Why are people so judgy and easily offended now?

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Anonymous wrote:Not everyone I meet is like this but maybe 1 out of 3. Usually they’re on the younger side, under 40. Both online and offline. They twist your words to mean something completely different.

Example, using the word “female” to describe a woman which I occasionally do, and have heard countless other women use it in the exact same context. I sometimes get called out for it by these easy to offend types.

Another person got offended when I said I have a wife, key word *have*, implying that I somehow meant that my wife was my literal property simply because I used a possessive verb.

In another example, I was giving advice to a younger family member who is having financial troubles and is starting out in the art field, I mentioned that art is known to not pay too well in general, they told me this comment was offensive as if I was diminishing the importance of the art profession.

Calling out people for using “females” seems kinda racist (on the part of the offended person).

Thats true. Most rappers / R&B artists use the word females.

Was just listening to the radio-safe version of Lil Jon’s “Get Low,” last night in the car with the kids on the way home from the game.

He does use “females” in the chorus (and, what exactly is wrong with that?!?)

“To the window (to the window)
To the wall (to the wall)
Till the sweat drop down my balls (my balls)
Till all these females crawl (crawl) “

All these female WHAT? kittens, turtles, dogs, osprey? It is non-specific and frankly, not intended to be the most flattering way to refer to women. And a rap song--or any other--should not be relied upon to bolster one's argument about language.

Um... females is the clean radio version of the lyrics. Another word was intended.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:because they are liberals who want to be offended any way they can. And criticize while they are at it!

And the product boycotts of Bud Light, Carhartt, Target, Yeti coolers, etc. for being insufficiently hostile to gay people were.. ?

What does Bud Light have to do with gay people?

We’re in a coma for the past 6 months?

Not at all. The mess over Bud Light didn't involve gay people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:because they are liberals who want to be offended any way they can. And criticize while they are at it!

Some conservatives literally don't want people to say the word "gay." This is not a liberal thing.

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Anonymous wrote:Not everyone I meet is like this but maybe 1 out of 3. Usually they’re on the younger side, under 40. Both online and offline. They twist your words to mean something completely different.

Example, using the word “female” to describe a woman which I occasionally do, and have heard countless other women use it in the exact same context. I sometimes get called out for it by these easy to offend types.

Another person got offended when I said I have a wife, key word *have*, implying that I somehow meant that my wife was my literal property simply because I used a possessive verb.

In another example, I was giving advice to a younger family member who is having financial troubles and is starting out in the art field, I mentioned that art is known to not pay too well in general, they told me this comment was offensive as if I was diminishing the importance of the art profession.

Calling out people for using “females” seems kinda racist (on the part of the offended person).

Thats true. Most rappers / R&B artists use the word females.

Was just listening to the radio-safe version of Lil Jon’s “Get Low,” last night in the car with the kids on the way home from the game.

He does use “females” in the chorus (and, what exactly is wrong with that?!?)

“To the window (to the window)
To the wall (to the wall)
Till the sweat drop down my balls (my balls)
Till all these females crawl (crawl) “

Hey Karen… that’s not the real lyric.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:because they are liberals who want to be offended any way they can. And criticize while they are at it!

And the product boycotts of Bud Light, Carhartt, Target, Yeti coolers, etc. for being insufficiently hostile to gay people were.. ?

What does Bud Light have to do with gay people?

We’re in a coma for the past 6 months?

Not at all. The mess over Bud Light didn't involve gay people.

Oh honey

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:because they are liberals who want to be offended any way they can. And criticize while they are at it!

And the product boycotts of Bud Light, Carhartt, Target, Yeti coolers, etc. for being insufficiently hostile to gay people were.. ?

What does Bud Light have to do with gay people?

We’re in a coma for the past 6 months?

Not at all. The mess over Bud Light didn't involve gay people.

What do you think it was about?

[Anonymous]

A whole generation was told that words = violence, aka disagreement = violence. Then throw in the explosion of self-identification and the politicization of identity groups as protected categories.

There's a huge difference between people 30 and north (especially 35 and north) and people in their 20s and late teens. And it's due to the failures of education. It makes complete sense when you realize what's being taught now and how it's being taught.

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Anonymous wrote:People are very sensitive to word choices and what they mean/imply. If you are describing a woman - say "woman," if you "have a wife" say you are "married" or have a "partner."

