Private school keeps asking which holidays we celebrate

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Anonymous wrote:Your kid is probably saying stuff at school.

Exactly. I posted that about an hour ago too.
I bet when they are doing Christmas activities/lessons OP's kid is making a big deal about how his family doesn't do X or knows that Y isn't true, etc.

I doubt this is true. If it was they would have brought it up. There is a lot of reading between the lines going on.

Op here. I don't think that is true because our child is pretty young however he has been acting strange and sad when he goes to school lately. I can ask. He's okay when he comes home on the bus. He's very social and has a lot of friends. For certain holidays I usually don't disclose anything to my neighbors. I have before and I can see the disappointment, especially on Halloween. A lot of our neighbors (50 percent) aren't Christian but they put up Christmas lights and Halloween decorations. For Halloween, my kids don't dress up and I bring them late to school. They still attend class parties, eat cake, etc. Some people value privacy. I have an Iranian friend who doesn't like disclosing where she's from in certain situations. Other people are from Palestine but may say Jordan or Egypt. I have another friend who is Russian but says she's Ukrainian. When people ask where we are from I disclose but my husband doesn't always like to disclose.

This doesn't sound like a great way to make friends honestly. I'm very liberal and don't care what religion someone is (or if they have none) but it’s hard to make friends with someone who seems cagey all the time. What religion is against Halloween costumes? I live in a very diverse area and don't know anyone against dressing up.

I’m a first generation American and also not a Christian. I can say with one hundred percent confidence that it’s the people who say they are “very liberal and don’t care what religion someone is” who are the most bigoted.

You are the reason that people like me and the OP like to keep our origins private. I’m a person, an individual who is not defined by my ethnicity or religion or sex or any of the other little classification that liberals like to group people into. I’m not a box for you to check on your list of “diverse” friends, so that you can feel good about how open-minded you are while conveniently putting me in a category of “other” and “distinct” from you.

Okay. But don’t be confused when you keep everyone at arms length.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The school likely doesn't want to to offend you. They want to make an inclusive environment I think it's kind of overkill too but what's the big deal about completing a form in a private school? They want to know what holidays the families who pay good money in tuition celebrate.

Clearly op won’t be offended. Not everyone is a delicate flower who needs to be catered to. Maybe they’re atheists who are open to all religions?

OP clearly IS a delicate flower becauseliterally an innocuous form and email offends her.

Dp, yeah, I wouldn’t say delicate flower, but it’s just a form and an email. It’s not a big deal. Clearly many people on this thread didn’t understand OPs reluctance to answer. The teacher probably didn’t either.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The school likely doesn't want to to offend you. They want to make an inclusive environment I think it's kind of overkill too but what's the big deal about completing a form in a private school? They want to know what holidays the families who pay good money in tuition celebrate.

Clearly op won’t be offended. Not everyone is a delicate flower who needs to be catered to. Maybe they’re atheists who are open to all religions?

OP clearly IS a delicate flower becauseliterally an innocuous form and email offends her.

Dp, yeah, I wouldn’t say delicate flower, but it’s just a form and an email. It’s not a big deal. Clearly many people on this thread didn’t understand OPs reluctance to answer. The teacher probably didn’t either.

They left it blank for a reason. They don't want their kid to be excluded from these activities because they are fine with them celebrating it at school. They probably don't want the child to feel isolated when the decorate Santa or make a gingerbread house or whatever. Something probably happened at school and OP disclosed they don't holiday shop. A lot of people will casually ask if you finished Christmas shopping.

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Anonymous wrote:The school likely doesn't want to to offend you. They want to make an inclusive environment I think it's kind of overkill too but what's the big deal about completing a form in a private school? They want to know what holidays the families who pay good money in tuition celebrate.

Clearly op won’t be offended. Not everyone is a delicate flower who needs to be catered to. Maybe they’re atheists who are open to all religions?

OP clearly IS a delicate flower becauseliterally an innocuous form and email offends her.

Dp, yeah, I wouldn’t say delicate flower, but it’s just a form and an email. It’s not a big deal. Clearly many people on this thread didn’t understand OPs reluctance to answer. The teacher probably didn’t either.

