Wife resents me for not making a higher income

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a liberal arts education too, cultural anthropology to be exact. I work for a tech company as an account manager and make over $300k so give me a break. You just aren’t motivated.

+1 the problem is you. You have to be incredibly passive not to make more than $60K in this world with a college degree.

It’s unusual to make 300k as an account manager, isn’t it? I don’t necessarily think 309k is easy to attain.

Is this OP?

Responding with more excuses and ridge B&W thinking.

I hope you are a troll, not married, no kids. Ever.

[Anonymous]

you say that you dont know how to increase your income. How did your wife do it? She went from 40k to 120k over 9 years. You've bounced all over the place.

I'm not in the camp that anything under 200k is poor and I bristle at the image that all women are gold diggers, etc, but for a professional person in this area, 60k is low. More to the point is that you seem to have no sense of professional direction, much less ambition, and passivity is not an attractive trait. I dont think being an independent whatever works for you. Get a career counseling, find a career/company where you can apply your skills and move up. I mean, DH and I are both in historically low paying careers with the kind of degrees that get laughed at (like, one step away from underwater basket weaving), but we have managed to make a decent living since we wanted to have a family, buy a home, andbe able to contribute to college and retirement. That's also what your wife is thinking about, and if you could raise your salary from 60k to 120k to equal hers you would be in a very different place.

Finally in this area, between federal jobs and all the contracts, there are huge swaths of people getting paid decent money to do very little of import or that requires tons of specialized training.

[Anonymous]

I vote divorce