattan. Period.

I could be a billionaire and I’m still not giving a million to a school that “treats my kids like absolute garbage.” I don’t think donor kids should get special treatment but I do think simply paying tuition means a kid shouldn’t be “garbage.” Why would someone keep giving more money to that school? And even if someone else might consider that same treatment fair, it’s your kid and your money, so if by your definition the treatment is bad, stop giving them your money. Baffling.

[Anonymous]

Teacher here.

One parent asked for parent teacher conferences monthly and asked for more flexibility in grading.

They kept saying "after all we do for the school" but I could not tell if that meant that they wrote checks or coached.

They just seemed entitled. I was under very little pressure to bend.

The admin may know, but teachers probably don't.

[Anonymous]

I was class captain for my kid’s school’s major fundraising effort last year. You’d be surprised. Most people give a pretty small amount, just so we stop bothering them.

If you give above a few thousand dollars, you’ll be invited to special donor events. Just to give some perspective.

A 7-figure gift would be exceptionally unusual in this area.

[Anonymous]

We happily give a few thousand plus each year. Get all the invites but never go. No visible favoritism for our kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is the Pope Catholic? Is water wet?

Like the classic popes, the school sells indulgences.