They left it blank for a reason. They don't want their kid to be excluded from these activities because they are fine with them celebrating it at school. They probably don't want the child to feel isolated when the decorate Santa or make a gingerbread house or whatever. Something probably happened at school and OP disclosed they don't holiday shop. A lot of people will casually ask if you finished Christmas shopping.

Bingo. Writing down that they don't celebrate all the Christian holidays will mean their child can't do a lot of fun stuff. Gluing cotton balls on Santa is fun and helps with fine motor skills.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The school likely doesn't want to to offend you. They want to make an inclusive environment I think it's kind of overkill too but what's the big deal about completing a form in a private school? They want to know what holidays the families who pay good money in tuition celebrate.

Clearly op won’t be offended. Not everyone is a delicate flower who needs to be catered to. Maybe they’re atheists who are open to all religions?

OP clearly IS a delicate flower becauseliterally an innocuous form and email offends her.

Dp, yeah, I wouldn’t say delicate flower, but it’s just a form and an email. It’s not a big deal. Clearly many people on this thread didn’t understand OPs reluctance to answer. The teacher probably didn’t either.

They left it blank for a reason. They don't want their kid to be excluded from these activities because they are fine with them celebrating it at school. They probably don't want the child to feel isolated when the decorate Santa or make a gingerbread house or whatever. Something probably happened at school and OP disclosed they don't holiday shop. A lot of people will casually ask if you finished Christmas shopping.

They could just say "We don't celebrate any holidays in our home, but are eager for our son to participate fully in any holidays celebrated at the school."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The school likely doesn't want to to offend you. They want to make an inclusive environment I think it's kind of overkill too but what's the big deal about completing a form in a private school? They want to know what holidays the families who pay good money in tuition celebrate.

Clearly op won’t be offended. Not everyone is a delicate flower who needs to be catered to. Maybe they’re atheists who are open to all religions?

OP clearly IS a delicate flower becauseliterally an innocuous form and email offends her.

Dp, yeah, I wouldn’t say delicate flower, but it’s just a form and an email. It’s not a big deal. Clearly many people on this thread didn’t understand OPs reluctance to answer. The teacher probably didn’t either.

They left it blank for a reason. They don't want their kid to be excluded from these activities because they are fine with them celebrating it at school. They probably don't want the child to feel isolated when the decorate Santa or make a gingerbread house or whatever. Something probably happened at school and OP disclosed they don't holiday shop. A lot of people will casually ask if you finished Christmas shopping.

They could just say "We don't celebrate any holidays in our home, but are eager for our son to participate fully in any holidays celebrated at the school."

That's may not be true. Most people celebrate something. Some people leave things blank because they don't think it's necessary to give out information if they want the kids to participate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Your kid is probably saying stuff at school.

Exactly. I posted that about an hour ago too.
I bet when they are doing Christmas activities/lessons OP's kid is making a big deal about how his family doesn't do X or knows that Y isn't true, etc.

I doubt this is true. If it was they would have brought it up. There is a lot of reading between the lines going on.

Op here. I don't think that is true because our child is pretty young however he has been acting strange and sad when he goes to school lately. I can ask. He's okay when he comes home on the bus. He's very social and has a lot of friends. For certain holidays I usually don't disclose anything to my neighbors. I have before and I can see the disappointment, especially on Halloween. A lot of our neighbors (50 percent) aren't Christian but they put up Christmas lights and Halloween decorations. For Halloween, my kids don't dress up and I bring them late to school. They still attend class parties, eat cake, etc. Some people value privacy. I have an Iranian friend who doesn't like disclosing where she's from in certain situations. Other people are from Palestine but may say Jordan or Egypt. I have another friend who is Russian but says she's Ukrainian. When people ask where we are from I disclose but my husband doesn't always like to disclose.

This doesn't sound like a great way to make friends honestly. I'm very liberal and don't care what religion someone is (or if they have none) but it’s hard to make friends with someone who seems cagey all the time. What religion is against Halloween costumes? I live in a very diverse area and don't know anyone against dressing up.

I’m a first generation American and also not a Christian. I can say with one hundred percent confidence that it’s the people who say they are “very liberal and don’t care what religion someone is” who are the most bigoted.

You are the reason that people like me and the OP like to keep our origins private. I’m a person, an individual who is not defined by my ethnicity or religion or sex or any of the other little classification that liberals like to group people into. I’m not a box for you to check on your list of “diverse” friends, so that you can feel good about how open-minded you are while conveniently putting me in a category of “other” and “distinct” from you.

