Husband Told Me to Call My AP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here is the situation: I worked at a large law firm. I had a relationship with a partner that went beyond professional. I felt I was not in a position to say no, and I met for dates over several months. I agreed to an out-of-court settlement with the Law Firm. My partner and I no longer work there. My H knew nothing about any of it, as it all occurred while he was on extended TDY. He found the settlement documents on our shared household computer. H said he is more upset about my hiding the whole settlement than the fact that I might have had an affair. He says if I was indeed sexually abused at work, why wouldn't I tell him, and further that I hid the settlement from him is a breach of trust that cannot be repaired.

I have always felt with his constant travel that H is never there to take care of me. Now, I need him when I have a back injury and he won't help.

We had a paralegal get involved with a married partner at a Biglaw firm. He tried to break it off, and she went ape-shit. Threatened to sue the firm, etc. They ended up giving her a year's salary. Her husband found out about the affair and the settlement, and his reaction was "that's all you got"? Pretty crazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here is the situation: I worked at a large law firm. I had a relationship with a partner that went beyond professional. I felt I was not in a position to say no, and I met for dates over several months. I agreed to an out-of-court settlement with the Law Firm. My partner and I no longer work there. My H knew nothing about any of it, as it all occurred while he was on extended TDY. He found the settlement documents on our shared household computer. H said he is more upset about my hiding the whole settlement than the fact that I might have had an affair. He says if I was indeed sexually abused at work, why wouldn't I tell him, and further that I hid the settlement from him is a breach of trust that cannot be repaired.

I have always felt with his constant travel that H is never there to take care of me. Now, I need him when I have a back injury and he won't help.

We had a paralegal get involved with a married partner at a Biglaw firm. He tried to break it off, and she went ape-shit. Threatened to sue the firm, etc. They ended up giving her a year's salary. Her husband found out about the affair and the settlement, and his reaction was "that's all you got"? Pretty crazy.

Why don’t many women (even married ones) accept that the fling is over and they are being dumped? Women who have APs don’t have that issue compared to men. If a guy is dumped he tells to f***k off and that’s it. A wine nope she may be married with kids you would think her life is crumbling ….