Why don’t elderly people “get” autism?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am team your mom here. That mother should have apologized for her kids rude behavior.

Why don't younger people "get" manners when their kids have rude behavior?

See, I disagree here. It’s rude to bother someone in a grocery store. I don’t want to talk to your dumb ass either.

I back my kid up in public places with old people. Get your own lives, and frankly you’re mostly slow and in my way, so I hope I hurt your feelings enough to STAY HOME. I don’t feel like being pleasant to strange weirdos killing time by creeping my kids out.

Can't wait for age to catch up to you and you get treated like how you described. You are setting such a great model for your children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am team your mom here. That mother should have apologized for her kids rude behavior.

Why don't younger people "get" manners when their kids have rude behavior?

See, I disagree here. It’s rude to bother someone in a grocery store. I don’t want to talk to your dumb ass either.

I back my kid up in public places with old people. Get your own lives, and frankly you’re mostly slow and in my way, so I hope I hurt your feelings enough to STAY HOME. I don’t feel like being pleasant to strange weirdos killing time by creeping my kids out.

Can't wait for age to catch up to you and you get treated like how you described. You are setting such a great model for your children.

I’m a Zeke Emanuel disciple and rich AF. I won’t be a burden.

[Anonymous]

My grandma was always so sweet, until she wasn’t. She’s 75 now and has been cognitively declining the last several years. She says some of the most horrible things. She complains about “too many colored people on the TV”, about how “Mexicans are ruining the US”, how she’s “sick of seeing gay and lesbian people in the streets. According to her “they should really keep that to themselves”. She believes “kids don’t have autism, they just need a beating”, she says that I don’t really have anxiety and depression “it doesn’t exist. I just overthink things”. She is also the first (and only) person to point out whenever I lose or gain weight (it fluctuates due to PCOS). I don’t know if she has just lost her filter, is losing her mind, or is becoming less tolerant. I think all of the above.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think that the medicalisation / diagnosis of every personality trait and the loosening of behavioral expectations has been beneficial for childrearing. Psychic distress among children, and indicators like suicide teens, are at all time highs. I think our grandparents might know some things about childrearing that have been lost.

Agree with this 100%

[Anonymous]

Also agree. We’re creating more anxiety with this extreme focus and labeling

[Anonymous]

It's not age. It's personality. No one in their 70s or even 80s that I know would be that clueless.

Let's be tolerant of disabilities, but also at the same time make sure ageism doesn't get a free pass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not age. It's personality. No one in their 70s or even 80s that I know would be that clueless.

Let's be tolerant of disabilities, but also at the same time make sure ageism doesn't get a free pass.

It's not ageist to acknowledge that elderly individuals have typically lose their mental faculties. Or that they grew up during a period of time when racism and ableism were more socially acceptable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In earlier times it was much more common for children to have meltdowns in the grocery store. Grocery deliveries to homes did not exist. Parents had to take their kids with them to get groceries. When meltdowns happened the parent would be apologetic to the grocery clerk and those around them. It is really a matter of the parent having common courtesy to those around them in the community.

Exactly! Parents these days!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m at a loss with my mother. She’s in her mid-70s. I was out at the grocery store with her and we were in line when she caught the eye of one of two little boys in line behind her. The first boy carried on a short conversation with her, and then she moved on to converse with the other boy, only this caused him to have a mini-meltdown, stomping, pulling his hair and loudly screaming NO! NO! NO! at my mother. The mother of the boy simply tried to calm the boy down and ignored my mother.

In the car my mother couldn’t believe how the boy had “treated her”, and chastised the mother for not correcting him or apologizing for him. “She just let him act that way and speak to me like that!” I attempted to explain that he was likely autistic, or otherwise differently-abled, but she wasn’t having it.

Why are they so clueless about these disabilities yet claim to know everything about literally anything else?

I wonder how/why you're so clueless. How much experience has your mom had with anyone with a disability? Do you know that disabled people used to be institutionalized or otherwise hidden away? I'm 53, when my disability was diagnosed my mom was told to put me in a home. While growing up, my mom knew a family who put their disabled son in a closet when anyone came over. Kids who misbehaved at school or home were physically disciplined... no matter the reason.

Your mom doesn't "get it" because it's out of her realm of experience. Some 20/30/40 year oldest better hope nothing changes as they get older.

