Why Does "Lacrosse Culture" in Highschool and College seem to be so BAD these days?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let's face it, like it or not, the stereotypical LAX player in high school and college is an arrogant, well-to-do, women-are-disposable goods, asshole. Go ahead and burn through dozens of threads flaming me or attempting to make the case otherwise. But it's simply the perception out there.

I'm sure the answer is multi-layered and I do not profess to have all the answers save one. It has been, and I know this is changing, a sport populated by prep school boys and the wealthy east coast suburban public school set. There is a sense among both parents and students that this sport is somehow different in its exclusivity. Not many people play it. Not many people are given the opportunity to play it. It's like the Skull and Bones of sports. Those in the club skew rich, so there is already much potential for a sense of entitlement/arrogance, and this sense of clubbiness and exclusivity resulting from the LAX experience only fans the flames of asshole-ness.

Let's not over analyze this. What PP wrote is probably true and deep down you all know it.

[Anonymous]

My kid's lax team has the highest average GPA of all the D1 athletes at their university. They also do community service year round as do many of the other teams.

[Anonymous]

My son is younger, so maybe this is a different perspective. I think my son's lacrosse teammates are a nice, supportive, good group of boys. They are really good kids.
Maybe as lacrosse has become a more popular sport - and not so niche (wealthy, entitled, etc.), the behavior of the kids has broadened as well. Maybe the lacrosse kids of 10-20 years ago were more universally "bad" kids, I don't know. What I see in these younger boys (middle school age) is a nice, sporty, normal group. Hopefully that continues.

[Anonymous]

Your sons probably a flaming fagot!

I've got a teenage son who wants nothing to do with the LAX players at his school. He says that individually they can be okay but as a group they're *&(!

Although they usually come across as terrific young men in their interactions with parents, the locker room and on the field culture can be toxic.

I don't think it's the same way with girls LAX though - is it? And if not, why not?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your sons probably a flaming fagot!

I've got a teenage son who wants nothing to do with the LAX players at his school. He says that individually they can be okay but as a group they're *&(!

Although they usually come across as terrific young men in their interactions with parents, the locker room and on the field culture can be toxic.

I don't think it's the same way with girls LAX though - is it? And if not, why not?

You sound really angry? Are you one of those out of control sports parents?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid's lax team has the highest average GPA of all the D1 athletes at their university. They also do community service year round as do many of the other teams.

This is the problem.. It's like maintenance alcoholics in the making. It is not okay to drink excessively, treat women like they are disposable, and be an entitled a$$hole ... Then say but I get good grade and volunteer so it is okay.

[Anonymous]

I went to college at a school with a long history of great lax teams. I now live in Baltimore. The lax culture has been the same for the 25 years since I graduated from college. Lax players aren't dumb, but like any other college athlete, many (but not all) are at schools they would have not been admitted to but for their lax skills. A large number of strong high school teams historically are at all boys prep schools -- this may influence their not great treatment of women (easier to objectify women if you aren't use to interact act with them on a daily basis). Men's lax is violent -- checking is not allowed in the women's version. Go to any boy's youth lax game in baltimore, even for the 7 and 8 year olds, and you will hear parents on the sidelines screaming for kids to hit each other. Multiply this by 10 or 15 years and see if you get more violent behavior (hard to think of a sport that has more violence as a component other than football). Add in that the elite male players are now recruited by colleges as freshman (women as sophomores) and you have a group of kids that coasts through high school knowing that it is more important to keep their lax skill then develop academic skills.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid's lax team has the highest average GPA of all the D1 athletes at their university. They also do community service year round as do many of the other teams.

This is the problem.. It's like maintenance alcoholics in the making. It is not okay to drink excessively, treat women like they are disposable, and be an entitled a$$hole ... Then say but I get good grade and volunteer so it is okay.

This is true!! The culture is toxic. They love to trash talk women. Treating others like crap is their sport because lacrosse is just weird.

[Anonymous]

DS, a public school kid, plays LAX in northern VA. He's only 12 but has already commented on the arrogant, rich, private school kids on his teams - I agree with the other posters - it's a result of the entitled 1% who have traditionally played LAX. This is changing so rapidly across the US that I think this culture will weaken soon. I sure hope it does.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's the last bastion of wealthy white boys with middling athletic skills. Golf and tennis are gone. So will lacrosse, now that public schools (and football players) are starting to play. My son goes to a big lacrosse school and I'm SO glad he plays other sports. And the parents are obnoxious.

Please name a sport where parents are not obnoxious. Love to know.

So far I have found rock climbing and kayaking.

those are not even team sports you don't interact with others

soccer and baseball are down to earth people's sports

Switched from soccer to Lax in HS. MUCH nicer parents and students.

[Anonymous]

Based on what my teen daughter has told me, LAX culture seems to combine the worst aspects of fratboys and stoners.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your sons probably a flaming fagot!

I've got a teenage son who wants nothing to do with the LAX players at his school. He says that individually they can be okay but as a group they're *&(!

Although they usually come across as terrific young men in their interactions with parents, the locker room and on the field culture can be toxic.

I don't think it's the same way with girls LAX though - is it? And if not, why not?

And you are a flaming illiterate.

[Anonymous]

Lax bros are stunted

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your sons probably a flaming fagot!

I've got a teenage son who wants nothing to do with the LAX players at his school. He says that individually they can be okay but as a group they're *&(!

Although they usually come across as terrific young men in their interactions with parents, the locker room and on the field culture can be toxic.

I don't think it's the same way with girls LAX though - is it? And if not, why not?

Google UPenn Women's Lacrosse. Trashed a bar and were exposing their genitals. Nice female lax bro behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DS, a public school kid, plays LAX in northern VA. He's only 12 but has already commented on the arrogant, rich, private school kids on his teams - I agree with the other posters - it's a result of the entitled 1% who have traditionally played LAX. This is changing so rapidly across the US that I think this culture will weaken soon. I sure hope it does.

Don't fool yourself, rich public school kids are just as bad. Wait until they are 15.