Is this weird? Met a married guy on vacation

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Anonymous wrote:Dude is weird AF. What's wrong with you? Why haven't you blocked this weirdo?

OP, you seem...naive, even though you're talking casually about "maybe they wanted a threesome" and so on.

He's a married man who is keeping up with you so if he encounters you again you'll be softened up enough to have sex with him. "Heart eyes emojis"? A picture of him with his dog and he chooses one where, oops, he just happens to be shirtless but of course he's only posting about the dog....Talk of "moving" to DC? It's all nonsense. I'd wager he's not moving solo to DC but if he happens to have a business trip out this way, he'll want to meet up, tell you a sob story about his marriage's collapse and get a sympathy screw from you. The crap about helping him find an apartment if you know someone who's renting a place out -- come on, don't be this naive or gullible. It's just another line to make himself sound legit.

And OP, why have you not even considered that he's doing this same shtick with other women he met on vacation? Sending them the same gooey heart-eyes emojis, saying he's going to (sob, sob!) move All Alone to their cities? Don't think he isn't doing this with every woman who seemed receptive and who gave him her Instagram, email adddress, phone number, whatever.

Value yourself more highly than this. Block him entirely, and move on immediately. You're worth more than a pity f*#k with a dog like this. And I do not mean the dog he was holding in his oopsie-I'm-shirtless photo.

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Well said. Don't be so naive, OP.

This is an old thread.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think it sounds like he is grooming you. He isn't at all suave or charming. It sounds to me like he wants to sleep with you, knows that it's inappropriate because he is married, but enjoys keeping up kind of a flirtatious relationship. The reason this doesn't feel fun and light and flirty isn't that he's married. It's that he is just really, really bad at it.

LOL. This sounds right.

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And creepy AF. He does this to everyone. I'd run.

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Anonymous wrote:Lol. I am the OP, and this must have been resurrected because someone searched for ‘threesome.’

Update: he last contacted me to ask if I knew of anyone who’d be renting a house in DC next year because he was thinking of moving. I said, ‘Oh, the whole family is moving here?’ He said no, just him. I didn’t respond and that was the last I heard from him.

Yeah, I remember this thread and wondered how it had come back. Sorry some PPs were reaming you, OP -- you did nothing wrong at all, and the guy is the one with issues here. The people who fussed at you earlier about sharing your IG info are just idiots--why wouldn't you, when the couple acted interested?

I agree with a PP that the whole "help me find an apartment" thing was him testing you. You were smart not to respond after he said it was just him. If you'd responded positively, he'd surely have made a trip out here "to look at apartments" with zero interest in apartments and a definite attempt to have sex with you.

What creeps me out is that he surely has pulled this s**t with other women and actually bedded them. Probably many more times. Sickening. Women, look out for approaches like the one OP describes. Probably happens more than anyone realizes, and looks like it's just friendly interest at first.

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Troll.

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Maybe they’re in an open relationship. If you don’t like him then stop talking to him and block him. If you do ask what the situation is. End of story.

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Way too long.

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Why continue this?
You sound lonely, as if you like the attention.
He is either going to scam you or cheat on his family. Just end it now.

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Anonymous wrote:Are men and women not allowed to have friendships together?

This. It is like married men and women are supposed to live in crypts and never interact with one another except on the most surface level. Marriage apparently equals prison.

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Anonymous wrote:OP is the weird single lady on vacation in the Caribbean who couples really want to avoid. And, let's be serious: when she goes on these solo vacations we all know what she's after.

You sound very insecure.

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Anonymous wrote:Why continue this?
You sound lonely, as if you like the attention.
He is either going to scam you or cheat on his family. Just end it now.

Maybe you should read the update