Private school keeps asking which holidays we celebrate

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe Op has realized that she values privacy. Maybe above all else. Sounds right to me.

I agree Op, it's pushy. If you have never complained that things should be done differently, re: how the school handles holidays, and teaching, they should leave you alone. And for them to want to single you out and make your omission of information - to make it a thing - it could very well be the school that creates a wedge.

This and it’s probably why op decided to omit their beliefs because they are worried about not getting a spot next year.

Unless they write they're Satanists in a Christian school, I think schools, even religious ones, value diversity too much to push someone out because they're not part of mainstream religions. So that doesn't work. OP is just being difficult.

They literally told the family the school might not be a good fit after they found out they don’t celebrate Christmas. I have toured Jewish schools that won’t accept non Jewish kids. It was a preschool. I was shocked but some private schools can do that. It’s not against the law.

No, the school might not be a good fit because OP is being difficult, not filling out all the paperwork, dodging questions, and being combative.

I disagree. Op already said she has told them kid can celebrate every holiday the school does. They shouldn't be pushing this anymore. If the kid is bringing up religious stuff then they should voice that. I think it's common sense most parents sending their children to a religious school will celebrate certain holidays at school. What they do at home is none of their business unless they want to make it the school's business. Even at the doctor's office, I don't fill out everything.

If OP is also preschool early pickup poster (and I agree she sounds the same) it may be a problem for the school if she is not following directions or being supportive of community events. Culture is a big deal at some schools, especially in the younger grades.

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Anonymous wrote:The school likely doesn't want to to offend you. They want to make an inclusive environment I think it's kind of overkill too but what's the big deal about completing a form in a private school? They want to know what holidays the families who pay good money in tuition celebrate.

What if the reason is the opposite or nefarious?

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe Op has realized that she values privacy. Maybe above all else. Sounds right to me.

I agree Op, it's pushy. If you have never complained that things should be done differently, re: how the school handles holidays, and teaching, they should leave you alone. And for them to want to single you out and make your omission of information - to make it a thing - it could very well be the school that creates a wedge.

This and it’s probably why op decided to omit their beliefs because they are worried about not getting a spot next year.

Unless they write they're Satanists in a Christian school, I think schools, even religious ones, value diversity too much to push someone out because they're not part of mainstream religions. So that doesn't work. OP is just being difficult.

They literally told the family the school might not be a good fit after they found out they don’t celebrate Christmas. I have toured Jewish schools that won’t accept non Jewish kids. It was a preschool. I was shocked but some private schools can do that. It’s not against the law.

No, the school might not be a good fit because OP is being difficult, not filling out all the paperwork, dodging questions, and being combative.

I disagree. Op already said she has told them kid can celebrate every holiday the school does. They shouldn't be pushing this anymore. If the kid is bringing up religious stuff then they should voice that. I think it's common sense most parents sending their children to a religious school will celebrate certain holidays at school. What they do at home is none of their business unless they want to make it the school's business. Even at the doctor's office, I don't fill out everything.

If OP is also preschool early pickup poster (and I agree she sounds the same) it may be a problem for the school if she is not following directions or being supportive of community events. Culture is a big deal at some schools, especially in the younger grades.

Even if it is the same person I don't think she was unsupportive. She made a mistake and didn't come early to the event because she was unaware parents needed to be there. That op mentioned other families did the same thing. I don't think you can call that not supporting the culture. That's not supporting the religion and if they are asking which holidays they don't celebrate they are indirectly saying they will be inclusive.

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Anonymous wrote:The school likely doesn't want to to offend you. They want to make an inclusive environment I think it's kind of overkill too but what's the big deal about completing a form in a private school? They want to know what holidays the families who pay good money in tuition celebrate.

Clearly op won’t be offended. Not everyone is a delicate flower who needs to be catered to. Maybe they’re atheists who are open to all religions?

OP clearly IS a delicate flower because literally an innocuous form and email offends her.

Op can correct me if I’m wrong, but I don’t think offended is the right word, but rather “annoyed” that the school is being pushy.

Pretty small thing to be annoyed by. I'm sticking with "delicate flower."

You are right. And it does sound like the woman who forgot to pick up her child at daycare.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe Op has realized that she values privacy. Maybe above all else. Sounds right to me.

I agree Op, it's pushy. If you have never complained that things should be done differently, re: how the school handles holidays, and teaching, they should leave you alone. And for them to want to single you out and make your omission of information - to make it a thing - it could very well be the school that creates a wedge.

This and it’s probably why op decided to omit their beliefs because they are worried about not getting a spot next year.

Unless they write they're Satanists in a Christian school, I think schools, even religious ones, value diversity too much to push someone out because they're not part of mainstream religions. So that doesn't work. OP is just being difficult.

