Question for older men who date much younger women

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Anonymous wrote:My gf is much younger than me (she is just under half of my age). She isn't needy and doesn't care a bit about money. Yes, we go on public dates and travel together. My friends know about her and at some point my family will too but I have always been silent with my family about my dating life. We are on each other's social media so people who look for me (or her) can see what we are up to. We are in a long-term relationship; she doesn't want to get married to anyone and doesn't want children. We talk for 2 to 4 hours a day every day about many different things. She is smart, much smarter than most of the women I have dated who were closer to my age.

She sounds damaged and you just don’t know her well enough to get into it.

Ignore. So many bitter women on this forum. Mostly first wives out to attack any new woman a man dates. Especially if she younger. Such miserable cows

Thank you for your expert psychoanalysis. How much do I owe you?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm mid 50s and male. I have never looked better, although I look more or less my age. (Maybe I look 5-10 years younger because I have been eating well, exercising, and dressing well lately.) My girlfriend is 20 years younger. She loves running her fingers through my salt and pepper hair and telling me how sexy it is.

I also have been very attracted to women my own age and older. based on those prior relationships, I completely agree with the prior comment that their hands, necks and faces age the most. Their sexual function seems different too. Though their bodies look fantastic, they seem slower to warm up and get lubricated than younger women. Forutnartely most of them still responded etremely well when I moved things along things slowly.

One thing that women of all ages have shown me is that a woman's sexul response depends a lot on where she is emotionally, how she is feeling at the moment, and how she likes to be held, touched, etc. I've had crazy hot sex for an extended period of time with a highly orgasmic woman who was almost 60, but she told me she went three years without having an O at the end of her marriage. I also totally flopped with a woman in her mid-30s. I couldn't get her off no matter what I did--she said she preferred much rougher men.

30s to me was the lowest libido age. Child birth really affected it, and I had multiple endometriosis related surgeries. It was insane high and fast multiple Os in my 20s. I remember being so wet it was slurping and sheets all wet. Men in early 30s were best marches sexually, we would spend many hours in bed and they could finish 3-4 times
In my 40s the libido from 20s is almost back now that my child is grown up. It does take longer to warm up (but there are good V creams for that, and it’s probably couple min difference). If a man is hot I still finish pretty fast, but men 5+ years older are more on same page with me in terms of tempo, amplitude and time it takes us both to O. I like finishing at the same time with him. A younger man has to finish first then rest then put it in again to let me finish.

It’s just different preferences depending on age. I can understand why 50 yo man would date a 30 yo women - it’s the lower libido years for women with kids, professional demanding jobs etc.

This is thing thats weird to me. People always assume that guys like women in their 20’s because they’re somehow prettier. I find women at every age attractive. Attractive people are attractive - go figure. And, I think this applies for both men and women. The real benefit to dating a younger woman (in the bedroom at least) isn’t the beauty, its the libido. It’s nice to not be the high libido partner for once trying to keep your sex lives from dying. Having a partner who also wants (like really wants) sex, initiates and wants to have fun is amazing. On the slurping part, that was pretty shocking too. Like I was pretty much struggling not to go crosseyed.

A 40-50 yo man is not a libido match for a high libido 20 yo woman. I think you are either overestimating your libido or are dating low libido 20- yo women. At least it wasn’t for me when I was 20s. Only multi orgasmic and capable staying hard for hours or could resume multiple times would truly satisfy me. I didn’t even touch 40s+ men (after one unlucky attempt - he only finished twice and couldn’t get hard again). I had plenty of fish in late 20-early 30 range. Now I am 40s but my dating range remained pretty much the same on the upper end (up to 7 years older); plus a new group - up to 5 years younger men- was added. I now find them sexually attractive but when I was 25 dating a 20 yo man wouldn’t be cool at all!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I"m mid 40's and a lot of women I date are mid-20's. They are college-educated and inquisitive and we never lack of things to talk about.

I'm also good at "schmoozing" in general, like at networking events and such, so maybe that helps. And I do like Taylor Swift songs but I'm not as into it as they seem to be.

Wow - do their parents tend to hate you?? I don’t find a 50 year old dating a 35 year old remarkable, but mid 20s is YOUNG and that seems creepy

Not the PP answering you here. IN my experience, most of them are on bad terms with their parents.

My much younger gf is from an intact family and on excellent terms with both of her parents. And that's been the case for every 20s woman I have dated.

Some women are just attracted to older men. Its not even about money. Maybe its something they get over or maybe their age range never changes and they eventually are dating men the same age, but its not uncommon. I’ve known a number of women like this.

