What would you do in this situation?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here with an update - I just couldn't stop thinking about it so I texted my friend. I think part of the issue is that I'd been having a stressful time lately, hadn't gone out to eat in ages, was really looking forward to the meal, and then my friend (who does not have my concerns) just callously swiped her fork through my dish and it felt symbolic of so much more.

So basically I texted her asking to meet up for a walk to discuss it. We're going to walk tomorrow and I will bring it up as an entree (no pun intended) into the bigger issues I see with her not being empathetic to what I have been dealing with in life lately.

You are obsessing and are projecting on your friend. If you really want to enjoy your enchiladas, just go get takeout, sit outside and just chill for a little bit. Hopefully this will let you calm down and ensure you don't lose a friend over something this petty.

OP. I suggest you get yourself into therapy. This cannot be for real.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In a related subject...We have a group of friends that we go out to dinner with. They share food - they offer and pass around what's on their plate, and expect me to share my appetizers and dinner. I do not want to do this. If I order and pay for my food, I want to eat it. I don't like the possibility of germs as the plate passes and people take some, and I also do not like having to give portions out to people (to keep my plate germ safe.) I don't mean to sound paranoid here...I just want to order and eat and pay for my own dinner myself. Anyone have any advice for me?

Say “Joey doesn’t share food” and mean it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She was gross, and wrong. I would have been really passive-aggressive about it, put my fork down and dumped my plate of food into hers. Then re-order another.

That’s just aggressive-aggressive, nothing passive about it.

[Anonymous]

I’m so confused. Why did you not eat the rest of the food? Presumable the form touched a very small area. Do you have a mental illness you neglected to mention?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Repeat after me: “I’m sorry, but I’m not comfortable sharing food that way. Going forward, I’m happy for us each to cut a piece of our dishes to exchange before we start eating if you’d like to share.”

Yikes, no one should ever repeat this.

"Hey, that's my dinner! I'm sorry you have menu envy, but I don't want your cooties on my food."

You think implying someone has “cooties” is better than making a polite statement in proper adult English? Okay…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In a related subject...We have a group of friends that we go out to dinner with. They share food - they offer and pass around what's on their plate, and expect me to share my appetizers and dinner. I do not want to do this. If I order and pay for my food, I want to eat it. I don't like the possibility of germs as the plate passes and people take some, and I also do not like having to give portions out to people (to keep my plate germ safe.) I don't mean to sound paranoid here...I just want to order and eat and pay for my own dinner myself. Anyone have any advice for me?

Say “Joey doesn’t share food” and mean it.

My first thought, too.