Wedding Gifts for future daughter in law

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Anonymous wrote:Are you sure she doesn't like any kind of jewelry? Is it possible she just couldn't afford what she really wants?

I'm a nurse. I stopped wearing jewelry when I started working because confused patients pull on it and I could get hurt or it could get broken. Then I stopped wearing jewelry at all because I was used to NOT wearing it.

I have many lovely expensive pieces that I never wear because I just don't wear jewelry anymore.

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Is the gift about you, or is it about her?

If it’s about you, get her something that you would like, or take a suggestion from a Boomer stranger online.

If it’s about her, ask her, or at the very least, ask your son.

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My mom gave us a really nice pitcher which had a theme that was meaningful to us. She filled it with several hundred dollars in singles to use for tips on our honeymoon. We loved it!

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I would consider an expensive serving bowl, Tiffany maybe. If they hate it, they can put it away and never look at it.

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Anonymous wrote:A painting?

I hate it when people buy art for my house. My house is very personal to me. Please don't presume to decorate it.

+1 please please do not buy art for someone unless you know they want it

+100 this is how my issues with my MIL started. don't decorate my house for me

[Anonymous]

Cash toward honeymoon

Discuss with your DIL that you’d like to give her a meaningful gift and ask what she would like

Gift card or cash toward home furniture

Spa day gift card

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The only good answer in this thread is the tree. But don't pick the tree out for this woman, let them pick it out.

I think a tree is great if they are in a forever house. A newly married couple likely isn't in their forever home.

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Buying her a painting would be making their home about you. JUST NO, MIL.

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Anonymous wrote:I would consider an expensive serving bowl, Tiffany maybe. If they hate it, they can put it away and never look at it.

this is about the least personal gift you can give. people don't do expensive dinnerware anymore.

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Anonymous wrote:The only good answer in this thread is the tree. But don't pick the tree out for this woman, let them pick it out.

I think a tree is great if they are in a forever house. A newly married couple likely isn't in their forever home.

There is no such thing as a forever home. Live in the moment.

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Anonymous wrote:The only good answer in this thread is the tree. But don't pick the tree out for this woman, let them pick it out.

I think a tree is great if they are in a forever house. A newly married couple likely isn't in their forever home.

There is no such thing as a forever home. Live in the moment.

then why do you think a tree is such a great gift? MIL wants them to treasure it. Not the next homeowner.

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Anonymous wrote:DIL here. Definitely not art! Of the ideas listed here, I would personally like the spa day and the classic Chanel bag.

+1 young DIL here. I really recommend against the art. I love my in-laws dearly, truly, but we have different styles and they have given us art before and then there is pressure to put it up even though it is not at all what I would have chosen. I realize spa day is probably not the type of gift you were thinking of OP, it sounds like you were thinking more heirloom. I'm not really a purse person, but a very simple bag I could use at weddings might work. I really didn't expect a gift from my MIL on the wedding day for what it's worth (and she didn't give me anything).

I would be cautious with these recs as I do agree they sound like other folks in your age range giving ideas.

The most meaningful thing to me probably would have been a heartfelt note. That would be really kind! In the note you could say that you would love to pick out a plant or tree together that you would purchase that blooms around the time of their anniversary. Can be indoor or outdoor if they have a home already. A family member did this for me for my son's birthday and it was so thoughtful. And since she likes gardening (for others it would be too much pressure to keep the plant alive!)

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Anonymous wrote:Cash toward honeymoon

Discuss with your DIL that you’d like to give her a meaningful gift and ask what she would like

Gift card or cash toward home furniture

Spa day gift card

This!

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Anonymous wrote:What about an electronic picture frame? You can preload childhood pictures of your son, and current pictures of the couple maybe even conspire with her mother to get pictures from her childhood. (just them, though - there may be times they won’t want to look over and see you or other extended family members looking back. If they want you in the rotation, they can add you in). Then, over time, they can add pictures of the life they build together.

OMG. Could some young people please chime in??? No one besides my 80 year old mother wants this gift.

What is your suggestion?

Probably doesn’t have one.

Ok, young people, what would this bride like? Op said she likes to garden. Something to plant in honor of their wedding day?

Young person here - I think jewelry is still the right gift. At some point she’s going to need to wear fancy jewelry so it will be worn.

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Have you checked her registry? For my shower my MIL gave me my kitchen aid mixer and my mother gave me 2 Le Creuset pots. I still use them both regularly 15 years later. In my experience women who don't like jewelry will probably not like a Chanel bag. My ILs paid for our rehearsal dinner but I don't think they gave us a wedding gift. My parents paid for the wedding then purchased the china and crystal pieces that were left on our registry so that we had a complete set.