They literally told the family the school might not be a good fit after they found out they don’t celebrate Christmas. I have toured Jewish schools that won’t accept non Jewish kids. It was a preschool. I was shocked but some private schools can do that. It’s not against the law.

No, the school might not be a good fit because OP is being difficult, not filling out all the paperwork, dodging questions, and being combative.

I disagree. Op already said she has told them kid can celebrate every holiday the school does. They shouldn't be pushing this anymore. If the kid is bringing up religious stuff then they should voice that. I think it's common sense most parents sending their children to a religious school will celebrate certain holidays at school. What they do at home is none of their business unless they want to make it the school's business. Even at the doctor's office, I don't fill out everything.

If OP is also preschool early pickup poster (and I agree she sounds the same) it may be a problem for the school if she is not following directions or being supportive of community events. Culture is a big deal at some schools, especially in the younger grades.

Even if it is the same person I don't think she was unsupportive. She made a mistake and didn't come early to the event because she was unaware parents needed to be there. That op mentioned other families did the same thing. I don't think you can call that not supporting the culture. That's not supporting the religion and if they are asking which holidays they don't celebrate they are indirectly saying they will be inclusive.

It's probably not the first time something has happened under the guise of "not our religion, not our problem". When, school closing early for break is everyone's problem to deal with.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe Op has realized that she values privacy. Maybe above all else. Sounds right to me.

I agree Op, it's pushy. If you have never complained that things should be done differently, re: how the school handles holidays, and teaching, they should leave you alone. And for them to want to single you out and make your omission of information - to make it a thing - it could very well be the school that creates a wedge.

This and it’s probably why op decided to omit their beliefs because they are worried about not getting a spot next year.

Unless they write they're Satanists in a Christian school, I think schools, even religious ones, value diversity too much to push someone out because they're not part of mainstream religions. So that doesn't work. OP is just being difficult.

They literally told the family the school might not be a good fit after they found out they don’t celebrate Christmas. I have toured Jewish schools that won’t accept non Jewish kids. It was a preschool. I was shocked but some private schools can do that. It’s not against the law.

No, the school might not be a good fit because OP is being difficult, not filling out all the paperwork, dodging questions, and being combative.

I disagree. Op already said she has told them kid can celebrate every holiday the school does. They shouldn't be pushing this anymore. If the kid is bringing up religious stuff then they should voice that. I think it's common sense most parents sending their children to a religious school will celebrate certain holidays at school. What they do at home is none of their business unless they want to make it the school's business. Even at the doctor's office, I don't fill out everything.

They don't care if Santa doesn't visit their house, but they do expect parents to pick up on time.

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Anonymous wrote:Your kid is probably saying stuff at school.

Exactly. I posted that about an hour ago too.
I bet when they are doing Christmas activities/lessons OP's kid is making a big deal about how his family doesn't do X or knows that Y isn't true, etc.

I doubt this is true. If it was they would have brought it up. There is a lot of reading between the lines going on.

Op here. I don't think that is true because our child is pretty young however he has been acting strange and sad when he goes to school lately. I can ask. He's okay when he comes home on the bus. He's very social and has a lot of friends. For certain holidays I usually don't disclose anything to my neighbors. I have before and I can see the disappointment, especially on Halloween. A lot of our neighbors (50 percent) aren't Christian but they put up Christmas lights and Halloween decorations. For Halloween, my kids don't dress up and I bring them late to school. They still attend class parties, eat cake, etc. Some people value privacy. I have an Iranian friend who doesn't like disclosing where she's from in certain situations. Other people are from Palestine but may say Jordan or Egypt. I have another friend who is Russian but says she's Ukrainian. When people ask where we are from I disclose but my husband doesn't always like to disclose.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The school likely doesn't want to to offend you. They want to make an inclusive environment I think it's kind of overkill too but what's the big deal about completing a form in a private school? They want to know what holidays the families who pay good money in tuition celebrate.

Clearly op won’t be offended. Not everyone is a delicate flower who needs to be catered to. Maybe they’re atheists who are open to all religions?

OP clearly IS a delicate flower because literally an innocuous form and email offends her.

Op can correct me if I’m wrong, but I don’t think offended is the right word, but rather “annoyed” that the school is being pushy.

Pretty small thing to be annoyed by. I'm sticking with "delicate flower."

You are right. And it does sound like the woman who forgot to pick up her child at daycare.

Now it's daycare but in the post it was enrichment. Interesting how it switches when you take a dig at someone.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kid is probably saying stuff at school.

Exactly. I posted that about an hour ago too.
I bet when they are doing Christmas activities/lessons OP's kid is making a big deal about how his family doesn't do X or knows that Y isn't true, etc.

