Private school keeps asking which holidays we celebrate

[Anonymous]

Why is it any of their business? I casually mentioned we don't celebrate Christmas and the teacher freaked out and asked why I didn't fill out the form correctly. I told her the school didn't need to know this information because we didn't expect the teacher to do anything differently. The director of the school then emailed me that I "need to fill out the form and not leave that information blank". They are mad about this and I think it ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Did you ask either of them why they want this information and what they intend to do with it?

Also, they probably don’t care that much…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you ask either of them why they want this information and what they intend to do with it?

Also, they probably don’t care that much…

Op here yes they do otherwise I wouldn't have received an email saying I need to let them know about any other holidays we don't celebrate. It's so rude to frame it like that.

[Anonymous]

OP are you the OP of the missed early daycare pickup?

[Anonymous]

Another take: sometimes it’s an innocent question meant to help you.

Ours does that to make sure that it can invite parents who celebrate different holidays in to lead celebrations in classrooms and/or so teachers can host celebrations. My child is at a Catholic school and usually gets to celebrate at least Diwali, Hanukkah, three kings and Lunar New Year. My family comes in to help with Lunar New year. There are a few kids who are orthodox christian so school has to work around their holidays, especially since their Easter comes after our spring break, plus Muslim kids if it’s a year when Ramadan overlaps with the school year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP are you the OP of the missed early daycare pickup?

+1 it's a church preschool. It's fine of them to ask.

Just go to one of the many secular preschools and daycares that exist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is it any of their business? I casually mentioned we don't celebrate Christmas and the teacher freaked out and asked why I didn't fill out the form correctly. I told her the school didn't need to know this information because we didn't expect the teacher to do anything differently. The director of the school then emailed me that I "need to fill out the form and not leave that information blank". They are mad about this and I think it ridiculous.

THEY NEED TO KNOW

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is it any of their business? I casually mentioned we don't celebrate Christmas and the teacher freaked out and asked why I didn't fill out the form correctly. I told her the school didn't need to know this information because we didn't expect the teacher to do anything differently. The director of the school then emailed me that I "need to fill out the form and not leave that information blank". They are mad about this and I think it ridiculous.

THEY NEED TO KNOW

WHY?

[Anonymous]

Why can’t you just tell them?
You are making this much harder than it needs to be. Are you trying to make a point? Life is too short for getting worked up about something so ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

So what?

[Anonymous]

People like OP drive me crazy. You’re part of a community! Who is trying to be courteous! Be part of society and tell them.
They want to know so your kid doesn’t make a Christmas ornament craft if you don’t celebrate Christmas. So they can make sure the coloring page matches the holiday that resonates with the kid. Probably little things like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People like OP drive me crazy. You’re part of a community! Who is trying to be courteous! Be part of society and tell them.
They want to know so your kid doesn’t make a Christmas ornament craft if you don’t celebrate Christmas. So they can make sure the coloring page matches the holiday that resonates with the kid. Probably little things like that.

THIS! Sounds like they are trying to be caring and inclusive of your child! Oh the horror!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is it any of their business? I casually mentioned we don't celebrate Christmas and the teacher freaked out and asked why I didn't fill out the form correctly. I told her the school didn't need to know this information because we didn't expect the teacher to do anything differently. The director of the school then emailed me that I "need to fill out the form and not leave that information blank". They are mad about this and I think it ridiculous.

THEY NEED TO KNOW

WHY?

Because you could be a spy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People like OP drive me crazy. You’re part of a community! Who is trying to be courteous! Be part of society and tell them.
They want to know so your kid doesn’t make a Christmas ornament craft if you don’t celebrate Christmas. So they can make sure the coloring page matches the holiday that resonates with the kid. Probably little things like that.

If they left that part of the paperwork blank it's none of their business. Most people don't send their kids to a religious school and demand they make it secular. It's similar to asking immigrants where they are from right away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People like OP drive me crazy. You’re part of a community! Who is trying to be courteous! Be part of society and tell them.
They want to know so your kid doesn’t make a Christmas ornament craft if you don’t celebrate Christmas. So they can make sure the coloring page matches the holiday that resonates with the kid. Probably little things like that.

THIS! Sounds like they are trying to be caring and inclusive of your child! Oh the horror!

I think the choice of words was rude. Who says something like you need to fill out the form correctly when it involves personal information like holidays and religion? They could have made it into a question instead of berating them for leaving it blank. Religion is sensitive right now with the war in Israel and Palestine.