Why is the OW less attractive?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This isn’t what I have observed. Happily married men don’t cheat with ugly women.

Happily married men don’t cheat.

My AP is content enough in his marriage. And I have no intention of leaving either. But I am more beautiful than his wife and he says I’m the best sex of his life.

Content doesn’t mean happy. He’s comfortable in his marriage. Divorce would bring discomfort so he is willing to foregoing chance at happiness to avoid alimony, CS, and family therapy.

He isn’t happily married.

His second marriage will statistically end in divorce at a higher percentage because he will never be “happy.”

He’s selfish, possibly sex addicted, and only wants to have sex with a compliant and uncomplicated partner.

Marriage is hard work and sacrifice as well as happiness and romance. Some people only want one part of the equation- and those are typically the cheaters.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This isn’t what I have observed. Happily married men don’t cheat with ugly women.

Happily married men don’t cheat.

My AP is content enough in his marriage. And I have no intention of leaving either. But I am more beautiful than his wife and he says I’m the best sex of his life.

I bet he says this to all his APs.

We’ve known each other a few years and are pretty close. Pretty sure he is telling the truth. He also had not been with many women before marriage. There’s a lot of intimacy between us. But I am pretty sure I will be the woman that broke the dam and even though I’m his first AP, I won’t be his last.

You are a fool! Why do you believe a liar?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This isn’t what I have observed. Happily married men don’t cheat with ugly women.

Happily married men don’t cheat.

My AP is content enough in his marriage. And I have no intention of leaving either. But I am more beautiful than his wife and he says I’m the best sex of his life.

I bet he says this to all his APs.

We’ve known each other a few years and are pretty close. Pretty sure he is telling the truth. He also had not been with many women before marriage. There’s a lot of intimacy between us. But I am pretty sure I will be the woman that broke the dam and even though I’m his first AP, I won’t be his last.

You are a fool! Why do you believe a liar?

Being easily manipulated and lied to is a symptom of low self esteem, and cheaters choose ow/ap specifically for these reasons in many cases. Notice the relationship takes place in secrecy- the ow maintains that and is easily, easily lied to. There are no family members or friends that know the truth, so ow/ap is caught in a toxic secret relationship that she thinks is special. It’s not. It’s emotionally damaging and women should not accept this kind of “relationship.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Overweight women and less attractive women do a lot to stroke selfish egos and cater to men who cheat. I work in a male dominated field and hear locker room talk. Overweight women and less attractive women will have anal sex and not ask for anything in return, even a fast food meal.

Less attractive women accept less and are easier overall- they don’t have boundaries. They allow men to walk all over them and go along with it, happily. That’s why instead of getting a man devoted to them, they accept crumbs from an already taken man.

Yep. Didn’t even have to buy a dinner or pay for a hotel. Just went to the house when husband was at work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They always are. It’s not really about looks, just availability and willingness.

+1

Plus the gaunt, skinny byotches are high maintenance, and the man is over it - the gaunt, skinny byotches are no fun!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Overweight women and less attractive women do a lot to stroke selfish egos and cater to men who cheat. I work in a male dominated field and hear locker room talk. Overweight women and less attractive women will have anal sex and not ask for anything in return, even a fast food meal.

Less attractive women accept less and are easier overall- they don’t have boundaries. They allow men to walk all over them and go along with it, happily. That’s why instead of getting a man devoted to them, they accept crumbs from an already taken man.

Do married women not do anal? I must have missed that memo. 😊

I guess they do it in exchange of a fast food meal according to PP.

Not according to me; according to men who I hear talk about such things.

The overweight and less attractive women who sleep with these men cater to the men. The women don’t get dates, flowers, any public recognition (no appearances in public together) etc. The men don’t have any priority for these women even though the women are sleeping with them, having unprotected sex, etc. The lack of boundaries makes these women attractive, not appearance or personality. The men are using these women. The women have low self esteem and poor or no boundaries so they accept the treatment and do not value themselves. If my female family members or friends allowed men to treat them like this I would be horrified and sad. Yet the men use the bait and switch of “hidden” romance, lie about their “unhappy” marriages, and promote secrecy in the “relationship” as an excuse to ignore these women, except when the man wants to have quick sex.

