"Don't Text Me So Early!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have to keep other people's life circumstances in mind. Think about people with teens who might be out late at night, want to go to sleep but still hear their phones in case of emergency. Or an elderly parent who may need to contact them in an emergency. These are the reasons I don't completely silence my phone. So I agree, do not text people in off hours. It's no differen than calling them, which you wouldn't do.

Not really. What you are really saying is people have to out think those that are too dumb to know how to use their phone. There are simple settings that allow any call or text to come through even when a phone is silenced or on do not disturb. My phone, for instance, can be set to never silence notifications from certain people. Other settings allow any number (in your contacts or not) to get through if two attempts are made back to back. The police and hospitals know this so they will always call multiple times.

Don't encumber me because you don't know how to use your own phone.

I have a job I get called off hours for outages and no I can’t know every number that might call me.

Don’t text before 8am … just because your ADHD and your afraid you’ll forget… don’t make your problem my problem

[Anonymous]

I’m
Usually in bed at 9 and don’t send texts like that if someone texts me after I’m in bed. I just get back to them the next morning.
Rude of SIL. However I do try and refrain from sending texts until at least 7am.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She sounds like a jerk but also do not text before 8:00 am.

+1. And by the way, OP, you may well be on her list of emergency contacts whose texts and calls go straight through! My SIL is on my “exception” to the Do Not Disturb list. If she was texting at 6:51 that her mother had fallen and FYI they were on their way to the ER, that’s an emergency and we’d want to know about it in real time. But graduation RSVPs? Get out of here.

Is this your husband’s sister? If so, leave her alone about this kind of thing and DH should be communicating with her about parties. If this is your brother’s wife, leave her alone about this kind of thing and you should be communicating with YOUR BROTHER about this kind of thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would never text someone at 8am what is the hurry font he rude.

I also don’t text past 10 pm.

Uhh, it's not rude. If you don't want to hear it, turn it off. Do you think the world revolves around you? Are you that freak from Alexandria that calls the airport 500 times a year to complain about plane noise?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have to keep other people's life circumstances in mind. Think about people with teens who might be out late at night, want to go to sleep but still hear their phones in case of emergency. Or an elderly parent who may need to contact them in an emergency. These are the reasons I don't completely silence my phone. So I agree, do not text people in off hours. It's no differen than calling them, which you wouldn't do.

I agree with this. If your sister had read your text and ignored it or forgot to RSVP later when she woke upy… You’d be here writing a different complaint on DCUM.

You are definitely free to send text when you want to, but it seems like you wanted something from your sister. Or you may want something from her in the future. It seems like she’s just letting you know (which I personally would appreciate) if you send her a text at 2 AM or 6 AM that it is early for her or she’s up and about and not in a position to check her calendar and respond to something that could wait.

Regardless of whether her phone alerted her or not, this could have waited. I have my sister in my settings/favorites so her text would come through.

[Anonymous]

I think people who don't silence their phones are at fault if they get notifications too late or too early but at the same time I try not to text people outside the courteous hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would never text someone at 8am what is the hurry font he rude.

I also don’t text past 10 pm.

Of course you don't, you're in bed by 8:45.

:lol: :lol: :lol:

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why aren’t you texting your brother?

I have a SIL but I don't have a brother. I'll let you noodle on that riddle for awhile until you get it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thats what my SIL responded with when I sent a note inquiring about her availability for my DS's HS graduation party. I sent it at 6:51 AM today.

My feeling is if you don't want alerts going off, then you silence your phone or set up Do Not Disturb. It's not like I was banging on her door. She has always been snotty so this is par for the course but I also sent it to others

Just gut checking myself here- there aren't time limits for texting, right?

Isn't it up to the receipient to control their own quiet time?

OP, you seemingly harped on your sister and defended yourself but then you’re asking for a gut check, so somewhere in here you thinking that maybe you could have done better.

I don’t think you were wrong, but when dealing with other people, it never hurts to consider what they may be going through. Yes, she could’ve changed her phone settings. She could’ve responded more politely even though I think her text was kind enough. I personally like that your sister has boundaries. You can deal with them as you wish, but this seems like a simple enough request.

[Anonymous]

I don’t text early.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She sounds like a jerk but also do not text before 8:00 am.

+1. And by the way, OP, you may well be on her list of emergency contacts whose texts and calls go straight through! My SIL is on my “exception” to the Do Not Disturb list. If she was texting at 6:51 that her mother had fallen and FYI they were on their way to the ER, that’s an emergency and we’d want to know about it in real time. But graduation RSVPs? Get out of here.

Is this your husband’s sister? If so, leave her alone about this kind of thing and DH should be communicating with her about parties. If this is your brother’s wife, leave her alone about this kind of thing and you should be communicating with YOUR BROTHER about this kind of thing.

Alllllll of this!

[Anonymous]

It's absolutely rude, heck beyond rude to text so early.

[Anonymous]

Not texts after 10 or before 9 (though she should have do not disturb on)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think people who don't silence their phones are at fault if they get notifications too late or too early but at the same time I try not to text people outside the courteous hours.

Perhaps people have college students, or kids on a trip, or are on call, or have a sick parent?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why aren’t you texting your brother?

I have a SIL but I don't have a brother. I'll let you noodle on that riddle for awhile until you get it.