How do deal with 17YO DD having sex
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Anonymous
Nah they are just learning how to be introverts, not learn relationship or communication skills, watch porn to think that is how real love/sex is, masterbate to it, and then go off to college with zero autonomy, street smarts, and communication skills and SA or get SA’d. Oh yeah all while having anxiety, depression and other mental health disorders from being coddled and thinking social media is real life |
Anonymous
You are pulling a study of 13-17yr olds (huge range) and comparing it to all 17yr olds? You also know those numbers regardless are lower as they say 10-15% will still lie, even on anonymous surveys. Yes, most 17yr olds are having sex. |
Anonymous
And we wonder why teen mental health issues and suicide are at an all time high? I rather my kid be social, have friendships, develop relationships, and have safe sex than sit at home staring at social media and porn on the screen for hours on end. We also didn’t have nudes, videos, mutual FaceTime masturbation groups, sex chat rooms, etc…. All of which are unhealthy and disturbing. |
Anonymous
+1 Moms handing phones to young children but still running their entire lives have led to one messed up generation. Sex or no sex |
Anonymous
Pretty sure you’re supposed to spell it “naw,” but unfortunately I do not have a dictionary handy. |
Anonymous
Agree. I wouldn’t be thrilled either OP. Especially given they aren’t in a monogamous relationship and she may or may not want to be more serious but goes along with what he wants. I would worry about the emotional attachment and how she would feel if she found out he also has other partners- given the likelihood since they aren’t “serious.” But she is 17 and your influence is limited. I think all you can do is provide birth control and be there to counsel as needed |
Anonymous
Very well said. |
Anonymous
| I would be so disgusted with my kid. |
Anonymous
Birth Control Birth Control Sex talk STD's Birth Control Aganist your "morals" Bible thumper this is why your DD is having sex because of your "morals". Your "moral" high road judging your own daughter should be against your "morals" |
Anonymous
+1 And it was some of the best. Just passionate: |
Anonymous
I could be wrong, but by “morals” I am assuming OP means this guy isn’t even her boyfriend, they don’t love each other, she isn’t anything special to him, etc. She would probably feel differently if they’d been dating several months and deeply loved/cared for each other. This is a reasonable for what a parent would want for their teen. I really don’t think OP sounded like she expects no sex until marriage. |
Anonymous
If teenage sex was some of the best, then you’ve definitely been missing out. Certainly it can be good, especially once you get the hang of it and move past any insecurities. But best… |
Anonymous
This. Teach her to insist on correct condoms use every time and early enough. If her partner doesn’t respect her enough to do this, then she should end the relationship. |
Anonymous
I'm GenX and neither I nor my friends had sex in high school. None of us even dated. People are all different and it's pointless to say "most" this or "most that". If your teenager is having sex, just make sure they're protecting themselves. |
Anonymous
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No one is ever having as much sex as people think. Sexually active kids think everyone else is f--cking, but statistically it's just not true. Not now, and not in the 80s when I was in high school.
Just as in adulthood, every therapist talks about how every single one of their clients thinks that everyone else is having more sex than them. Married couples are having sex like twice a week at most, and many aren't doing it for weeks or months or years. Singles are having sex even less, despite what marrieds think. |