"Don't Text Me So Early!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I text anytime. Do not disturb exists for a reason. I live on the West Coast. The rest of my family is on the East Coast. I turn my phone off because I get texts at all hours.

Manners and common sense exist for a reason.

You do know you are just as likely to be disturbing someone at 2pm as you are at 7 am, right? My FIL died on Saturday and I have been in meetings all day with various people. Each text is a disturbance, but the sender doesn't know. That's why DND exists.

You're not though. and you know that. You just choose to ignore it and justify your bad behavior.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So, question for all you feds/military folks on the 6am-2pm schedule.

Do you not email, call or text anything for the first two hours of your day?

If you have colleagues spread all over the country (like the military does) do you wait until it's 8 am in their time zone to contact?

This whole thing is laughable. I can't believe it's 2024 and there are people that still don't know how to use their phones.

You have said this over and over and over. Seriously. Get a life.

Ninety percent of the respondents here have said this. It's you that needs a life. And you know it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you all know how to use your iPhones?

To those of you saying you need to keep your phone on in case someone important to you calls- add them to your favorites. If they are in your favorites then they will not be silenced but all other calls/texts not in your favorites will be.

You can use the sleep function to set it for time to go to ‘sleep’ and a time to ‘wake up’ automatically. You can pick different times for different days.

Lastly, if you don’t want to add a person to your favorites they can still bypass the silence function by calling 3 times in a row. If it’s important they’ll keep calling. And people don’t text if it’s a true emergency.

PS. It will show up to the person texting you that your phone is silenced. No need to worry that anyone is expecting you to see and respond to the text.

Now welcome to 2024. Please adjust your phone settings.

OMG. This might take the cake. Umm, child, you don't set them daily. It's like an old folks home got the url to this place.

You spend entirely too much time managing your phone settings. Must be nice having so much free time.

Seriously. Who does this daily?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I text anytime. Do not disturb exists for a reason. I live on the West Coast. The rest of my family is on the East Coast. I turn my phone off because I get texts at all hours.

Manners and common sense exist for a reason.

You do know you are just as likely to be disturbing someone at 2pm as you are at 7 am, right? My FIL died on Saturday and I have been in meetings all day with various people. Each text is a disturbance, but the sender doesn't know. That's why DND exists.

You're not though. and you know that. You just choose to ignore it and justify your bad behavior.

Listen, most people who hate this won't say it to your face. Now you know that there is a significant proportion of people who find this to be annoying and imposing. When I find out something I'm doing is something that a lot of people find annoying but won't tell me, I'll stop doing it! I don't want to make other people upset! No one is forcing you to stop doing this, you just now know some people hate it do can't use ignorance as an excuse.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, it's common courtesy to not text someone super early or super late. Your train of thought does not deserve attention at all hours of day or night. People have legitimate reasons for not silencing their phones.

"Being too stupid to understand a simple piece of technology" is not a valid reason.

+100

But the flip side of that coin is that she just could have scheduled her text to send at 9. That's just as easy, and takes the burden off the recipient.

That feature does not exist.

I assure you it does, I use it all the time for exactly this reason. Long press on the "send" arrow and the scheduling menu pops up. [/quote

Nope. Doesn't exist. What a weird thing to lie about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you all know how to use your iPhones?

To those of you saying you need to keep your phone on in case someone important to you calls- add them to your favorites. If they are in your favorites then they will not be silenced but all other calls/texts not in your favorites will be.

You can use the sleep function to set it for time to go to ‘sleep’ and a time to ‘wake up’ automatically. You can pick different times for different days.

Lastly, if you don’t want to add a person to your favorites they can still bypass the silence function by calling 3 times in a row. If it’s important they’ll keep calling. And people don’t text if it’s a true emergency.

PS. It will show up to the person texting you that your phone is silenced. No need to worry that anyone is expecting you to see and respond to the text.

Now welcome to 2024. Please adjust your phone settings.

You spend entirely too much time managing your phone settings. Must be nice having so much free time.

I'm not the PP but you only have to do this once, it takes 2 minutes. You sound like a Luddite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you all know how to use your iPhones?

To those of you saying you need to keep your phone on in case someone important to you calls- add them to your favorites. If they are in your favorites then they will not be silenced but all other calls/texts not in your favorites will be.

You can use the sleep function to set it for time to go to ‘sleep’ and a time to ‘wake up’ automatically. You can pick different times for different days.

Lastly, if you don’t want to add a person to your favorites they can still bypass the silence function by calling 3 times in a row. If it’s important they’ll keep calling. And people don’t text if it’s a true emergency.

PS. It will show up to the person texting you that your phone is silenced. No need to worry that anyone is expecting you to see and respond to the text.

Now welcome to 2024. Please adjust your phone settings.

You spend entirely too much time managing your phone settings. Must be nice having so much free time.

