Why is the OW less attractive?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe the other woman is nice, pleasant and isn’t always complaining. Some women simply wear a man down.

What does she have to complain about in the one hour or so a week she goes to bang him?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Like a PP said, it's about availability and willingness. Gorgeous women are generally not available and willing to get the OW $h*tty-end-of-the-stick from a man. Unattractive women are willing to put up with a lot more BS because they are afraid they can't do better.

This. They are punching way above their weight. They can only do that with married men who are just looking for outside sex and not permanent relationships.

That’s what I’ve seen. And when the ow starts getting more attached or pressing for more time, he will blow up on her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Like a PP said, it's about availability and willingness. Gorgeous women are generally not available and willing to get the OW $h*tty-end-of-the-stick from a man. Unattractive women are willing to put up with a lot more BS because they are afraid they can't do better.

This. They are punching way above their weight. They can only do that with married men who are just looking for outside sex and not permanent relationships.

Probably the OW is also only looking for sex and not a permanent relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It has been my experience from seeing friends and family members, that the “other woman” is less attractive than the man’s wife.

For example, my friend is tall, beautiful, accomplished, and her husband’s mistress is short, fat, and not as well educated. I saw it with my aunt and with my sister-in-law.

What gives? Why would a man go for something worse?

1) This isn’t consistently true. Especially in cultures where marriages are either arranged or otherwise not love matches.
2) Looks aren’t everything. I’ve heard men say that they craved kindness from women. There are also less beautiful women who are charismatic and very sexually adept. Cleopatra was not a beauty, but she had a magnetic personality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This isn’t what I have observed. Happily married men don’t cheat with ugly women.

Happily married men don’t cheat.

[Anonymous]

Because when you pick a partner you are picking from a wider pool of people (those that want to date single people). But when you have an affair not everyone is interested in that so there are fewer people to pick from. I don’t personally know any OW or OM that have been better looking than the official partner but I’m sure it could theoretically happen

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because when you pick a partner you are picking from a wider pool of people (those that want to date single people). But when you have an affair not everyone is interested in that so there are fewer people to pick from. I don’t personally know any OW or OM that have been better looking than the official partner but I’m sure it could theoretically happen

It’s this. The kind of women willing to be OW aren’t great people to begin with (character flaws to be part of that) and they aren’t in abundance. So you have a small pool and the men are less picky. It’s not somebody they are going to be seen with in public remember.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They always are. It’s not really about looks, just availability and willingness.

This and that homely, loser women will work extra hard in bed and also put up with being a side piece.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They always are. It’s not really about looks, just availability and willingness.

This and that homely, loser women will work extra hard in bed and also put up with being a side piece.

Delusional, both of you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They’re not; this is a myth that betrayed wives cling to in order to comfort themselves.

We've seen these women. They are less than in every way.

[Anonymous]

Some things are more important than looks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They’re not; this is a myth that betrayed wives cling to in order to comfort themselves.

We've seen these women. They are less than in every way.

I’ve seen some who were gorgeous. Unfortunately, my family on both sides is full of philandering men. My middle aged uncles all had beautiful young mistresses.

[Anonymous]

The OW has issues, perhap based at least in part in her looks, that cause her to settle for being OW.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Like a PP said, it's about availability and willingness. Gorgeous women are generally not available and willing to get the OW $h*tty-end-of-the-stick from a man. Unattractive women are willing to put up with a lot more BS because they are afraid they can't do better.

This. They are punching way above their weight. They can only do that with married men who are just looking for outside sex and not permanent relationships.

[Probably the OW is also only looking for sex and not a permanent relationship.

WRONG. Men like to believe this, but it’s at their peril.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Like a PP said, it's about availability and willingness. Gorgeous women are generally not available and willing to get the OW $h*tty-end-of-the-stick from a man. Unattractive women are willing to put up with a lot more BS because they are afraid they can't do better.

This. They are punching way above their weight. They can only do that with married men who are just looking for outside sex and not permanent relationships.

[Probably the OW is also only looking for sex and not a permanent relationship.

WRONG. Men like to believe this, but it’s at their peril.

Agree, they hope for a commitment.