I doubt this is true. If it was they would have brought it up. There is a lot of reading between the lines going on.

Op here. I don't think that is true because our child is pretty young however he has been acting strange and sad when he goes to school lately. I can ask. He's okay when he comes home on the bus. He's very social and has a lot of friends. For certain holidays I usually don't disclose anything to my neighbors. I have before and I can see the disappointment, especially on Halloween. A lot of our neighbors (50 percent) aren't Christian but they put up Christmas lights and Halloween decorations. For Halloween, my kids don't dress up and I bring them late to school. They still attend class parties, eat cake, etc. Some people value privacy. I have an Iranian friend who doesn't like disclosing where she's from in certain situations. Other people are from Palestine but may say Jordan or Egypt. I have another friend who is Russian but says she's Ukrainian. When people ask where we are from I disclose but my husband doesn't always like to disclose.

That doesn't sound like a good way to live but thanks for explaining. Maybe the school should ask are any holidays you don't want your child to celebrate at school instead of making it about your family and your religious beliefs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kid is probably saying stuff at school.

Exactly. I posted that about an hour ago too.
I bet when they are doing Christmas activities/lessons OP's kid is making a big deal about how his family doesn't do X or knows that Y isn't true, etc.

I doubt this is true. If it was they would have brought it up. There is a lot of reading between the lines going on.

Op here. I don't think that is true because our child is pretty young however he has been acting strange and sad when he goes to school lately. I can ask. He's okay when he comes home on the bus. He's very social and has a lot of friends. For certain holidays I usually don't disclose anything to my neighbors. I have before and I can see the disappointment, especially on Halloween. A lot of our neighbors (50 percent) aren't Christian but they put up Christmas lights and Halloween decorations. For Halloween, my kids don't dress up and I bring them late to school. They still attend class parties, eat cake, etc. Some people value privacy. I have an Iranian friend who doesn't like disclosing where she's from in certain situations. Other people are from Palestine but may say Jordan or Egypt. I have another friend who is Russian but says she's Ukrainian. When people ask where we are from I disclose but my husband doesn't always like to disclose.

OP, are you the same poster from that daycare pick up?
You posted this in elementary age kids, but is your kid more of a pre-school age?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kid is probably saying stuff at school.

Exactly. I posted that about an hour ago too.
I bet when they are doing Christmas activities/lessons OP's kid is making a big deal about how his family doesn't do X or knows that Y isn't true, etc.

I doubt this is true. If it was they would have brought it up. There is a lot of reading between the lines going on.

Op here. I don't think that is true because our child is pretty young however he has been acting strange and sad when he goes to school lately. I can ask. He's okay when he comes home on the bus. He's very social and has a lot of friends. For certain holidays I usually don't disclose anything to my neighbors. I have before and I can see the disappointment, especially on Halloween. A lot of our neighbors (50 percent) aren't Christian but they put up Christmas lights and Halloween decorations. For Halloween, my kids don't dress up and I bring them late to school. They still attend class parties, eat cake, etc. Some people value privacy. I have an Iranian friend who doesn't like disclosing where she's from in certain situations. Other people are from Palestine but may say Jordan or Egypt. I have another friend who is Russian but says she's Ukrainian. When people ask where we are from I disclose but my husband doesn't always like to disclose.

This doesn't sound like a great way to make friends honestly. I'm very liberal and don't care what religion someone is (or if they have none) but its hard to make friends with someone who seems cagey all the time. What religion is against Halloween costumes? I live in a very diverse area and don't know anyone against dressing up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kid is probably saying stuff at school.

Exactly. I posted that about an hour ago too.
I bet when they are doing Christmas activities/lessons OP's kid is making a big deal about how his family doesn't do X or knows that Y isn't true, etc.

I doubt this is true. If it was they would have brought it up. There is a lot of reading between the lines going on.

Op here. I don't think that is true because our child is pretty young however he has been acting strange and sad when he goes to school lately. I can ask. He's okay when he comes home on the bus. He's very social and has a lot of friends. For certain holidays I usually don't disclose anything to my neighbors. I have before and I can see the disappointment, especially on Halloween. A lot of our neighbors (50 percent) aren't Christian but they put up Christmas lights and Halloween decorations. For Halloween, my kids don't dress up and I bring them late to school. They still attend class parties, eat cake, etc. Some people value privacy. I have an Iranian friend who doesn't like disclosing where she's from in certain situations. Other people are from Palestine but may say Jordan or Egypt. I have another friend who is Russian but says she's Ukrainian. When people ask where we are from I disclose but my husband doesn't always like to disclose.

What do you mean he acts strange and sad?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kid is probably saying stuff at school.