PP, would you mind sharing your disability? I find it fascinating that you’re only 53 (I’m 60) and doctors advised your parents to institutionalise you, yet here you are, an obviously bright, interesting woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am team your mom here. That mother should have apologized for her kids rude behavior.

Why don't younger people "get" manners when their kids have rude behavior?

See, I disagree here. It’s rude to bother someone in a grocery store. I don’t want to talk to your dumb ass either.

I back my kid up in public places with old people. Get your own lives, and frankly you’re mostly slow and in my way, so I hope I hurt your feelings enough to STAY HOME. I don’t feel like being pleasant to strange weirdos killing time by creeping my kids out.

Can't wait for age to catch up to you and you get treated like how you described. You are setting such a great model for your children.

I’m a Zeke Emanuel disciple and rich AF. I won’t be a burden.

Funniest post of the day!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m at a loss with my mother. She’s in her mid-70s. I was out at the grocery store with her and we were in line when she caught the eye of one of two little boys in line behind her. The first boy carried on a short conversation with her, and then she moved on to converse with the other boy, only this caused him to have a mini-meltdown, stomping, pulling his hair and loudly screaming NO! NO! NO! at my mother. The mother of the boy simply tried to calm the boy down and ignored my mother.

In the car my mother couldn’t believe how the boy had “treated her”, and chastised the mother for not correcting him or apologizing for him. “She just let him act that way and speak to me like that!” I attempted to explain that he was likely autistic, or otherwise differently-abled, but she wasn’t having it.

Why are they so clueless about these disabilities yet claim to know everything about literally anything else?

I wonder how/why you're so clueless. How much experience has your mom had with anyone with a disability? Do you know that disabled people used to be institutionalized or otherwise hidden away? I'm 53, when my disability was diagnosed my mom was told to put me in a home. While growing up, my mom knew a family who put their disabled son in a closet when anyone came over. Kids who misbehaved at school or home were physically disciplined... no matter the reason.

Your mom doesn't "get it" because it's out of her realm of experience. Some 20/30/40 year oldest better hope nothing changes as they get older.

PP, would you mind sharing your disability? I find it fascinating that you’re only 53 (I’m 60) and doctors advised your parents to institutionalise you, yet here you are, an obviously bright, interesting woman.

Cerebral Palsy

[Anonymous]

Because they’re undiagnosed themselves?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am team your mom here. That mother should have apologized for her kids rude behavior.

Why don't younger people "get" manners when their kids have rude behavior?

See, I disagree here. It’s rude to bother someone in a grocery store. I don’t want to talk to your dumb ass either.

I back my kid up in public places with old people. Get your own lives, and frankly you’re mostly slow and in my way, so I hope I hurt your feelings enough to STAY HOME. I don’t feel like being pleasant to strange weirdos killing time by creeping my kids out.

You’re gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am team your mom here. That mother should have apologized for her kids rude behavior.

Why don't younger people "get" manners when their kids have rude behavior?

See, I disagree here. It’s rude to bother someone in a grocery store. I don’t want to talk to your dumb ass either.

I back my kid up in public places with old people. Get your own lives, and frankly you’re mostly slow and in my way, so I hope I hurt your feelings enough to STAY HOME. I don’t feel like being pleasant to strange weirdos killing time by creeping my kids out.

Can't wait for age to catch up to you and you get treated like how you described. You are setting such a great model for your children.

I’m a Zeke Emanuel disciple and rich AF. I won’t be a burden.

Sure, Jan. Here’s that attention you ordered.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m at a loss with my mother. She’s in her mid-70s. I was out at the grocery store with her and we were in line when she caught the eye of one of two little boys in line behind her. The first boy carried on a short conversation with her, and then she moved on to converse with the other boy, only this caused him to have a mini-meltdown, stomping, pulling his hair and loudly screaming NO! NO! NO! at my mother. The mother of the boy simply tried to calm the boy down and ignored my mother.

In the car my mother couldn’t believe how the boy had “treated her”, and chastised the mother for not correcting him or apologizing for him. “She just let him act that way and speak to me like that!” I attempted to explain that he was likely autistic, or otherwise differently-abled, but she wasn’t having it.

Why are they so clueless about these disabilities yet claim to know everything about literally anything else?

Leave your kids at home if they don't know how to behave in public. I don't care what their special needs are.