Is this weird? Met a married guy on vacation

[Anonymous]

I went on a solo vacation this spring to the Caribbean. On one of the excursions I met a couple with their teen kids (hers). The husband was super outgoing and friendly. He saw me sitting alone and sat with me; his wife spoke to me, too, but was less outgoing. We got separated, but he and I had already exchanged Ig profiles. His wife was sitting with us while we exchanged them, and she looked up my profile on her phone. Mine is public because it’s for my musician gigs so I didn’t think much about it. I wouldn’t have given him mine if he was sneaking. I made some other friends on the excursion and we stay in touch, though they are female.

Anyway, the next day he DMd me to say he wanted to meet in the lobby to say goodbye (I was going to another city), that there was nothing to it other than he enjoyed talking to me. I thought maybe he felt sorry for me being alone, though I was having a great time. Or that maybe he and his wife were looking for a threesome? I said I’d be at the checkout desk at noon. He didn’t show up, which was fine, and I hopped in my cab and left. He DMd me while I was at the next city to see how it and the resort were, which seemed reasonable.

However, he continues to message me occasionally or comment on my Ig stories w/ heart eyes. He sent me a pic of him holding his dog and he happens to not have a shirt on in the pic. I ignore these messages. Now he told me he wants to move to DC (he lives in Seattle) next year! I said, oh, the whole family wants to move? He said it would be just him. They’ve only been married a couple years. He asked me to let him know if I know anyone renting a place out.

He’s a little younger than I (and his wife) and I wonder if he’s looking for a sugar mama? Is this some extended scam? It’s not super creepy but also not like legit networking…

[Anonymous]

Trying to set you up as a side piece when he visits and/or moves to DC.

[Anonymous]

He sounds gross and she sounds abused

[Anonymous]

Dude is weird AF. What's wrong with you? Why haven't you blocked this weirdo?

[Anonymous]

Block him now

[Anonymous]

Sketchy. Block him.

[Anonymous]

I’m terrible with relationships/men and even I can see a GIANT red flag waving around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dude is weird AF. What's wrong with you? Why haven't you blocked this weirdo?

OP, you seem...naive, even though you're talking casually about "maybe they wanted a threesome" and so on.

He's a married man who is keeping up with you so if he encounters you again you'll be softened up enough to have sex with him. "Heart eyes emojis"? A picture of him with his dog and he chooses one where, oops, he just happens to be shirtless but of course he's only posting about the dog....Talk of "moving" to DC? It's all nonsense. I'd wager he's not moving solo to DC but if he happens to have a business trip out this way, he'll want to meet up, tell you a sob story about his marriage's collapse and get a sympathy screw from you. The crap about helping him find an apartment if you know someone who's renting a place out -- come on, don't be this naive or gullible. It's just another line to make himself sound legit.

And OP, why have you not even considered that he's doing this same shtick with other women he met on vacation? Sending them the same gooey heart-eyes emojis, saying he's going to (sob, sob!) move All Alone to their cities? Don't think he isn't doing this with every woman who seemed receptive and who gave him her Instagram, email adddress, phone number, whatever.

Value yourself more highly than this. Block him entirely, and move on immediately. You're worth more than a pity f*#k with a dog like this. And I do not mean the dog he was holding in his oopsie-I'm-shirtless photo.

[Anonymous]

Agree with all of the above. Setting you up as the DC side piece, after the Seattle and Chicago side pieces. Block him and do not look back.

[Anonymous]

What a complete tool.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He sounds gross and she sounds abused

For real. I feel so bad for women like this.

OP, come on. Block this jabroni immediately.

[Anonymous]

You sound like a weirdo as well

[Anonymous]

Sounds like she was done with the marriage already. Maybe you should be curious why.

[Anonymous]

Block him..
also , save the number for incase he keeps bothering you (from a different number ..etc)..
This guy does not seem normal.

[Anonymous]

What's weird is your behavior in all this. Starting with giving a a man you knew was married your info.
Block him and do better.