Seriously. Who does this daily?

OMG. This might take the cake. Umm, child, you don't set them daily. It's like an old folks home got the url to this place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you all know how to use your iPhones?

To those of you saying you need to keep your phone on in case someone important to you calls- add them to your favorites. If they are in your favorites then they will not be silenced but all other calls/texts not in your favorites will be.

You can use the sleep function to set it for time to go to ‘sleep’ and a time to ‘wake up’ automatically. You can pick different times for different days.

Lastly, if you don’t want to add a person to your favorites they can still bypass the silence function by calling 3 times in a row. If it’s important they’ll keep calling. And people don’t text if it’s a true emergency.

PS. It will show up to the person texting you that your phone is silenced. No need to worry that anyone is expecting you to see and respond to the text.

Now welcome to 2024. Please adjust your phone settings.

You spend entirely too much time managing your phone settings. Must be nice having so much free time.

I don’t think people who post on DCUM let alone this thread are in a good position to act like they have don’t have free time to set up their phones.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I text anytime. Do not disturb exists for a reason. I live on the West Coast. The rest of my family is on the East Coast. I turn my phone off because I get texts at all hours.

Manners and common sense exist for a reason.

You do know you are just as likely to be disturbing someone at 2pm as you are at 7 am, right? My FIL died on Saturday and I have been in meetings all day with various people. Each text is a disturbance, but the sender doesn't know. That's why DND exists.

You're not though. and you know that. You just choose to ignore it and justify your bad behavior.

Listen, most people who hate this won't say it to your face. Now you know that there is a significant proportion of people who find this to be annoying and imposing. When I find out something I'm doing is something that a lot of people find annoying but won't tell me, I'll stop doing it! I don't want to make other people upset! No one is forcing you to stop doing this, you just now know some people hate it do can't use ignorance as an excuse.

You keep saying significant or most people are annoyed by this. You have no stats and I think most people use the settings on their phones and are not annoyed.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Thats what my SIL responded with when I sent a note inquiring about her availability for my DS's HS graduation party. I sent it at 6:51 AM today.

My feeling is if you don't want alerts going off, then you silence your phone or set up Do Not Disturb. It's not like I was banging on her door. She has always been snotty so this is par for the course but I also sent it to others

Just gut checking myself here- there aren't time limits for texting, right?

Isn't it up to the receipient to control their own quiet time?

1) I think there are time limits for texting if you care to be considerate. You don’t know if someone has silenced notifications or not so you should assume they have not and be courteous to only text between 8am-8pm.
2) yes, ideally people should silence text notifications if they don’t want to be bothered by texts. But maybe your SIL forgot to silence texts or doesn’t know how to or perhaps even just the light from her phone woke her up? Even if she has texts silenced it’s possible her phone lights up when she gets a text and that woke her? Anyway, I still think since your text wasn’t urgent, you should have waited at least til after 8 to send it.

So if OP had texted her SIL at 8 am and SIL had had the same reaction because she had been sleeping, would you then have sided with OP?

[Anonymous]

OP I can’t believe you’re still going on about this and still issuing your juvenile insults. I think you’re a troll. Obviously it’s rude to text people outside of expected hours, and most reasonable people, on hearing that their behavior is annoying, simply adjust their behavior rather than fight with people. You could benefit from some introspection. Your rudeness is not excused by the fact that some of us prefer or need to keep our notifications on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I work 7p-7a. I realize I'm the odd one out so keep my texts 8a-9p. She could have handled this better, but you really shouldn't text so early, especially for family members who probably have your numbers on the list of contacts to go around the DND

Who keeps their SIL as a break through emergency contact?

Lots of people with elderly family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I can’t believe you’re still going on about this and still issuing your juvenile insults. I think you’re a troll. Obviously it’s rude to text people outside of expected hours, and most reasonable people, on hearing that their behavior is annoying, simply adjust their behavior rather than fight with people. You could benefit from some introspection. Your rudeness is not excused by the fact that some of us prefer or need to keep our notifications on.

Not OP, but you are so clearly wrong. And you've got that whiff of old lady indignation that stinks to high heaven.

[Anonymous]

Some posters on here clearly understand that if there is a chance that our text might disturb another person in any way we are going to avoid doing that (hence text when people are most likely to be awake). The rest are tamper-throwing toddlers who demand attention RIGHT THEN AND THERE.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some posters on here clearly understand that if there is a chance that our text might disturb another person in any way we are going to avoid doing that (hence text when people are most likely to be awake). The rest are tamper-throwing toddlers who demand attention RIGHT THEN AND THERE.

This sums it up. Toddlers who can’t —or won’t—regulate themselves or control their own actions.

—someone who cannot silence texts as I get emergency texts from work, sometimes as early as 7, and sometimes from numbers I don’t already have in my phone (unsure why people are working so hard to not see this scenario).