What would you do in this situation?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OK, I actually texted her asking to chat about it. Stay tuned.

Freak.

Why is this freakish? Sometimes it's good to be refreshingly honest and transparent with people.

At the time, sure. A week later? No, she will appear to be ridiculous, because she is. Not for not wanting to share, but for arranging a conversation to talk about it later. OP, use this as a learning opportunity for yourself to speak up when something you don’t like is happening, and otherwise move on.

[Anonymous]

I have a friend who does this with desserts. Won't order one for herself but expects to have "just a bite" of mine, which turned into polishing off half the dessert until I told her, hey happy to let you try a bite, but if you want more than that, order your own because this is the only time I eat sweets.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OK, I actually texted her asking to chat about it. Stay tuned.

Freak.

Why is this freakish? Sometimes it's good to be refreshingly honest and transparent with people.

At the time, sure. A week later? No, she will appear to be ridiculous, because she is. Not for not wanting to share, but for arranging a conversation to talk about it later. OP, use this as a learning opportunity for yourself to speak up when something you don’t like is happening, and otherwise move on.

I think she can say that she should have said something at the time, but she doesn’t like to food share, and wanted to let her know before they go out again. No asking for reimbursement, obviously.

[Anonymous]

Why are you hanging out with someone who you obviously think is germ ridden?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OK, I actually texted her asking to chat about it. Stay tuned.

Freak.

Why is this freakish? Sometimes it's good to be refreshingly honest and transparent with people.

Which would have been fine IN the moment. A week later it's strange and obsessive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You cannot ask her for cost of the meal. She was rude, you should have said something at the time but didn’t. Let it go.
As a side note assuming she doesn’t have some contagious disease I would have still eaten my meal.

Plus 100

[Anonymous]

OP come back and tell us how this conversation went!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OK, I actually texted her asking to chat about it. Stay tuned.

You're going to lose a friend and she's going to get a good cocktail party story. Especially if you ask for reimbursement.

I have never been to a cocktail party where anyone would be amused by a story of someone boorishly digging in to someone else food.

I personally would just not eat with that person again, so hats off to OP for attempting to bring it up and create a boundary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OK, I actually texted her asking to chat about it. Stay tuned.

You're going to lose a friend and she's going to get a good cocktail party story. Especially if you ask for reimbursement.

I have never been to a cocktail party where anyone would be amused by a story of someone boorishly digging in to someone else food.

I personally would just not eat with that person again, so hats off to OP for attempting to bring it up and create a boundary.[/quote
If she brought it up at the time, that's fair. We all agree the initial behavior is rude. But if you are holding a summit to "establish your boundary" days later and are so germaphobic you couldn't cut around and continue your meal? Fine, but you're extremely, extremely neurotic. The reaction is is so hilariously over the top. Does she vomit on site at the prospect of tapas?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Last week, I was out to dinner with a friend and was really enjoying a delicious lobster enchilada plate. My friend asked to try some, so I put a bit, using a clean knife, onto her plate. She said, "Wow, this is amazing" -- then dug back into my plate using her dirty fork, piercing the center of my entree!! Which made me grossed out so I didn't eat any more of it. It was expensive too. Somehow this has been eating at me, no pun intended, because I rarely eat out and it was a special meal that I then couldn't eat.
I didn't say anything at the time and she didn't notice that I stopped eating, just switched to chips.
I was almost thinking of sending her a text asking her to please Venmo me for the cost of the meal but that seems really aggressive, right?

Since you asked what would we do, I wouldn't do anything about this particular incident a week after it happened (I certainly wouldn't mention it or ask for money for my meal back). The next time you go out to eat with her, mention that you really don't like to share food and then don't.

But the most important thing I would do, is get some therapy for my OCD/fear of germs

[Anonymous]

I think it's funny that people who are happy to eat in a restaurant where you have no idea who has coughed or sneezed on your food can absolutely freak out if the tines of someone's fork has touched a teeny tiny spot of your food. What are you worried about catching via that bite of food that you aren't going to get in the restaurant bathroom?

I would try to relax a bit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's funny that people who are happy to eat in a restaurant where you have no idea who has coughed or sneezed on your food can absolutely freak out if the tines of someone's fork has touched a teeny tiny spot of your food. What are you worried about catching via that bite of food that you aren't going to get in the restaurant bathroom?

I would try to relax a bit.

And I'm not saying this because I'm the type to steal a bit of my friends food straight from their plate, but because I don't care if someone else did this to me. Now if someone ate half my dessert that a pp said a few comments back--that would annoy me because I want my dessert

[Anonymous]

Let it go and move on.
Even if you finished that meal you will be hungry today.

[Anonymous]

Lol undoubtedly OP thinks she is going to get that Venmo.

I agree OP I would have been grossed out and not ate. But say something at the time. You are making this so much weirder than it needs to be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP where are these lobster enchiladas?

Yes, we want to know!