Why is it so hard for young adults to find good partners?

[Anonymous]

Many say they want to be single and childfree because they see admitting of not being able to find a good relationship as a personal failure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Many say they want to be single and childfree because they see admitting of not being able to find a good relationship as a personal failure.

Not everyone is interested in a relationship.

[Anonymous]

Because they call them partners.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because social media has led women to believe most “average” guys make 6 figs, are 6ft tall, have a nice car, and are 6in downstairs when in reality this is the top 5-10% of men. Therefore all women chase the top 10% and the average men are left behind and labeled as “incels”

I know a lot of women that make six figures, can take care of children and cook and are pretty and fit and have at least a size B breast. It's more than 5-10%.

By and large women have their $hit together and most of the males don’t.

[Anonymous]

Because they have parents like the lady in the other thread about the 21 year old sleeping with his gf! 😂

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The culture of instant gratification, the in-person awkwardness after so much screen time, the imbalanced male-female ratio at colleges, the idea that you have to have all the boxes checked before settling down, the decline of social pressure to get married and have children, the ideal of your partner being your all-in-one emotional, economic, physical soulmate...

Add to that (and this is part of instant gratification) addiction to pornography. I am a millennial woman and all the men my age I ever dated had this problem and therefore "performed" like men 60+ years old.

And the culture of every young person having a diagnosed mental health problem and being on medication probably doesn't help. Many psych meds mess with libido, too. I'm sure they help some young people, but for the majority of teens, I don't think the benefits outweigh the risks.

One thing I will say about this PP, which I largely agree with, is that I think the declining pressure to marry/have children is a good thing. Many people should not have kids. Many people should have fewer kids than the "2.5" picket fence ideal. It is good to be thoughtful and cautious about these choices.

PP you replied to. Good point about pornography. Broader than psych meds, I would look to the decline in emotional strength/resilience. Young people complain about how difficult “adulting” is.

I think the poster who mentioned the decline in the importance of religion is correct that this may also be a contributing factor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The culture of instant gratification, the in-person awkwardness after so much screen time, the imbalanced male-female ratio at colleges, the idea that you have to have all the boxes checked before settling down, the decline of social pressure to get married and have children, the ideal of your partner being your all-in-one emotional, economic, physical soulmate...

Add to that (and this is part of instant gratification) addiction to pornography. I am a millennial woman and all the men my age I ever dated had this problem and therefore "performed" like men 60+ years old.

And the culture of every young person having a diagnosed mental health problem and being on medication probably doesn't help. Many psych meds mess with libido, too. I'm sure they help some young people, but for the majority of teens, I don't think the benefits outweigh the risks.

One thing I will say about this PP, which I largely agree with, is that I think the declining pressure to marry/have children is a good thing. Many people should not have kids. Many people should have fewer kids than the "2.5" picket fence ideal. It is good to be thoughtful and cautious about these choices.

PP you replied to. Good point about pornography. Broader than psych meds, I would look to the decline in emotional strength/resilience. Young people complain about how difficult “adulting” is.

I think the poster who mentioned the decline in the importance of religion is correct that this may also be a contributing factor.

Adulting is f*ing hard. Every day. Draining. What are we doing differently as millennials that makes us feel that way more than other generations?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The culture of instant gratification, the in-person awkwardness after so much screen time, the imbalanced male-female ratio at colleges, the idea that you have to have all the boxes checked before settling down, the decline of social pressure to get married and have children, the ideal of your partner being your all-in-one emotional, economic, physical soulmate...

Add to that (and this is part of instant gratification) addiction to pornography. I am a millennial woman and all the men my age I ever dated had this problem and therefore "performed" like men 60+ years old.

And the culture of every young person having a diagnosed mental health problem and being on medication probably doesn't help. Many psych meds mess with libido, too. I'm sure they help some young people, but for the majority of teens, I don't think the benefits outweigh the risks.

One thing I will say about this PP, which I largely agree with, is that I think the declining pressure to marry/have children is a good thing. Many people should not have kids. Many people should have fewer kids than the "2.5" picket fence ideal. It is good to be thoughtful and cautious about these choices.

PP you replied to. Good point about pornography. Broader than psych meds, I would look to the decline in emotional strength/resilience. Young people complain about how difficult “adulting” is.

I think the poster who mentioned the decline in the importance of religion is correct that this may also be a contributing factor.

Adulting is f*ing hard. Every day. Draining. What are we doing differently as millennials that makes us feel that way more than other generations?

The rise of “regressive” (socialist/woke) culture has created a weak generation with rapidly declining health and fertility. The woke culture has a foundation of death and suicide. The parents who started a war against Mother Nature will lose horribly. Mother Nature always wins in the end either by conforming her insurrectionists or extincting them.

