Are boys supposed to pay for everything?

[Anonymous]

Women talk - not saying it’s right but girls with choices do not want to split the bills constantly. My daughter dated a guy that took her up on her generosity a few too many times (he venmoed her constantly, even for Valentines because she offered) and her friends went nuts - told her she could do so much better- she dumped him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son who is 20 pays for everything for his same age girlfriend. Both are in college. They eat at expensive places he can’t afford. He chauffeurs her around because she has no car. She doesn’t visit him at his dorm but he goes to her apartment to visit or get her where parking is very expensive. I am really deeply bothered by it but I keep my mouth shut because nothing good will come of me expressing my opinion. I love that he is generous and she has a lot of good qualities that make her a great GF but it’s over the top. I’m not saying he shouldn’t take her out but can’t she ever offer to at least cover herself? He works hard all summer at his internship and has nothing by the end of the school year. He never spends anything on himself. I have no idea how he will save to move out after college at this rate.

She is looking to end up a SHW/SAHM. This is just training for the end goal.

[Anonymous]

I work service job and I can tell you that women work a lot harder than men do. Men only bother with customers while women do all the side work that should be everyone's job. Men also eat more and longer. They disappear somewhere leaving their customer to others- to smoke, be on the phone, or bathroom.
So, all in all, they work about 30% less but make the same money if not more.
If they both make $2k a month, he has $600 to spend on her he didn't even deserve based on the effort he put in. Not saying he should spend it all, but at least share the money that he didn't work for.

[Anonymous]

not anymore they don't even open doors for girls anymore..

[Anonymous]

I certainly don't want my son to pay, it sounds like for s**. I paid my share when I was dating as I was dating equivalently educated men with similar jobs, and coming from a 3rd world country find it strange that women here want handouts. You work, you pay. You don't work, well, get doing something with your life, women have options now, as you here everywhere now better than men.

[Anonymous]

*hear

[Anonymous]

DS pays for dates, but he's not dating seriously atm(college.) DD is dating a young man who pays for the meals and she carries cash for tips/pays for other kinds of dates.

[Anonymous]

My contribution at that age was planning them, sometimes I'd offer to pay...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, it’s not the norm.

It doesn't seem to be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I work service job and I can tell you that women work a lot harder than men do. Men only bother with customers while women do all the side work that should be everyone's job. Men also eat more and longer. They disappear somewhere leaving their customer to others- to smoke, be on the phone, or bathroom.
So, all in all, they work about 30% less but make the same money if not more.
If they both make $2k a month, he has $600 to spend on her he didn't even deserve based on the effort he put in. Not saying he should spend it all, but at least share the money that he didn't work for.

You sound crazy. Do you say this people?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am sort of out of touch maybe, but I feel when you're dating in college or in your twenties you split the expenses, may not always. DS 21 in college says he has to pay every time taking GF out also in college, for everything. They both do service jobs and internships. He says that's how it is and if you don't then you're considered a bad guy, says all his friends do too. What's the norm these days.

I always started splitting dinners or outings after date 4 or so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He should pay but she should also be suggesting free or low cost things to do and places to eat. She should always be appreciative no matter the cost. If she’s constantly wanting a lobster dinner and gets mad if he suggests ramen noodles then she’s a moocher and he needs to drop her.

He should not pay. This is sexist garbage. They should go out as friends and split the costs. Assuming the one with the penis has to pay is backwards. These attitudes need to die.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He should pay but she should also be suggesting free or low cost things to do and places to eat. She should always be appreciative no matter the cost. If she’s constantly wanting a lobster dinner and gets mad if he suggests ramen noodles then she’s a moocher and he needs to drop her.

What no!

He should not pay all the time.

GF can contribute.

This is absurd.

She can contribute by buying groceries and cooking him dinner several nights a week.

More sexist bull shite. Her money is the same as his. They both probably have the same ability to cook. Are we in fing 1950? Really, what the hell.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you raised a gentleman OP, you should be proud!

There is nothing gentlemanly about this. This message it sends is pathetic.

[Anonymous]

I dated from 20-33 and paid every date unless GF taking me out birthday.

Some girls were just dates. I can’t imagine a girl on third date buying new outfit, getting nails done we go to dinner and have sex and while dropping her off I request her to pay for her food.

Equally me saying to a girl I am thinking of marrying I know once married it is all joint money anyhow but just to hedge my bets if I dump you can you pay for dinner.

When girls did offer to split bill first or second date was clear signal this is over, no kiss no good night I am running out of here.

Now when girls did pay I still offered to pay.

And I can’t imagine a multi couple date where you split bills and you force your date to be only girl splitting bills.

Also how does a man go big or go home on a split bill?

I took my wife on our first date to a very fancy expensive oceanfront restaurant at sunset in my Mercedes convertible. After fact she said she was a bit surprised by move she told me later but she bought new clothes had nails done and we went.

So am I supposed to then ask her to pay half. For what purpose.

Dropped her off, quick kiss did not ask to go inside. Make it clear the meal is just me showing intentions.

How does a man do that by saying let’s meet Starbucks we each pay first date.

Also what quality girls do that?

Men go on less dates and when you get the winner open the wallet.

Women losers looking for a cheap lap wavy you to split the bill at Burger King