Sadly, yes to all of the above ^. Also, work in a male-dominated field and lots of male friends.

[Anonymous]

They have their cake and eat it too. Statistics show the vast majority of cheating men do say they’d marriages are happy to very happy. Midlife they get some uggo action to feel young again and treat their untreated depression. A married man will literally say anything to the ow to get free sex and have her keep her mouth shut.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They have their cake and eat it too. Statistics show the vast majority of cheating men do say they’d marriages are happy to very happy. Midlife they get some uggo action to feel young again and treat their untreated depression. A married man will literally say anything to the ow to get free sex and have her keep her mouth shut.

+1

She can be uggo, but he would never say "wow this is the worst sex with the ugliest betch ever!" because having anything (anything) on the side boosts his midlife crisis ego.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Beautiful, accomplished women don’t need to become mistresses. Alpha men who snag these women often want more than one woman. Hence the disparity.

Never say never I guess. But I cannot imagine agreeing to be the OW. I deserve more. I can see divorcing DH if things go horribly off track in our marriage. But I just can’t imagine cheating on him. Of course because I owe him (DH) more. But also because I have zero interest in being a side piece.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This isn’t what I have observed. Happily married men don’t cheat with ugly women.

Happily married men don’t cheat.

My AP is content enough in his marriage. And I have no intention of leaving either. But I am more beautiful than his wife and he says I’m the best sex of his life.

I bet he says this to all his APs.

We’ve known each other a few years and are pretty close. Pretty sure he is telling the truth. He also had not been with many women before marriage. There’s a lot of intimacy between us. But I am pretty sure I will be the woman that broke the dam and even though I’m his first AP, I won’t be his last.

You are a fool! Why do you believe a liar?

She’s a liar too, she’s married too, so what difference does it make to her? I don’t know why people stick to this narrative that the OW is a victim… this woman is clearly not a victim and doesn’t really care that much about the OM. She’s having a workmanlike affair, which is apparently something some women can do.

[Anonymous]

The levels of self-deception in this thread are off the charts.

[Anonymous]

Ladies, get real! After 15 years of marriage many of you park your husbands in the friend zone or worse as your priorities are your kids, book clubs, social media, what’s new at lululemon and pumpkin spice latte at Starbucks. Eventually, your husband will look for companionship and sex elsewhere even if she isn’t as attractive as you believe you are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This isn’t what I have observed. Happily married men don’t cheat with ugly women.

Happily married men don’t cheat.

My AP is content enough in his marriage. And I have no intention of leaving either. But I am more beautiful than his wife and he says I’m the best sex of his life.

I bet he says this to all his APs.

We’ve known each other a few years and are pretty close. Pretty sure he is telling the truth. He also had not been with many women before marriage. There’s a lot of intimacy between us. But I am pretty sure I will be the woman that broke the dam and even though I’m his first AP, I won’t be his last.

You are a fool! Why do you believe a liar?

I don't really care one way or the other? Why am I a fool? I am getting exactly what I want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ladies, get real! After 15 years of marriage many of you park your husbands in the friend zone or worse as your priorities are your kids, book clubs, social media, what’s new at lululemon and pumpkin spice latte at Starbucks. Eventually, your husband will look for companionship and sex elsewhere even if she isn’t as attractive as you believe you are.

I think you hit on something - many women in the DMV think they are (far) prettier than they actually are.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This isn’t what I have observed. Happily married men don’t cheat with ugly women.

Happily married men don’t cheat.

My AP is content enough in his marriage. And I have no intention of leaving either. But I am more beautiful than his wife and he says I’m the best sex of his life.

I bet he says this to all his APs.

We’ve known each other a few years and are pretty close. Pretty sure he is telling the truth. He also had not been with many women before marriage. There’s a lot of intimacy between us. But I am pretty sure I will be the woman that broke the dam and even though I’m his first AP, I won’t be his last.

You are a fool! Why do you believe a liar?

She’s a liar too, she’s married too, so what difference does it make to her? I don’t know why people stick to this narrative that the OW is a victim… this woman is clearly not a victim and doesn’t really care that much about the OM. She’s having a workmanlike affair, which is apparently something some women can do.

True but it’s bizarre and is so gullible