SIL in her 50’s doesn’t pay her rent

[Anonymous]

Sorry just saw you’re PMSing, not pregnant. Either way I’d quit serving alcohol at family events and concentrate on my own kids and family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you have a spare room in your house in case she needs it?

Do you at your house?

[Anonymous]

DH's tolerance for mental health issues may have been one reason he was willing to marry you, OP. Your fixation on his sister is something to raise with your psychiatrist and therapist, unmanaged OCD, perhaps? Many have unstable, deadbeat relatives but looking up court cases is usually done from a perspective of trying to help them. Your post is odd and raises concerns about you.

His mother and sister ARE his family, one you CHOSE to join. If that choice no longer works for you and you are so embittered that your husband would treat his sister to a birthday lunch, find a lawyer and file.

Then you will be left to confront the issues you are avoiding with your fixation and seeming jealously that your DH has not cut them off. Wherever you go, there you will be, OP.

[Anonymous]

You are more of a mess than your SIL is, which is saying a lot. What look to be pretty significant mental health and financial challenges for your SIL are bothering you to the extent that you are begrudging her a birthday lunch. Get some therapy and MYOB.

[Anonymous]

I also don't understand what treating he rto lunch and her not paying her bills have anything to do with each other. I'm wealthy and treat lots of people to lunch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I also don't understand what treating he rto lunch and her not paying her bills have anything to do with each other. I'm wealthy and treat lots of people to lunch.

I will send you her contact information so you can treat her to lunch.

We are not wealthy and work incredibly hard for our money, despite my mental health issues.

[Anonymous]

I sympathize with OP. This type of SIL will push and push and steamroll until she gets what she “deserves.”

[Anonymous]

OP, I agree SIL sounds irksome. If you don't have kids, great! Divorce DH and that family because you will always resent their presence in your life. Problem solved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are more of a mess than your SIL is, which is saying a lot. What look to be pretty significant mental health and financial challenges for your SIL are bothering you to the extent that you are begrudging her a birthday lunch. Get some therapy and MYOB.

Agreed! Hence we can’t afford to treat these deadbeats to lunch for every birthday, holiday, made-up holiday (tikka, rakhi, whatever else). I can’t MYOB when they are in my physical space demanding rose as much as I would like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH's tolerance for mental health issues may have been one reason he was willing to marry you, OP. Your fixation on his sister is something to raise with your psychiatrist and therapist, unmanaged OCD, perhaps? Many have unstable, deadbeat relatives but looking up court cases is usually done from a perspective of trying to help them. Your post is odd and raises concerns about you.

His mother and sister ARE his family, one you CHOSE to join. If that choice no longer works for you and you are so embittered that your husband would treat his sister to a birthday lunch, find a lawyer and file.

Then you will be left to confront the issues you are avoiding with your fixation and seeming jealously that your DH has not cut them off. Wherever you go, there you will be, OP.

Yes, but DCUM is also a place to vent in between these appointments.

[Anonymous]

OP, are you the same poster with the MIL who dislocated her hip? She is also claiming that PMS is fueling her blind rage against her husband, MIL, and SIL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, are you the same poster with the MIL who dislocated her hip? She is also claiming that PMS is fueling her blind rage against her husband, MIL, and SIL.

No. Two women in DC PMS’ing at the same time. How ever could happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I also don't understand what treating he rto lunch and her not paying her bills have anything to do with each other. I'm wealthy and treat lots of people to lunch.

I will send you her contact information so you can treat her to lunch.

We are not wealthy and work incredibly hard for our money, despite my mental health issues.

Um, what about my post says that I don't work hard for my wealth?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I also don't understand what treating he rto lunch and her not paying her bills have anything to do with each other. I'm wealthy and treat lots of people to lunch.

I will send you her contact information so you can treat her to lunch.

We are not wealthy and work incredibly hard for our money, despite my mental health issues.

Um, what about my post says that I don't work hard for my wealth?

Post your email and I will send you her info.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH's tolerance for mental health issues may have been one reason he was willing to marry you, OP. Your fixation on his sister is something to raise with your psychiatrist and therapist, unmanaged OCD, perhaps? Many have unstable, deadbeat relatives but looking up court cases is usually done from a perspective of trying to help them. Your post is odd and raises concerns about you.

His mother and sister ARE his family, one you CHOSE to join. If that choice no longer works for you and you are so embittered that your husband would treat his sister to a birthday lunch, find a lawyer and file.

Then you will be left to confront the issues you are avoiding with your fixation and seeming jealously that your DH has not cut them off. Wherever you go, there you will be, OP.

DH told me about the website and the court cases against her.