Why is it so hard for young adults to find good partners?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why is it so difficult for young adults to find suitable and sincere partners?

It isn't.

Take a look at relationship forum.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Our society skews to value individual goals. Young adults want what makes them happy without considering that the other person is also seeking to make only him/herself happy. Kids don't want to have to compromise or work WITH someone at life.

It’s not my child’s obligation to compromise their wishes for a relationship or settle down. Your post reads a little incel-y.

Not PP but must mention that they aren't wrong, neither are you. Love, happiness, health, companionship, family, career, hobbies goals, personal interests etc., all are important for a balanced life. Obviously percentages are different for every individual but basic ingredients aren't not all that different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is it so difficult for young adults to find suitable and sincere partners?

No model for what a suitable and sincere partner is?

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Idk why some posters are inserting race and class here. This is a generational issue, faced by so many, regardless of melanin in their skin or dollars in their pocket.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why is it so difficult for young adults to find suitable and sincere partners?

No model for what a suitable and sincere partner is?

That's a good point.

[Anonymous]

We have four daughters. All four have masters degrees and have flourishing careers. Three are married. The fourth is uninterested in marriage or a relationship and that’s just fine. The three that are married all married great guys and they’re all doing great. All three got married in their mid to late 20s.

I don’t know what planet you live on.

[Anonymous]

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Collapsing fertility from unhealthy woke medicated psycho culture.

Devolving and dying out end game.

There's a psycho here. But it's the one in your mirror, hon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have four daughters. All four have masters degrees and have flourishing careers. Three are married. The fourth is uninterested in marriage or a relationship and that’s just fine. The three that are married all married great guys and they’re all doing great. All three got married in their mid to late 20s.

I don’t know what planet you live on.

LOL!!!

The "I had a sandwich for lunch so there cannot be starving people anywhere else" mentality.

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Anonymous wrote:White men are not going to college so they are basically not good partners.

lolwut

Not PP but white men by and large aren’t attending college at the rates they used to. Many colleges are majority women.

And many women prefer to partner with a high-earning, college-educated male.

Sucks for whiteboys, I guess?

When colleges were majority male, did we say "sucks for whitegirls" or did we try to increase their participation in education?

Typical DCUM misandry.

Um, white men have had the doors to school (and everywhere else) open to them since the founding of this country (and beyond). LITERALLY, they don't have to "increase their participation." Becuase they had it handed to them. So if they are choosing not to now, why is that my concern?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is it so difficult for young adults to find suitable and sincere partners?

No model for what a suitable and sincere partner is?

That's a good point.

Not a representative sample.

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Is there actually data on this?

If it’s true, it’s probably because there is divergence between what men are looking for and what women are looking for in a relationship (for heterosexual couples).

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I honestly believe it's the instant gratification of dating apps. I've talked to several male friends about this (40's, married with elementary-aged kids and met their spouses in college) - had dating apps been around when we were in college, we likely would NOT have "settled down" with our spouses. Call it paradox of choice/choice paralysis - there are just so many options how do you know you have the best one?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We have four daughters. All four have masters degrees and have flourishing careers. Three are married. The fourth is uninterested in marriage or a relationship and that’s just fine. The three that are married all married great guys and they’re all doing great. All three got married in their mid to late 20s.

I don’t know what planet you live on.

LOL!!!

The "I had a sandwich for lunch so there cannot be starving people anywhere else" mentality.

No, the OP is the one generalizing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is it so difficult for young adults to find suitable and sincere partners?

Perhaps they don’t feel like first learning how BE a suitable and sincere partner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is it so difficult for young adults to find suitable and sincere partners?

Perhaps they don’t feel like first learning how BE a suitable and sincere partner.

*to BE