[Anonymous]

Men are falling behind. Many young women are not interested in being the breadwinner AND default parent. It’s a sh!t deal and they know it.

These young women are making big money and don’t NEED men. Many of the guys haven’t caught on yet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men are falling behind. Many young women are not interested in being the breadwinner AND default parent. It’s a sh!t deal and they know it.

These young women are making big money and don’t NEED men. Many of the guys haven’t caught on yet.

The war of the sexes takes a interesting twist. In other words, men are choosing living over money. Men have the upper hand because they don’t care about “nesting” “family” or “stability”. They can happily exist in Chaos. All the burden for women’s desires falls on their own shoulders. Although they do need men to invent, create and build 99 percent of civilized infrastructure, systems, modern machines and devices, political systems, food production, medicine, education systems, technology and intoxication substances/fluids.

[Anonymous]

I never felt the need to find a partner. I bought my own home, and I am a single mom by choice. I was not going to give anyone legal access to my kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The culture of instant gratification, the in-person awkwardness after so much screen time, the imbalanced male-female ratio at colleges, the idea that you have to have all the boxes checked before settling down, the decline of social pressure to get married and have children, the ideal of your partner being your all-in-one emotional, economic, physical soulmate...

Add to that (and this is part of instant gratification) addiction to pornography. I am a millennial woman and all the men my age I ever dated had this problem and therefore "performed" like men 60+ years old.

And the culture of every young person having a diagnosed mental health problem and being on medication probably doesn't help. Many psych meds mess with libido, too. I'm sure they help some young people, but for the majority of teens, I don't think the benefits outweigh the risks.

One thing I will say about this PP, which I largely agree with, is that I think the declining pressure to marry/have children is a good thing. Many people should not have kids. Many people should have fewer kids than the "2.5" picket fence ideal. It is good to be thoughtful and cautious about these choices.

PP you replied to. Good point about pornography. Broader than psych meds, I would look to the decline in emotional strength/resilience. Young people complain about how difficult “adulting” is.

I think the poster who mentioned the decline in the importance of religion is correct that this may also be a contributing factor.

Adulting is f*ing hard. Every day. Draining. What are we doing differently as millennials that makes us feel that way more than other generations?

The rise of “regressive” (socialist/woke) culture has created a weak generation with rapidly declining health and fertility. The woke culture has a foundation of death and suicide. The parents who started a war against Mother Nature will lose horribly. Mother Nature always wins in the end either by conforming her insurrectionists or extincting them.

You do you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never felt the need to find a partner. I bought my own home, and I am a single mom by choice. I was not going to give anyone legal access to my kid.

Same here. And just because I wanted a kid, doesn’t mean I wanted to be in a marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because social media has led women to believe most “average” guys make 6 figs, are 6ft tall, have a nice car, and are 6in downstairs when in reality this is the top 5-10% of men. Therefore all women chase the top 10% and the average men are left behind and labeled as “incels”

I know a lot of women that make six figures, can take care of children and cook and are pretty and fit and have at least a size B breast. It's more than 5-10%.

By and large women have their $hit together and most of the males don’t.

By and large the men who have their "sh t" together have no room in their lives for angry women who think the world has done them wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The culture of instant gratification, the in-person awkwardness after so much screen time, the imbalanced male-female ratio at colleges, the idea that you have to have all the boxes checked before settling down, the decline of social pressure to get married and have children, the ideal of your partner being your all-in-one emotional, economic, physical soulmate...

Add to that (and this is part of instant gratification) addiction to pornography. I am a millennial woman and all the men my age I ever dated had this problem and therefore "performed" like men 60+ years old.

And the culture of every young person having a diagnosed mental health problem and being on medication probably doesn't help. Many psych meds mess with libido, too. I'm sure they help some young people, but for the majority of teens, I don't think the benefits outweigh the risks.

One thing I will say about this PP, which I largely agree with, is that I think the declining pressure to marry/have children is a good thing. Many people should not have kids. Many people should have fewer kids than the "2.5" picket fence ideal. It is good to be thoughtful and cautious about these choices.

PP you replied to. Good point about pornography. Broader than psych meds, I would look to the decline in emotional strength/resilience. Young people complain about how difficult “adulting” is.

I think the poster who mentioned the decline in the importance of religion is correct that this may also be a contributing factor.

Adulting is f*ing hard. Every day. Draining. What are we doing differently as millennials that makes us feel that way more than other generations?

The rise of “regressive” (socialist/woke) culture has created a weak generation with rapidly declining health and fertility. The woke culture has a foundation of death and suicide. The parents who started a war against Mother Nature will lose horribly. Mother Nature always wins in the end either by conforming her insurrectionists or extincting them.

Go back to rural Alabama