When do you allow your teen/tween to date?

[Anonymous]

Why would teens not sexually active need condoms provided to them? I’m not following.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would teens not sexually active need condoms provided to them? I’m not following.

The point is you might not know they are sexually active.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would teens not sexually active need condoms provided to them? I’m not following.

When you became sexually active, did you:

- inform your parents ahead of time? Or

- inform your parents right after you first did the deed? or

You never discussed this with your parents (embarrassing! Awkward. OMG no!).

Provide condoms now. You won’t be told in advance when your teen first does “it.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Whenever they choose to. Who am I to deny them something they might want. All they will do is sneak behind your back anyway. And middle school dating is very innocent. Group outings, FaceTiming, etc... It really builds a solid foundation on what they want to look for in someone, if they should stay with someone, how they should be treated, etc...

I have seen so many high schoolers first allowed to date at 16yr old and they are like 5th graders and let people treat them like crap and walk all over them and dictate the relationship. They leave on their own 2 years later. I rather them build a better foundation before leaving home.

I always thought that I would be strict about dating, but then I saw evidence of the fact that DD was trying to get a girlfriend and was keeping it from us (browser history; I didn't even snoop). I just thought, you know, this is not a danger and she wants this part of her life to be private. Why would I forbid it? I wouldn't say I trust her to make perfect choices, but I also don't see a way for me to totally protect her from harm that could come to her from dating. We have talked about safe sex and sex and intimacy in the abstract (which is different for most since she is not interested in boys), and I make my best efforts to keep lines of communication open so she feels comfortable confiding in me in things. I'm very happy to say that thus far, she loves talking to us and shares a lot of her fears and frustrations with us. But not her love life, and I'm okay with that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is no dating in college. Just sex and a ton of it.

Yes, lots of promiscuous sexual behavior also happens and it is quite dependent on the culture of the family the kids come from. Up to your children how they navigate around that and yet have a good college experience. My kids dated a lot but kept it respectful and safe. They are still friends with people that they casually hung out with and came out with their sanity and reputation intact. Some people go off the rails - socially, emotionally and academically. And many more blossom in college and adhere to their standards.

[Anonymous]

Dating, however that's defined, there's not a particular age but I have told my middle schooler I just want her to come and talk to me about whatever is going on with that stuff, and we'll figure it out.

I think "relationships" as adults think of them (not in terms of sex but in terms of commitment) should wait until after 17/18.

[Anonymous]

My teens are not sexually active and are not permitted to date.

But if my teens were sexually active, why would they hide that from me / my spouse?

[Anonymous]

lollooloololololollool

"allow to date"? It's not the freakin' 1500s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would teens not sexually active need condoms provided to them? I’m not following.

Jesus, you can not be this dense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My teens are not sexually active and are not permitted to date.

But if my teens were sexually active, why would they hide that from me / my spouse?

Because they are already going behind your back dating - you think they are going to tell you when they have sex? Sounds like you put in strict rules with no communication.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is no dating in college. Just sex and a ton of it.

Yes, lots of promiscuous sexual behavior also happens and it is quite dependent on the culture of the family the kids come from. Up to your children how they navigate around that and yet have a good college experience. My kids dated a lot but kept it respectful and safe. They are still friends with people that they casually hung out with and came out with their sanity and reputation intact. Some people go off the rails - socially, emotionally and academically. And many more blossom in college and adhere to their standards.

These posts must be coming from the same naive parent. You think how a child's upbringing dictates who is having sex in college? And having sex in college is not going off the rails. LOL. And the fact that you, as parents, think you know whether your kids and their friends came out of college with their sanity and reputation intact is laughable. Like are they still virgins? Did you ask them what they did every single night. No drinking, no weed, no partying, no sex. I had two already graduate with honors and had jobs lined up before Christmas of their senior year. I am 100% certain I do not know every single night of their college lives and what they did. One went to the nerdiest engineering college and I remember her saying so many kids are having sex in the triple dorm rooms with 2 other students sleeping in the room. Even she was kinda surprised, but I wasn't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would teens not sexually active need condoms provided to them? I’m not following.

Jesus, you can not be this dense.

I was referring to the lesbian in a committed relationship (the post above mine).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would teens not sexually active need condoms provided to them? I’m not following.

Jesus, you can not be this dense.

I was referring to the lesbian in a committed relationship (the post above mine).

Newsflash. Gay women experiment too.

[Anonymous]

7-8th grade for social dating. Some of these comments of no dating until 16-18yrs old are hilarious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would teens not sexually active need condoms provided to them? I’m not following.

Jesus, you can not be this dense.

I was referring to the lesbian in a committed relationship (the post above mine).

Newsflash. Gay women experiment too.

Gay women use condoms?