Is this weird? Met a married guy on vacation

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP did nothing wrong, and to me it's within normal to exchange social media with people you meet and find interesting on vacation or otherwise. Some people are more open and some are more closed, and it's not necessarily about sex for every friendly acquaintaince.

But now she is sketched out --- so OP, listen to your internal alarm and ignore him, maybe unfriend him, whatever makes you feel right.

I don’t know anyone who exchange social media accounts with random married guys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you a porn artist

Um, no. Sculptor

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I went on a solo vacation this spring to the Caribbean. On one of the excursions I met a couple with their teen kids (hers). The husband was super outgoing and friendly. He saw me sitting alone and sat with me; his wife spoke to me, too, but was less outgoing. We got separated, but he and I had already exchanged Ig profiles. His wife was sitting with us while we exchanged them, and she looked up my profile on her phone. Mine is public because it’s for my musician gigs so I didn’t think much about it. I wouldn’t have given him mine if he was sneaking. I made some other friends on the excursion and we stay in touch, though they are female.

Anyway, the next day he DMd me to say he wanted to meet in the lobby to say goodbye (I was going to another city), that there was nothing to it other than he enjoyed talking to me. I thought maybe he felt sorry for me being alone, though I was having a great time. Or that maybe he and his wife were looking for a threesome? I said I’d be at the checkout desk at noon. He didn’t show up, which was fine, and I hopped in my cab and left. He DMd me while I was at the next city to see how it and the resort were, which seemed reasonable.

However, he continues to message me occasionally or comment on my Ig stories w/ heart eyes. He sent me a pic of him holding his dog and he happens to not have a shirt on in the pic. I ignore these messages. Now he told me he wants to move to DC (he lives in Seattle) next year! I said, oh, the whole family wants to move? He said it would be just him. They’ve only been married a couple years. He asked me to let him know if I know anyone renting a place out.

He’s a little younger than I (and his wife) and I wonder if he’s looking for a sugar mama? Is this some extended scam? It’s not super creepy but also not like legit networking…

I went to a resort with my mom and a guy hit on me. He said he was there with a group of friends.
What he didn't tell me was that he and his group of friends were there FOR HIS OWN DESTINATION WEDDING.

Awkward.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you a porn artist

Um, no. Sculptor

Wait, I thought your IG was a musician account?

Also, why would you immediately think “this guy wants to approach me for a threesome with his wife” the first time if things were so innocently on the up and up on vacation? You’re playing very coy here, but most posters aren’t fools.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you a porn artist

Um, no. Sculptor

Wait, I thought your IG was a musician account?

Also, why would you immediately think “this guy wants to approach me for a threesome with his wife” the first time if things were so innocently on the up and up on vacation? You’re playing very coy here, but most posters aren’t fools.

In the post just above the one I’m quoting, OP says her IG is a musician account. Methinks a troll is afoot!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you a porn artist

Um, no. Sculptor

Wait, I thought your IG was a musician account?

Also, why would you immediately think “this guy wants to approach me for a threesome with his wife” the first time if things were so innocently on the up and up on vacation? You’re playing very coy here, but most posters aren’t fools.

In the post just above the one I’m quoting, OP says her IG is a musician account. Methinks a troll is afoot!

OP--I am a musician. The artist was a different poster

[Anonymous]

OP, what makes you think it might be weird?
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There's your answer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't think it sounds like he is grooming you. He isn't at all suave or charming. It sounds to me like he wants to sleep with you, knows that it's inappropriate because he is married, but enjoys keeping up kind of a flirtatious relationship. The reason this doesn't feel fun and light and flirty isn't that he's married. It's that he is just really, really bad at it.

LOL. This sounds right.

Yep. We have a winner.

He's a baby scumbag. It takes years of experience to become a standard scumbag. Decades and you're a deluxe scumbag, congratulations guy.

[Anonymous]

He want to put his p in your v.

[Anonymous]

He sounds cool and hip…very west coast! Most likely just a swinger.

[Anonymous]

I'm a big believer in following your gut, especially as a woman. If he creeps you out, just block him and move on. You don't owe him anything. Life is too short to let people you don't really like take up your time and energy.

So really, his actual thoughts and motivations are irrelevant. You don't owe him anything and you can opt out of whatever kind of relationship he's suggesting for any reason, or no reason at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You waited in the lobby for a married guy to "say goodbye?!"

LOL of course not. He asked when I was leaving and I said ‘check out is at noon.’ I went to front desk at 11:45, got my receipt, had concierge order me a car and left. I didn’t look to see if he was anywhere in the giant lobby but assume if he was he would’ve said something. I didn’t agree to meet him.

It never ceases to amaze me how people will jumó to conclusions on this board. I’m not naive. I’m just curious about his machinations. He and his wife both followed me to check out my music. If he says anything overt I’ll screenshot it and send to her. I’m not interested in becoming involved with him in any sense.

I have never blocked anyone. I prefer to be aware of what crazies are up
To..,How will you know you need a restraining order?!

NP. Op the PP didn't jump to conclusions. You did make a plan to see him in the lobby. This is what you posted:

"Anyway, the next day he DMd me to say he wanted to meet in the lobby to say goodbye (I was going to another city), that there was nothing to it other than he enjoyed talking to me. I thought maybe he felt sorry for me being alone, though I was having a great time. Or that maybe he and his wife were looking for a threesome? I said I’d be at the checkout desk at noon. He didn’t show up, which was fine, and I hopped in my cab and left. "

Good luck with your public unblocked married instagram music sculpture following or whatever.

[Anonymous]

I'm friends with a few married men who sometimes come off as overly clingy, but I know that this is just their personality - chatty and friendly with everyone. They're not plotting to cheat on their wives, they're not targeting me in any immoral way.

But your encounter feels sketchy. I'd distance myself.

[Anonymous]

Did this resort have dozens of red flags waving in the breeze at the entrance? Block this sketchy dude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP did nothing wrong, and to me it's within normal to exchange social media with people you meet and find interesting on vacation or otherwise. Some people are more open and some are more closed, and it's not necessarily about sex for every friendly acquaintaince.

But now she is sketched out --- so OP, listen to your internal alarm and ignore him, maybe unfriend him, whatever makes you feel right.

I don’t know anyone who exchange social media accounts with random married guys.

What in the world? Yes this is not right. Why would you engage and exchange with a married man? Exchange with a single man, there are plently of other fish in the sea.