Are boys supposed to pay for everything?
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Anonymous
| I am sort of out of touch maybe, but I feel when you're dating in college or in your twenties you split the expenses, may not always. DS 21 in college says he has to pay every time taking GF out also in college, for everything. They both do service jobs and internships. He says that's how it is and if you don't then you're considered a bad guy, says all his friends do too. What's the norm these days. |
Anonymous
| Well, guys end up earning more and spend less on clothes and dry cleaning and hair cuts. So it works out in the end. |
Anonymous
| Hasn't that always been the norm? |
Anonymous
| No, it’s not the norm. |
Anonymous
| He should pay but she should also be suggesting free or low cost things to do and places to eat. She should always be appreciative no matter the cost. If she’s constantly wanting a lobster dinner and gets mad if he suggests ramen noodles then she’s a moocher and he needs to drop her. |
Anonymous
| I would hope so. |
Anonymous
OP here. That's not the case. She's not demanding. |
Anonymous
| This is how it was when I was in college in the mid 2000s. Just for a historical perspective. |
Anonymous
No it is not. |
Anonymous
What no! He should not pay all the time. GF can contribute. This is absurd. |
Anonymous
No there is no reason why GF can not pay for things as well. |
Anonymous
She can contribute by buying groceries and cooking him dinner several nights a week. |
Anonymous
| I’ve got sons (and a daughter). IME there is no expectation when it comes to payment. |
Anonymous
|
JFC it is 2024
If your DS or DD are dating yes the female pays as well. Anyone who thinks otherwise is ridiculous |
Anonymous
| Sounds like you raised a gentleman OP, you should be proud! |