Okay. But don’t be confused when you keep everyone at arms length.

Oh, I’ve always had many, many friends. I don’t keep everyone at arm’s length, just “very liberal” and “open-minded” people like you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The school likely doesn't want to to offend you. They want to make an inclusive environment I think it's kind of overkill too but what's the big deal about completing a form in a private school? They want to know what holidays the families who pay good money in tuition celebrate.

Clearly op won’t be offended. Not everyone is a delicate flower who needs to be catered to. Maybe they’re atheists who are open to all religions?

OP clearly IS a delicate flower becauseliterally an innocuous form and email offends her.

Dp, yeah, I wouldn’t say delicate flower, but it’s just a form and an email. It’s not a big deal. Clearly many people on this thread didn’t understand OPs reluctance to answer. The teacher probably didn’t either.

They left it blank for a reason. They don't want their kid to be excluded from these activities because they are fine with them celebrating it at school. They probably don't want the child to feel isolated when the decorate Santa or make a gingerbread house or whatever. Something probably happened at school and OP disclosed they don't holiday shop. A lot of people will casually ask if you finished Christmas shopping.

Right. OP told the teacher that the school doesn’t need that info. The school essentially responded with a “yes, we do.”

The reality is that OP doesn’t want to give that info, regardless of whether the school “needs” or (more accurately) “wants” that info. The page was left blank for a reason, as you said. If OP simply explained like you did, the school probably wouldn’t care.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The school likely doesn't want to to offend you. They want to make an inclusive environment I think it's kind of overkill too but what's the big deal about completing a form in a private school? They want to know what holidays the families who pay good money in tuition celebrate.

Clearly op won’t be offended. Not everyone is a delicate flower who needs to be catered to. Maybe they’re atheists who are open to all religions?

OP clearly IS a delicate flower becauseliterally an innocuous form and email offends her.

Dp, yeah, I wouldn’t say delicate flower, but it’s just a form and an email. It’s not a big deal. Clearly many people on this thread didn’t understand OPs reluctance to answer. The teacher probably didn’t either.

They left it blank for a reason. They don't want their kid to be excluded from these activities because they are fine with them celebrating it at school. They probably don't want the child to feel isolated when the decorate Santa or make a gingerbread house or whatever. Something probably happened at school and OP disclosed they don't holiday shop. A lot of people will casually ask if you finished Christmas shopping.

They could just say "We don't celebrate any holidays in our home, but are eager for our son to participate fully in any holidays celebrated at the school."

That's may not be true. Most people celebrate something. Some people leave things blank because they don't think it's necessary to give out information if they want the kids to participate.

Well, obviously the school feels it's necessary and as a private school they can require it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The school likely doesn't want to to offend you. They want to make an inclusive environment I think it's kind of overkill too but what's the big deal about completing a form in a private school? They want to know what holidays the families who pay good money in tuition celebrate.

Clearly op won’t be offended. Not everyone is a delicate flower who needs to be catered to. Maybe they’re atheists who are open to all religions?

OP clearly IS a delicate flower becauseliterally an innocuous form and email offends her.

Dp, yeah, I wouldn’t say delicate flower, but it’s just a form and an email. It’s not a big deal. Clearly many people on this thread didn’t understand OPs reluctance to answer. The teacher probably didn’t either.

They left it blank for a reason. They don't want their kid to be excluded from these activities because they are fine with them celebrating it at school. They probably don't want the child to feel isolated when the decorate Santa or make a gingerbread house or whatever. Something probably happened at school and OP disclosed they don't holiday shop. A lot of people will casually ask if you finished Christmas shopping.

Right. OP told the teacher that the school doesn’t need that info. The school essentially responded with a “yes, we do.”

The reality is that OP doesn’t want to give that info, regardless of whether the school “needs” or (more accurately) “wants” that info. The page was left blank for a reason, as you said. If OP simply explained like you did, the school probably wouldn’t care.

I'm going to guess that this isn't the first time OP and/or her family has been difficult at this school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is it any of their business? I casually mentioned we don't celebrate Christmas and the teacher freaked out and asked why I didn't fill out the form correctly. I told her the school didn't need to know this information because we didn't expect the teacher to do anything differently. The director of the school then emailed me that I "need to fill out the form and not leave that information blank". They are mad about this and I think it ridiculous.

