Redshirting my son for pre-k - May birthday

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wish schools were strict with sending your kid on time (unless there is a compelling reason). That means there will be a max 12 months between oldest and youngest. It seems crazy to me that there can be over 2 years difference between kids ages - it is unfair. There was a redshirted girl with a march birthday in my dd's 5th grade class. I don't know why as she was top of the class academically and thought that everyone else was babyish. I wouldn't do this unless there is a developmental reason. He will turn 18 in his junior year, I think most 18 year olds are done with high school and he will have one more year to go.

Some areas are doing that because it is getting out of hand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wish schools were strict with sending your kid on time (unless there is a compelling reason). That means there will be a max 12 months between oldest and youngest. It seems crazy to me that there can be over 2 years difference between kids ages - it is unfair. There was a redshirted girl with a march birthday in my dd's 5th grade class. I don't know why as she was top of the class academically and thought that everyone else was babyish. I wouldn't do this unless there is a developmental reason. He will turn 18 in his junior year, I think most 18 year olds are done with high school and he will have one more year to go.

Some areas are doing that because it is getting out of hand.

Maybe in some public districts although not many. But not in the private schools, especially the competitive good ones. They can admit who they want with whatever birthday they want, and they do. Excellent private schools often have wide age bands because they are selecting for the student not the age. My (not-redshirted) September kid shares a birthday with a classmate who is exactly a year younger. Both kids were admitted by the same admissions committee. Both doing well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wish schools were strict with sending your kid on time (unless there is a compelling reason). That means there will be a max 12 months between oldest and youngest. It seems crazy to me that there can be over 2 years difference between kids ages - it is unfair. There was a redshirted girl with a march birthday in my dd's 5th grade class. I don't know why as she was top of the class academically and thought that everyone else was babyish. I wouldn't do this unless there is a developmental reason. He will turn 18 in his junior year, I think most 18 year olds are done with high school and he will have one more year to go.

So don’t send your kids to private schools that redshirt. Problem solved.

Where we live it happens in private and public schools.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wish schools were strict with sending your kid on time (unless there is a compelling reason). That means there will be a max 12 months between oldest and youngest. It seems crazy to me that there can be over 2 years difference between kids ages - it is unfair. There was a redshirted girl with a march birthday in my dd's 5th grade class. I don't know why as she was top of the class academically and thought that everyone else was babyish. I wouldn't do this unless there is a developmental reason. He will turn 18 in his junior year, I think most 18 year olds are done with high school and he will have one more year to go.

So don’t send your kids to private schools that redshirt. Problem solved.

Where we live it happens in private and public schools.

But it’s extremely unlikely to happen a lot. Anti-redshirters always have these kind of weird posts on DCUM about public school classrooms filled with redshirted kids that defy any statistical reality or actually any kind of reality in general. Don’t worry about it. Stick to public.

[Anonymous]

I’m neutral, but all the over the top and endless posts with hate on the anti redshirters are seemingly the ones with the issue. They seem to have shame and are quite defensive with no substance except comments like they are “weird” or “obsessed.” Projecting a lot.

[Anonymous]

OP, do what your gut is telling you to do. My DS had an October birthday and missed the Sept. cut-off by only a few days. Initially I tried to lobby to get him in earlier, but he is fine where he is.

I did want to mention that at our private in DC, there are two nursery classes and they are divided by birthdays. So, the fall/winter birthdays are in one class and spring/summer in the other. Kids are essentially grouped by age.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wish schools were strict with sending your kid on time (unless there is a compelling reason). That means there will be a max 12 months between oldest and youngest. It seems crazy to me that there can be over 2 years difference between kids ages - it is unfair. There was a redshirted girl with a march birthday in my dd's 5th grade class. I don't know why as she was top of the class academically and thought that everyone else was babyish. I wouldn't do this unless there is a developmental reason. He will turn 18 in his junior year, I think most 18 year olds are done with high school and he will have one more year to go.

So don’t send your kids to private schools that redshirt. Problem solved.

Where we live it happens in private and public schools.

But it’s extremely unlikely to happen a lot. Anti-redshirters always have these kind of weird posts on DCUM about public school classrooms filled with redshirted kids that defy any statistical reality or actually any kind of reality in general. Don’t worry about it. Stick to public.

