Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Immediately saying you want a divorce, in the heat of an argument of mutual combat, that is as you say uncharacteristic for your otherwise peaceful marriage, is unhinged and abusive behavior in itself.
+1. OP sounds like she is using this as a pretext.
I have a friend who had a fight like this with her husband and considered it unforgivable abuse (I think she called the police!) and eventually divorced. It really doesn’t seem like it turned out that great for any of them. The divorce was very high conflict and cost tons of money. She later developed health problems that she had to navigate by herself. Neither spouse remarried. Their kid is just dealing with the consequences of divorce. Before the divorce I always felt like they were such a well matched couple and had so much in common. I wish they had been able to work it out.
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