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Anonymous wrote:I"m mid 40's and a lot of women I date are mid-20's. They are college-educated and inquisitive and we never lack of things to talk about.

I'm also good at "schmoozing" in general, like at networking events and such, so maybe that helps. And I do like Taylor Swift songs but I'm not as into it as they seem to be.

Wow - do their parents tend to hate you?? I don’t find a 50 year old dating a 35 year old remarkable, but mid 20s is YOUNG and that seems creepy

Not the PP answering you here. IN my experience, most of them are on bad terms with their parents.

Thaaaaat…makes a lot of sense.

+1

Another 50 something man here. Yes, most of the women who are more than 15 years younger have had bad relationships with their parents. Especially their mothers. (People say that such women have daddy issues, but I've seen more mommy issues.)

I have a very good relationship with my daughter. A lot of women I date find this very appealing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm mid 50s and male. I have never looked better, although I look more or less my age. (Maybe I look 5-10 years younger because I have been eating well, exercising, and dressing well lately.) My girlfriend is 20 years younger. She loves running her fingers through my salt and pepper hair and telling me how sexy it is.

I also have been very attracted to women my own age and older. based on those prior relationships, I completely agree with the prior comment that their hands, necks and faces age the most. Their sexual function seems different too. Though their bodies look fantastic, they seem slower to warm up and get lubricated than younger women. Forutnartely most of them still responded etremely well when I moved things along things slowly.

One thing that women of all ages have shown me is that a woman's sexul response depends a lot on where she is emotionally, how she is feeling at the moment, and how she likes to be held, touched, etc. I've had crazy hot sex for an extended period of time with a highly orgasmic woman who was almost 60, but she told me she went three years without having an O at the end of her marriage. I also totally flopped with a woman in her mid-30s. I couldn't get her off no matter what I did--she said she preferred much rougher men.

30s to me was the lowest libido age. Child birth really affected it, and I had multiple endometriosis related surgeries. It was insane high and fast multiple Os in my 20s. I remember being so wet it was slurping and sheets all wet. Men in early 30s were best marches sexually, we would spend many hours in bed and they could finish 3-4 times
In my 40s the libido from 20s is almost back now that my child is grown up. It does take longer to warm up (but there are good V creams for that, and it’s probably couple min difference). If a man is hot I still finish pretty fast, but men 5+ years older are more on same page with me in terms of tempo, amplitude and time it takes us both to O. I like finishing at the same time with him. A younger man has to finish first then rest then put it in again to let me finish.

It’s just different preferences depending on age. I can understand why 50 yo man would date a 30 yo women - it’s the lower libido years for women with kids, professional demanding jobs etc.

This is thing thats weird to me. People always assume that guys like women in their 20’s because they’re somehow prettier. I find women at every age attractive. Attractive people are attractive - go figure. And, I think this applies for both men and women. The real benefit to dating a younger woman (in the bedroom at least) isn’t the beauty, its the libido. It’s nice to not be the high libido partner for once trying to keep your sex lives from dying. Having a partner who also wants (like really wants) sex, initiates and wants to have fun is amazing. On the slurping part, that was pretty shocking too. Like I was pretty much struggling not to go crosseyed.

A 40-50 yo man is not a libido match for a high libido 20 yo woman. I think you are either overestimating your libido or are dating low libido 20- yo women. At least it wasn’t for me when I was 20s. Only multi orgasmic and capable staying hard for hours or could resume multiple times would truly satisfy me. I didn’t even touch 40s+ men (after one unlucky attempt - he only finished twice and couldn’t get hard again). I had plenty of fish in late 20-early 30 range. Now I am 40s but my dating range remained pretty much the same on the upper end (up to 7 years older); plus a new group - up to 5 years younger men- was added. I now find them sexually attractive but when I was 25 dating a 20 yo man wouldn’t be cool at all!

Wow. When I was a young man I wanted sex every day and that was too much for the women I was with. But I never did it 3 times in a day and rarely 2 times. I did give them plenty of Os though. Now tnat I am in older middle aged my drive is a bit lower. Finishing twice is pretty unusual, although it happens. Fortunately my tongue has a lot of endurance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I"m mid 40's and a lot of women I date are mid-20's. They are college-educated and inquisitive and we never lack of things to talk about.

I'm also good at "schmoozing" in general, like at networking events and such, so maybe that helps. And I do like Taylor Swift songs but I'm not as into it as they seem to be.

