We have multiple people on this thread whose teenagers were excluded. The majority of children aren’t 3. |
I’m 44 and remember going to several weddings. However they were down-home church weddings with casual receptions. I think that as the cost of catering and food went up the less children are invited. And now you have parents who don’t parent and feral kids. However it’s rude and selfish of the bride and groom to not invite the flower girls from up thread. That is not normal and the PP should decline for her kids to be used as instagram props for a bridezilla. |
I’ve never understood no kids at weddings, especially the weddings where kids are included in the wedding party but then no one else can bring kids (or the pp whose kids aren’t invited to the ceremony! WTF!). Just don’t get it. |
Do you mean “you’re”? |
+1. As a child I went to all of my relatives’ weddings and many family friend weddings. Kids were all over the place . I would say they were fairly normal weddings but not super formal or expensive. My own kids have never been to a wedding, but we just haven’t been able to travel to the few weddings that we were invited to. |
You had to work in the gifted/TJ part, didn’t you? |
Yikes. |
Tell them that flower girls services are 10,000 a piece. Or an invitation to it all. |
The kids who are in the wedding should absolutely be invited to the reception!
My adult dd had a no-kids wedding (she and dh are young adults and their friend group doesn't really have kids yet) but had my youngest dd flower girl (her full sister), the co flower girl and the ring bearer at the reception. She never considered not having them. I did actually have kids at my own wedding and liked that, but I can see how it's not for everyone. I also didn't have a problem declining an invitation that was no kids, if I could not figure out a good way to do it. |
It's cultural. I've only been to one wedding that included kids and didn't attend a wedding myself until my 20s when friends started getting married. I have kids bur greatly prefer child free weddings. |
Noise. disruption. ruined videos. My sister married into the Mormon faith and was tired of events being ruined by screaming children so her invite said "no children undef 12 please". It was a gorgeous weddkng with lovely country club dinner after. |
Charming. Crashing into adult legs while playing tag under the tables and being obnoxious running around. This is why people don't want kids at their receptions. And the type of people who desperately want their kids there are the least likely to adequately supervise. They are just too cheap and too enmeshed to hire sitters. The bride and groom know exactly what they are doing planning for these child free weddings, they expect certain people to decline, it's all part of the headcount plan. |
Many of the weddings I’ve been to have included *some* kids - usually +/- 5 nieces/nephews but not kids of friends or cousins. I feel like this is a reasonable compromise. |
Divide. You and DH go separately. |
Most parents won’t leave 15 year olds home overnight. |