Tips on having a discreet, private pregnancy, birth and postpartum experience?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I really doubt anyone is going to care, OP, because you sound really odd. I’m concerned re what this is going to do to your child, however. Children deserve to be acknowledged and celebrated.

Of course they don’t.

Are you the same bitter MIL posting on the holiday thread?

+1

Amazing how MILs who had a negative wedding/marriage/brith/you name it experience want the same for their DILs. So gross!

[Anonymous]

Wtf did I just read. Are you Mossad?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Currently 7 weeks pg.

What I (and also DH) do not want:
-A baby shower
-To be photographed while pregnant
-Anyone we know besides DH & I at the hospital
-To announce the pregnancy prior to 1-2 months before the birth
-any social media posts about the pregnancy

Absolutely no way are either of our parents stepping foot in our house until baby is several months old, nor will we be willing to travel with baby before that time.

We don’t care about strangers, coworkers, friends or acquaintances knowing. We have clingy families. They all live 2-4 hours away.

We did not “announce” the pregnancy at all. At 20 weeks I had to tell work for planning purposes. We shared with some family at that point also but it was absolutely clear to them that nothing was to go on social media, etc.

Planned c-section and ofc no one else was at the hospital; that is 100% your choice.

Given the likelihood that you will be photographed by ubiquitous surveillance cameras while pregnant, I would give up the aspiration of appearing nowhere on film/digital (if that is what you are referring to). But you absolutely do not have to have those God-awful “pregnancy photo shoot” pics taken. Just don’t schedule or pay for any and you’re good.

[Anonymous]

It's not hard. Just... don't tell anyone you don't want to. Be explicit about boundaries with those who know about it (parents, in-laws, etc).

I had the same preferences as you and just had to say no quite a few times - to baby showers, to in-laws visiting at hospital/home soon after birth. I did not announce pregnancy at work or to friends.

Believe it or not most people have enough going on in their own lives and are not waiting to pounce on a new baby.... or the mother. It's within your control how much information to let out and when.

And yes, I did enjoy my very private pregnancy and postpartum!

[Anonymous]

Deleted my Instagram, Snapchat & Facebook accounts. By that I mean, I permanently deleted my accounts, not just the apps.