Wow - do their parents tend to hate you?? I don’t find a 50 year old dating a 35 year old remarkable, but mid 20s is YOUNG and that seems creepy

Not the PP answering you here. IN my experience, most of them are on bad terms with their parents.

Thaaaaat…makes a lot of sense.

+1

Another 50 something man here. Yes, most of the women who are more than 15 years younger have had bad relationships with their parents. Especially their mothers. (People say that such women have daddy issues, but I've seen more mommy issues.)

I have a very good relationship with my daughter. A lot of women I date find this very appealing.

How do you manage to perform with 20 yo women? Just curious. They need to get off several times, don’t they ?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I"m mid 40's and a lot of women I date are mid-20's. They are college-educated and inquisitive and we never lack of things to talk about.

I'm also good at "schmoozing" in general, like at networking events and such, so maybe that helps. And I do like Taylor Swift songs but I'm not as into it as they seem to be.

Wow - do their parents tend to hate you?? I don’t find a 50 year old dating a 35 year old remarkable, but mid 20s is YOUNG and that seems creepy

Not the PP answering you here. IN my experience, most of them are on bad terms with their parents.

Thaaaaat…makes a lot of sense.

+1

Another 50 something man here. Yes, most of the women who are more than 15 years younger have had bad relationships with their parents. Especially their mothers. (People say that such women have daddy issues, but I've seen more mommy issues.)

I have a very good relationship with my daughter. A lot of women I date find this very appealing.

How do you manage to perform with 20 yo women? Just curious. They need to get off several times, don’t they ?

Lol what? Women of all ages are accustomed to sexual frustration/not finishing.

[Anonymous]

I think the answer here is that if a man is single in his later years, either he’s always been single so he’s stayed in a youthful mindset, or he had a family and it broke up, so he’s trying to achieve something that his family isn’t or didn’t give him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm mid 50s and male. I have never looked better, although I look more or less my age. (Maybe I look 5-10 years younger because I have been eating well, exercising, and dressing well lately.) My girlfriend is 20 years younger. She loves running her fingers through my salt and pepper hair and telling me how sexy it is.

I also have been very attracted to women my own age and older. based on those prior relationships, I completely agree with the prior comment that their hands, necks and faces age the most. Their sexual function seems different too. Though their bodies look fantastic, they seem slower to warm up and get lubricated than younger women. Forutnartely most of them still responded etremely well when I moved things along things slowly.

One thing that women of all ages have shown me is that a woman's sexul response depends a lot on where she is emotionally, how she is feeling at the moment, and how she likes to be held, touched, etc. I've had crazy hot sex for an extended period of time with a highly orgasmic woman who was almost 60, but she told me she went three years without having an O at the end of her marriage. I also totally flopped with a woman in her mid-30s. I couldn't get her off no matter what I did--she said she preferred much rougher men.

30s to me was the lowest libido age. Child birth really affected it, and I had multiple endometriosis related surgeries. It was insane high and fast multiple Os in my 20s. I remember being so wet it was slurping and sheets all wet. Men in early 30s were best marches sexually, we would spend many hours in bed and they could finish 3-4 times
In my 40s the libido from 20s is almost back now that my child is grown up. It does take longer to warm up (but there are good V creams for that, and it’s probably couple min difference). If a man is hot I still finish pretty fast, but men 5+ years older are more on same page with me in terms of tempo, amplitude and time it takes us both to O. I like finishing at the same time with him. A younger man has to finish first then rest then put it in again to let me finish.

It’s just different preferences depending on age. I can understand why 50 yo man would date a 30 yo women - it’s the lower libido years for women with kids, professional demanding jobs etc.

This is thing thats weird to me. People always assume that guys like women in their 20’s because they’re somehow prettier. I find women at every age attractive. Attractive people are attractive - go figure. And, I think this applies for both men and women. The real benefit to dating a younger woman (in the bedroom at least) isn’t the beauty, its the libido. It’s nice to not be the high libido partner for once trying to keep your sex lives from dying. Having a partner who also wants (like really wants) sex, initiates and wants to have fun is amazing. On the slurping part, that was pretty shocking too. Like I was pretty much struggling not to go crosseyed.

A 40-50 yo man is not a libido match for a high libido 20 yo woman. I think you are either overestimating your libido or are dating low libido 20- yo women. At least it wasn’t for me when I was 20s. Only multi orgasmic and capable staying hard for hours or could resume multiple times would truly satisfy me. I didn’t even touch 40s+ men (after one unlucky attempt - he only finished twice and couldn’t get hard again). I had plenty of fish in late 20-early 30 range. Now I am 40s but my dating range remained pretty much the same on the upper end (up to 7 years older); plus a new group - up to 5 years younger men- was added. I now find them sexually attractive but when I was 25 dating a 20 yo man wouldn’t be cool at all!