Exactly. I posted that about an hour ago too.
I bet when they are doing Christmas activities/lessons OP's kid is making a big deal about how his family doesn't do X or knows that Y isn't true, etc.

I doubt this is true. If it was they would have brought it up. There is a lot of reading between the lines going on.

Op here. I don't think that is true because our child is pretty young however he has been acting strange and sad when he goes to school lately. I can ask. He's okay when he comes home on the bus. He's very social and has a lot of friends. For certain holidays I usually don't disclose anything to my neighbors. I have before and I can see the disappointment, especially on Halloween. A lot of our neighbors (50 percent) aren't Christian but they put up Christmas lights and Halloween decorations. For Halloween, my kids don't dress up and I bring them late to school. They still attend class parties, eat cake, etc. Some people value privacy. I have an Iranian friend who doesn't like disclosing where she's from in certain situations. Other people are from Palestine but may say Jordan or Egypt. I have another friend who is Russian but says she's Ukrainian. When people ask where we are from I disclose but my husband doesn't always like to disclose.

This doesn't sound like a great way to make friends honestly. I'm very liberal and don't care what religion someone is (or if they have none) but its hard to make friends with someone who seems cagey all the time. What religion is against Halloween costumes? I live in a very diverse area and don't know anyone against dressing up.

There are definitely religions that don’t participate in dressing up. Jehovah’s Witnesses and Seventh Day Adventists do not celebrate Halloween.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kid is probably saying stuff at school.

Exactly. I posted that about an hour ago too.
I bet when they are doing Christmas activities/lessons OP's kid is making a big deal about how his family doesn't do X or knows that Y isn't true, etc.

I doubt this is true. If it was they would have brought it up. There is a lot of reading between the lines going on.

Op here. I don't think that is true because our child is pretty young however he has been acting strange and sad when he goes to school lately. I can ask. He's okay when he comes home on the bus. He's very social and has a lot of friends. For certain holidays I usually don't disclose anything to my neighbors. I have before and I can see the disappointment, especially on Halloween. A lot of our neighbors (50 percent) aren't Christian but they put up Christmas lights and Halloween decorations. For Halloween, my kids don't dress up and I bring them late to school. They still attend class parties, eat cake, etc. Some people value privacy. I have an Iranian friend who doesn't like disclosing where she's from in certain situations. Other people are from Palestine but may say Jordan or Egypt. I have another friend who is Russian but says she's Ukrainian. When people ask where we are from I disclose but my husband doesn't always like to disclose.

This doesn't sound like a great way to make friends honestly. I'm very liberal and don't care what religion someone is (or if they have none) but its hard to make friends with someone who seems cagey all the time. What religion is against Halloween costumes? I live in a very diverse area and don't know anyone against dressing up.

There are definitely religions that don’t participate in dressing up. Jehovah’s Witnesses and Seventh Day Adventists do not celebrate Halloween.

Even Christians

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kid is probably saying stuff at school.

Exactly. I posted that about an hour ago too.
I bet when they are doing Christmas activities/lessons OP's kid is making a big deal about how his family doesn't do X or knows that Y isn't true, etc.

I doubt this is true. If it was they would have brought it up. There is a lot of reading between the lines going on.

Op here. I don't think that is true because our child is pretty young however he has been acting strange and sad when he goes to school lately. I can ask. He's okay when he comes home on the bus. He's very social and has a lot of friends. For certain holidays I usually don't disclose anything to my neighbors. I have before and I can see the disappointment, especially on Halloween. A lot of our neighbors (50 percent) aren't Christian but they put up Christmas lights and Halloween decorations. For Halloween, my kids don't dress up and I bring them late to school. They still attend class parties, eat cake, etc. Some people value privacy. I have an Iranian friend who doesn't like disclosing where she's from in certain situations. Other people are from Palestine but may say Jordan or Egypt. I have another friend who is Russian but says she's Ukrainian. When people ask where we are from I disclose but my husband doesn't always like to disclose.

This doesn't sound like a great way to make friends honestly. I'm very liberal and don't care what religion someone is (or if they have none) but it’s hard to make friends with someone who seems cagey all the time. What religion is against Halloween costumes? I live in a very diverse area and don't know anyone against dressing up.

I’m a first generation American and also not a Christian. I can say with one hundred percent confidence that it’s the people who say they are “very liberal and don’t care what religion someone is” who are the most bigoted.

You are the reason that people like me and the OP like to keep our origins private. I’m a person, an individual who is not defined by my ethnicity or religion or sex or any of the other little classification that liberals like to group people into. I’m not a box for you to check on your list of “diverse” friends, so that you can feel good about how open-minded you are while conveniently putting me in a category of “other” and “distinct” from you.