Likely a young new teacher who means well. Calm down.

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Anonymous wrote:The school likely doesn't want to to offend you. They want to make an inclusive environment I think it's kind of overkill too but what's the big deal about completing a form in a private school? They want to know what holidays the families who pay good money in tuition celebrate.

Clearly op won’t be offended. Not everyone is a delicate flower who needs to be catered to. Maybe they’re atheists who are open to all religions?

OP clearly IS a delicate flower becauseliterally an innocuous form and email offends her.

Dp, yeah, I wouldn’t say delicate flower, but it’s just a form and an email. It’s not a big deal. Clearly many people on this thread didn’t understand OPs reluctance to answer. The teacher probably didn’t either.

They left it blank for a reason. They don't want their kid to be excluded from these activities because they are fine with them celebrating it at school. They probably don't want the child to feel isolated when the decorate Santa or make a gingerbread house or whatever. Something probably happened at school and OP disclosed they don't holiday shop. A lot of people will casually ask if you finished Christmas shopping.

They could just say "We don't celebrate any holidays in our home, but are eager for our son to participate fully in any holidays celebrated at the school."

That's may not be true. Most people celebrate something. Some people leave things blank because they don't think it's necessary to give out information if they want the kids to participate.

Well, obviously the school feels it's necessary and as a private school they can require it.

Maybe when registering but not mid year. The school is being nosy. If op was asking why did Tommy color Santa Claus that would be different.

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Anonymous wrote:The school likely doesn't want to to offend you. They want to make an inclusive environment I think it's kind of overkill too but what's the big deal about completing a form in a private school? They want to know what holidays the families who pay good money in tuition celebrate.

Clearly op won’t be offended. Not everyone is a delicate flower who needs to be catered to. Maybe they’re atheists who are open to all religions?

OP clearly IS a delicate flower becauseliterally an innocuous form and email offends her.

Dp, yeah, I wouldn’t say delicate flower, but it’s just a form and an email. It’s not a big deal. Clearly many people on this thread didn’t understand OPs reluctance to answer. The teacher probably didn’t either.

They left it blank for a reason. They don't want their kid to be excluded from these activities because they are fine with them celebrating it at school. They probably don't want the child to feel isolated when the decorate Santa or make a gingerbread house or whatever. Something probably happened at school and OP disclosed they don't holiday shop. A lot of people will casually ask if you finished Christmas shopping.

They could just say "We don't celebrate any holidays in our home, but are eager for our son to participate fully in any holidays celebrated at the school."

That's may not be true. Most people celebrate something. Some people leave things blank because they don't think it's necessary to give out information if they want the kids to participate.

Well, obviously the school feels it's necessary and as a private school they can require it.

Maybe when registering but not mid year. The school is being nosy. If op was asking why did Tommy color Santa Claus that would be different.

They can ask/require at any time they choose. They are a private school.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The school likely doesn't want to to offend you. They want to make an inclusive environment I think it's kind of overkill too but what's the big deal about completing a form in a private school? They want to know what holidays the families who pay good money in tuition celebrate.

Clearly op won’t be offended. Not everyone is a delicate flower who needs to be catered to. Maybe they’re atheists who are open to all religions?

OP clearly IS a delicate flower becauseliterally an innocuous form and email offends her.

Dp, yeah, I wouldn’t say delicate flower, but it’s just a form and an email. It’s not a big deal. Clearly many people on this thread didn’t understand OPs reluctance to answer. The teacher probably didn’t either.

They left it blank for a reason. They don't want their kid to be excluded from these activities because they are fine with them celebrating it at school. They probably don't want the child to feel isolated when the decorate Santa or make a gingerbread house or whatever. Something probably happened at school and OP disclosed they don't holiday shop. A lot of people will casually ask if you finished Christmas shopping.

They could just say "We don't celebrate any holidays in our home, but are eager for our son to participate fully in any holidays celebrated at the school."

Wut if they don’t want

[Anonymous]

Your kid is sad and disappointed because they feel like they are missing out. You don't let them participate in Halloween by dressing up and you bring them to school late. Your kid is going to resent you some day for being a stick in the mud.