SIL in her 50’s doesn’t pay her rent

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Anonymous wrote:You are conflating a lot of things. Her inability to pay rent isn't your problem and doesn't have anything to do with the other issues. If she wants to spend money on a watch and not rent, that's her choice and you don't need to worry about it.

If you are hosting people at your house don't expect them to bring something. But you are totally in the right for saying you only have the beverages offered.

You aren't going to change your SIL, so you either need to change your expectations or change the circumstances (e.g., don't invite her to your house).

I don’t. But DH does. And it’s his house as well and he’s willing to put up with their (his sister’s and mother’s) bad behavior. Because according to him, they’re the only family he has.

So you hate your husband, his sister, and his mother.

Sounds like a great time!

So his own wife isn’t considered his family also?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH's tolerance for mental health issues may have been one reason he was willing to marry you, OP. Your fixation on his sister is something to raise with your psychiatrist and therapist, unmanaged OCD, perhaps? Many have unstable, deadbeat relatives but looking up court cases is usually done from a perspective of trying to help them. Your post is odd and raises concerns about you.

His mother and sister ARE his family, one you CHOSE to join. If that choice no longer works for you and you are so embittered that your husband would treat his sister to a birthday lunch, find a lawyer and file.

Then you will be left to confront the issues you are avoiding with your fixation and seeming jealously that your DH has not cut them off. Wherever you go, there you will be, OP.

And his wife is his top most important family so why is he putting his mom and sister over her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maryland court records show numerous cases against her by her former apartment from 2021-22, and then she got kicked out (which she oddly was vocal about). Now her current apartment, which she hasn’t been in long, also filed a couple of cases against her, so it’s probably only a matter of time. (However, those show that DH’s mother who doesn’t live with her is also on the lease so maybe she will pay).

I normally mind my own business and stay out of it and just watch it from a distance like the spectacle that it is. In any case, right now I’m having a hard time letting it go for a number of reasons, one of which is that I’m PMs’ing. Most recently, last time they came over (they are local), we provided all the food, desserts, drinks, etc., like we always do, while DH’s mother and sister showed up empty-handed like usual. However, when it came time for dinner, we offered numerous drink options like we also do, including red and white wine. Apparently that wasn’t suitable for DH’s sister.

She repeatedly asked for something sparkling. And then when we said we had red and white, she asked for rose. Then sparkling rose. It went on and on. Until I finally said firmly that we had red and white wine, and that’s it.

Now it’s SIL’s birthday, and like usual, DH (meaning the two of us) are treating her and MIL to lunch. Because of course, she should be rewarded for being a spoiled deadbeat.

PMS rant over. For now.

Do not invite her ever again.