None of the examples that OP listed are offensive in any way. There is nothing wrong with those word choices - those who are offended by them would have been offended by something else. It doesn't matter to them, they are just offended.

I don't think these comments belong in a group together, except a group of annoying interactions OP recently had. Too specific to him. They don't really represent the same stuff at all.

I wouldn't offended by someone saying "female" which is just a word, but I am aware from following news about misogynist groups on sites like 4chan (the self-named "incels") that they use the word female instead of woman and that the usage has become pervasive enough that some people associate it with them. I wouldn't assume someone who used it was an incel, but I might let someone I'm close to know of that association. That's not about people being oversensitive, it's about a fringe group adopting a certain term and changing its connotation due to their association. Incels are highly misogynist and sometimes scary, so personally I'd avoid using language that made me sound like one. But I wouldn't be offended by the word female.

I might note if someone used the word "female" but then referred to men as... men. I would wonder why the difference. So, something to consider.

Meanwhile anyone taking issue with "have a wife" is being overly critical or sensitive. The only person who should be weighing in on that phrasing would be OP's wife. I don't see why anyone else would care. My MIL still goes as "Mrs. FIL" in many settings because she wants to. My FIL would say "has a wife." While that's not how I would speak about my own relationship, I have zero problems with them saying it because it's their life and their relationship. Whoever was criticizing OP for this should mind their own business.

And the last example is OP being obnoxious. Yes, it is rude to tell someone who has expressed an interest in a certain field, "you know that field doesn't pay well." Because (1) I am 100% certain the person in question is aware the arts don't pay as well as, say, finance or medicine; and (2) it's judgmental and no one was asking for OP's position. There's no difference between this and telling a law student "you know lawyers get divorced at a higher rate." It doesn't matter if it's true. This is as situation where OP needs to mind his own business. Don't offer your opinion or insight into someone's chosen profession unless they ask. Also don't comment on someone's weight, and no one cares what you think of their hairstyle unless you love it. These are highly personal things and no one wants to litigate them in polite conversation.

I’m offended that you think OP is a man just because they are married to a woman.

[Anonymous]

GenX here - if you use the following words (among others) to describe people I’m going to assume you’ve just woken up from a 40 year coma, have significant dementia, aren’t very smart (low EQ and IQ), or are racist or sexist — “female,” “colored,” “homosexual,” “oriental,” and “mulatto.”

I won’t correct you or explain why it’s offensive, because I’m not your mom and it’s not my job to school you on life. Also the people who still use these words have fragile egos and don’t like to be corrected.

No opinion on “I have a wife” - it sounds clunky in most contexts though - so I’m trying to imagine when I’d say “I have a husband” but I can’t. I’m sure that’s a failure of my imagination.

The arts thing needs more context. But leaning towards everyone’s an a**h**e.

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Anonymous wrote:because they are liberals who want to be offended any way they can. And criticize while they are at it!

true

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I agree as well and I lean liberal

[Anonymous]

Also, it all started when some people who aren’t part of the majority had enough power to push back against words they found offensive or revealed bias (implicit or otherwise).

Words are powerful, and can frame how people think - take something as abstract and universal as counting -there is some thought that European language can make math fluency harder for kids. https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20191121-why-you-might-be-counting-in-the-wrong-language

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It's a very good thing. People are more enlightened about language now. They want to be more inclusive and avoid microaggressions. They're not the issue. You are, old timer.



more inclusive ? avoid microaggressions ? but then calling someone 'old timer'

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Anonymous wrote:GenX here - if you use the following words (among others) to describe people I’m going to assume you’ve just woken up from a 40 year coma, have significant dementia, aren’t very smart (low EQ and IQ), or are racist or sexist — “female,” “colored,” “homosexual,” “oriental,” and “mulatto.”

I won’t correct you or explain why it’s offensive, because I’m not your mom and it’s not my job to school you on life. Also the people who still use these words have fragile egos and don’t like to be corrected.

No opinion on “I have a wife” - it sounds clunky in most contexts though - so I’m trying to imagine when I’d say “I have a husband” but I can’t. I’m sure that’s a failure of my imagination.

The arts thing needs more context. But leaning towards everyone’s an a**h**e.

Hilarious with the fragile egos line.

[Anonymous]

I say I have a husband all the time. No one's ever implied that means that I own him.

[Anonymous]

People are hung up on the "grammar" of using female for a woman, but probably are perfectly fine using "they" for singular.