Wow. When I was a young man I wanted sex every day and that was too much for the women I was with. But I never did it 3 times in a day and rarely 2 times. I did give them plenty of Os though. Now tnat I am in older middle aged my drive is a bit lower. Finishing twice is pretty unusual, although it happens. Fortunately my tongue has a lot of endurance.

I’m foreign born all men in my 20s were a European nation. They f..d like rabbits, and also had significantly bigger. I did notice a surprise in American men of my duration but luckily I was able to find a 40s man who regularly comes twice and then he can still stay hard for me. He’s not US born though. White blue eyed Americans finish once and get limp after (if past age 50).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I"m mid 40's and a lot of women I date are mid-20's. They are college-educated and inquisitive and we never lack of things to talk about.

I'm also good at "schmoozing" in general, like at networking events and such, so maybe that helps. And I do like Taylor Swift songs but I'm not as into it as they seem to be.

Wow - do their parents tend to hate you?? I don’t find a 50 year old dating a 35 year old remarkable, but mid 20s is YOUNG and that seems creepy

Not the PP answering you here. IN my experience, most of them are on bad terms with their parents.

Thaaaaat…makes a lot of sense.

+1

Another 50 something man here. Yes, most of the women who are more than 15 years younger have had bad relationships with their parents. Especially their mothers. (People say that such women have daddy issues, but I've seen more mommy issues.)

I have a very good relationship with my daughter. A lot of women I date find this very appealing.

How do you manage to perform with 20 yo women? Just curious. They need to get off several times, don’t they ?

Lol what? Women of all ages are accustomed to sexual frustration/not finishing.

Are you f…h serious? You don’t expect them to finish ???

[Anonymous]

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How do you manage to perform with 20 yo women? Just curious. They need to get off several times, don’t they ?

DP here, but the little blue pill (won't write its name so it doesn't trigger ads) is an amazing thing. The one I take lasts 24 hours and can be taken with alcohol. It's a game changer.

[Anonymous]

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How do you manage to perform with 20 yo women? Just curious. They need to get off several times, don’t they ?

DP here, but the little blue pill (won't write its name so it doesn't trigger ads) is an amazing thing. The one I take lasts 24 hours and can be taken with alcohol. It's a game changer.

Oh I see. I personally would feel terrible if I had to be on meds to perform sexually but each his own I guess. I would rather sleep with someone older for my own self esteem and to know they truly enjoy it with me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a woman in my 40’s and I don’t get why people obsess over this. It’s icky, and I can see why people are grossed out when it’s their dad or ex-husband. But otherwise, it’s none of my business. People are gross and weird, and I certainly don’t want the job. Sometimes it’s sex work, sometimes it’s sex-work-adjacent, sometimes a young woman is just doing it for fun. All are fine with me. Being young and dating young people can be a drag. An older guy can be fun, for a time. Are they ultimately icky? Yes. But I’m not here to tell people what to do. Lots of things people do in relationships are icky but harder to see.

Other things closed-minded Karens like you find "icky": black men dating white women, men dating other men, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
How do you manage to perform with 20 yo women? Just curious. They need to get off several times, don’t they ?

DP here, but the little blue pill (won't write its name so it doesn't trigger ads) is an amazing thing. The one I take lasts 24 hours and can be taken with alcohol. It's a game changer.

Oh I see. I personally would feel terrible if I had to be on meds to perform sexually but each his own I guess. I would rather sleep with someone older for my own self esteem and to know they truly enjoy it with me

I enjoy visiting new cocktail bars on my dates, and alcohol is known to have an affect on performance, even for the most eager 20 year old. The pill helps with that too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
How do you manage to perform with 20 yo women? Just curious. They need to get off several times, don’t they ?

DP here, but the little blue pill (won't write its name so it doesn't trigger ads) is an amazing thing. The one I take lasts 24 hours and can be taken with alcohol. It's a game changer.

Oh I see. I personally would feel terrible if I had to be on meds to perform sexually but each his own I guess. I would rather sleep with someone older for my own self esteem and to know they truly enjoy it with me

I enjoy visiting new cocktail bars on my dates, and alcohol is known to have an affect on performance, even for the most eager 20 year old. The pill helps with that too.

Again, to each their own. I don't drink or take any drugs, but don't mind if a man has a glass. It lasts him longer usually afterward