Family Bed - How Old is Too Old?

[Anonymous]

Wonder how many of these anonymous cosleepers are actually still married or asked their husbands how they feel about the arrangement. And no, being intimate in another room is just not as comfortable (at least at our house.) Fun once in a while but...then again our guest room only has a twin.
I love snuggling with my kids and let them fall alseep in our bed sometime (like while we were away from home over Labor Day weekend.) But every night?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Parents who cosleep - aren't your kids twitchy sleepers? I always thought the idea of cosleeping sounded nice, but after the reality of constant twitching, motion, feet in my face etc. I decided it wasn't for me. We have a king bed, but DS gravitated towards me and twitched and moved all night, it was horrible, just horrible.

Try getting kicked in the face every once in a while.

But we love it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wonder how many of these anonymous cosleepers are actually still married or asked their husbands how they feel about the arrangement. And no, being intimate in another room is just not as comfortable (at least at our house.) Fun once in a while but...then again our guest room only has a twin.
I love snuggling with my kids and let them fall alseep in our bed sometime (like while we were away from home over Labor Day weekend.) But every night?

I don't think many women who co-sleep take their husbands opinion into account or give him much say. They are typically the I carried them for nine months, I birthed them...when you do that you can have an opinion. Interesting too how all women who cosleep also see intimacy as a quick shag on the floor or being thrown acorss a table. That sex in bed, snuggling, talking at night, and spontaneous moments are not part of intimacy for them. It sounds like they have little interest in their spouse, duty sex somewhere else in the house then into bed to snuggle with the kids, to be able to wake up to see the kids adorable faces, to be physically affectionate and cuddle with their kids...but not interested in any of those things with their spouse. I would imagine many of them have very passive, 'yes dear' husbands who have been told if momma ain't happy ain't nobody happy so they just go along with it as they no nothing they say will matter anyway.

And yes I know there is likely the occasional father who this was his idea and he had to convince his wife and he also likes to write about how much more he prefers to snuggle with his kids then his wife.

[Anonymous]

As soon as you and your children are ready, I slept with my grandmother till I was about 14, just because I preferred it to sleeping alone.

Nothing odd about it, when your son wants space, he'll ask for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wonder how many of these anonymous cosleepers are actually still married or asked their husbands how they feel about the arrangement. And no, being intimate in another room is just not as comfortable (at least at our house.) Fun once in a while but...then again our guest room only has a twin.
I love snuggling with my kids and let them fall alseep in our bed sometime (like while we were away from home over Labor Day weekend.) But every night?

I don't think many women who co-sleep take their husbands opinion into account or give him much say. They are typically the I carried them for nine months, I birthed them...when you do that you can have an opinion. Interesting too how all women who cosleep also see intimacy as a quick shag on the floor or being thrown acorss a table. That sex in bed, snuggling, talking at night, and spontaneous moments are not part of intimacy for them. It sounds like they have little interest in their spouse, duty sex somewhere else in the house then into bed to snuggle with the kids, to be able to wake up to see the kids adorable faces, to be physically affectionate and cuddle with their kids...but not interested in any of those things with their spouse. I would imagine many of them have very passive, 'yes dear' husbands who have been told if momma ain't happy ain't nobody happy so they just go along with it as they no nothing they say will matter anyway.

And yes I know there is likely the occasional father who this was his idea and he had to convince his wife and he also likes to write about how much more he prefers to snuggle with his kids then his wife.

Judgy McJudgmentson.

It doesn't effect you, let it go.