"Don't Text Me So Early!"

[Anonymous]

Learn and use your phone settings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have to keep other people's life circumstances in mind. Think about people with teens who might be out late at night, want to go to sleep but still hear their phones in case of emergency. Or an elderly parent who may need to contact them in an emergency. These are the reasons I don't completely silence my phone. So I agree, do not text people in off hours. It's no differen than calling them, which you wouldn't do.

Not really. What you are really saying is people have to out think those that are too dumb to know how to use their phone. There are simple settings that allow any call or text to come through even when a phone is silenced or on do not disturb. My phone, for instance, can be set to never silence notifications from certain people. Other settings allow any number (in your contacts or not) to get through if two attempts are made back to back. The police and hospitals know this so they will always call multiple times.

Don't encumber me because you don't know how to use your own phone.

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How about controlling your impulses like an adult and wait for a decent hour? The world does not revolve around you.

Those of us with older parents who are not familiar with how to "break through" or maybe we have our teen out and want to be alerted to a strange number calling in the middle of night because of an accident. Because, ahem, it may not be the police calling. JFC.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have to keep other people's life circumstances in mind. Think about people with teens who might be out late at night, want to go to sleep but still hear their phones in case of emergency. Or an elderly parent who may need to contact them in an emergency. These are the reasons I don't completely silence my phone. So I agree, do not text people in off hours. It's no differen than calling them, which you wouldn't do.

Not really. What you are really saying is people have to out think those that are too dumb to know how to use their phone. There are simple settings that allow any call or text to come through even when a phone is silenced or on do not disturb. My phone, for instance, can be set to never silence notifications from certain people. Other settings allow any number (in your contacts or not) to get through if two attempts are made back to back. The police and hospitals know this so they will always call multiple times.

Don't encumber me because you don't know how to use your own phone.

me me me me me me me me me me me me me me me

How about controlling your impulses like an adult and wait for a decent hour? The world does not revolve around you.

Those of us with older parents who are not familiar with how to "break through" or maybe we have our teen out and want to be alerted to a strange number calling in the middle of night because of an accident. Because, ahem, it may not be the police calling. JFC.

Learn to control your teen.

[Anonymous]

Do people seriously not understand that you can silence your texts without silencing your phone ringer?

Do you think someone having an emergency is going to text you?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have to keep other people's life circumstances in mind. Think about people with teens who might be out late at night, want to go to sleep but still hear their phones in case of emergency. Or an elderly parent who may need to contact them in an emergency. These are the reasons I don't completely silence my phone. So I agree, do not text people in off hours. It's no differen than calling them, which you wouldn't do.

Not really. What you are really saying is people have to out think those that are too dumb to know how to use their phone. There are simple settings that allow any call or text to come through even when a phone is silenced or on do not disturb. My phone, for instance, can be set to never silence notifications from certain people. Other settings allow any number (in your contacts or not) to get through if two attempts are made back to back. The police and hospitals know this so they will always call multiple times.

Don't encumber me because you don't know how to use your own phone.

me me me me me me me me me me me me me me me

How about controlling your impulses like an adult and wait for a decent hour? The world does not revolve around you.

Those of us with older parents who are not familiar with how to "break through" or maybe we have our teen out and want to be alerted to a strange number calling in the middle of night because of an accident. Because, ahem, it may not be the police calling. JFC.

How about controlling your phone like an adult?

[Anonymous]

I wish there were a way to set a time for texts to be delivered. Would solve all the problems for everyone on both ends. You can write your text when you want and make sure recipient receives it later (when you text those who are unable/unwilling to set their phone notifications properly).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I work 7p-7a. I realize I'm the odd one out so keep my texts 8a-9p. She could have handled this better, but you really shouldn't text so early, especially for family members who probably have your numbers on the list of contacts to go around the DND

Who keeps their SIL as a break through emergency contact?

NP. I do. She lives close to my elderly ILs. DH and I would want to know if anything is going on, and she’d likely text both of us if something were happening. Yes, she would call if one of them died, but she’d probably text if it was, like, “We just arrived at the ER because FIL was having chest pains; they’re doing his initial checks now. Will update soon.”

This SIL is married to her brother. She'd want to know if something happened to him. Think about this from her perspective. She was probably jolted out of bed thinking there was an emergency. Now she can't go back to sleep due to adrenaline and might have been woken up at at bad part of the sleep cycle that will affect her whole day. That's what she was reacting to.

Plus it was rude to text her about a non-emergency that early. Her only potential rudeness was not saying please, but setting the boundary itself was not rude.

If so, she needs therapy for her panic disorder.

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous]Thats what my SIL responded with when I sent a note inquiring about her availability for my DS's HS graduation party. I sent it at 6:51 AM today.

My feeling is if you don't want alerts going off, then you silence your phone or set up Do Not Disturb. It's not like I was banging on her door. She has always been snotty so this is par for the course but I also sent it to others

Just gut checking myself here- there aren't time limits for texting, right?

Isn't it up to the receipient to control their own quiet time?[/quote]

If you're up there early with nothing to do but social calls, roll over and have sex

[Anonymous]

Know your audience and proceed accordingly.

[Anonymous]

No texts before 11am on the weekends.

No texts before 9:30 during the week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have to keep other people's life circumstances in mind. Think about people with teens who might be out late at night, want to go to sleep but still hear their phones in case of emergency. Or an elderly parent who may need to contact them in an emergency. These are the reasons I don't completely silence my phone. So I agree, do not text people in off hours. It's no differen than calling them, which you wouldn't do.

Not really. What you are really saying is people have to out think those that are too dumb to know how to use their phone. There are simple settings that allow any call or text to come through even when a phone is silenced or on do not disturb. My phone, for instance, can be set to never silence notifications from certain people. Other settings allow any number (in your contacts or not) to get through if two attempts are made back to back. The police and hospitals know this so they will always call multiple times.

Don't encumber me because you don't know how to use your own phone.

Congratulations on knowing everything your phone can do. However, you are “too dumb” to understand that INR people often make phone calls from a phone that is not their own (hospital, police, borrowed phone bc theirs died, etc etc). For this reason, and having both teens and elderly parents, I do not silence my phone at night. Please don’t text me at 6am with something that can wait.

[Anonymous]

You all silence
Notifications when you have teens? I think OP is the one in the wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thats what my SIL responded with when I sent a note inquiring about her availability for my DS's HS graduation party. I sent it at 6:51 AM today.

My feeling is if you don't want alerts going off, then you silence your phone or set up Do Not Disturb. It's not like I was banging on her door. She has always been snotty so this is par for the course but I also sent it to others

Just gut checking myself here- there aren't time limits for texting, right?

Isn't it up to the receipient to control their own quiet time?

You sent it that early because you wanted her to see it right away, first thing in the morning, because you wanted an answer right away.

I don't like being on someone's mind with an obligation first thing in the morning

[Anonymous]

Satan throws graduation parties?

Huh, TIL.

[Anonymous]

I don't text between 9pm and 9am unless it is an emergency. Also silence my phone during those hours as well, unless something is going on.