Yes, and they also feel that only the very youngest kids in the class room can be proud of any achievement and all the other kids need to be ashamed because the only reason they accomplished anything is because they are older than others. It's very black and white thinking with no basis in reality.

[Anonymous]

Your kid would be 15-18 months older than some kids in the class August and September, fine--but not May.

[Anonymous]

You don't hold back a May child. Find another private or send him to public.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, do what your gut is telling you to do. My DS had an October birthday and missed the Sept. cut-off by only a few days. Initially I tried to lobby to get him in earlier, but he is fine where he is.

I did want to mention that at our private in DC, there are two nursery classes and they are divided by birthdays. So, the fall/winter birthdays are in one class and spring/summer in the other. Kids are essentially grouped by age.

Big difference between a May and October birthday.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wish schools were strict with sending your kid on time (unless there is a compelling reason). That means there will be a max 12 months between oldest and youngest. It seems crazy to me that there can be over 2 years difference between kids ages - it is unfair. There was a redshirted girl with a march birthday in my dd's 5th grade class. I don't know why as she was top of the class academically and thought that everyone else was babyish. I wouldn't do this unless there is a developmental reason. He will turn 18 in his junior year, I think most 18 year olds are done with high school and he will have one more year to go.

So don’t send your kids to private schools that redshirt. Problem solved.

Where we live it happens in private and public schools.

But it’s extremely unlikely to happen a lot. Anti-redshirters always have these kind of weird posts on DCUM about public school classrooms filled with redshirted kids that defy any statistical reality or actually any kind of reality in general. Don’t worry about it. Stick to public.

There is ZERO good reason to hold back this child, ZERO.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wish schools were strict with sending your kid on time (unless there is a compelling reason). That means there will be a max 12 months between oldest and youngest. It seems crazy to me that there can be over 2 years difference between kids ages - it is unfair. There was a redshirted girl with a march birthday in my dd's 5th grade class. I don't know why as she was top of the class academically and thought that everyone else was babyish. I wouldn't do this unless there is a developmental reason. He will turn 18 in his junior year, I think most 18 year olds are done with high school and he will have one more year to go.

So don’t send your kids to private schools that redshirt. Problem solved.

Where we live it happens in private and public schools.

But it’s extremely unlikely to happen a lot. Anti-redshirters always have these kind of weird posts on DCUM about public school classrooms filled with redshirted kids that defy any statistical reality or actually any kind of reality in general. Don’t worry about it. Stick to public.

There is ZERO good reason to hold back this child, ZERO.

Well, apparently multiple private school admissions committees disagree with your confident assessment.

Though I think OP is a troll as OP hasn’t returned. I think she just wanted to get the anti-redshirters all bothered. Mission accomplished I guess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m neutral, but all the over the top and endless posts with hate on the anti redshirters are seemingly the ones with the issue. They seem to have shame and are quite defensive with no substance except comments like they are “weird” or “obsessed.” Projecting a lot.

Eh, there a long history on DCUM of very weird behavior from anti-redshirters. I didn’t redshirt so no real dog in this fight, like you, but I have been reading here a long time and honestly the anti-redshirt posters are indeed pretty weird and often do sound obsessed. I’m not sure what else to call the behavior and it’s not bidirectional. It’s pretty one-sided weirdness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m neutral, but all the over the top and endless posts with hate on the anti redshirters are seemingly the ones with the issue. They seem to have shame and are quite defensive with no substance except comments like they are “weird” or “obsessed.” Projecting a lot.

Eh, there a long history on DCUM of very weird behavior from anti-redshirters. I didn’t redshirt so no real dog in this fight, like you, but I have been reading here a long time and honestly the anti-redshirt posters are indeed pretty weird and often do sound obsessed. I’m not sure what else to call the behavior and it’s not bidirectional. It’s pretty one-sided weirdness.

You’ve exceeded the allowable amount of post with using the word “weird.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m neutral, but all the over the top and endless posts with hate on the anti redshirters are seemingly the ones with the issue. They seem to have shame and are quite defensive with no substance except comments like they are “weird” or “obsessed.” Projecting a lot.

Eh, there a long history on DCUM of very weird behavior from anti-redshirters. I didn’t redshirt so no real dog in this fight, like you, but I have been reading here a long time and honestly the anti-redshirt posters are indeed pretty weird and often do sound obsessed. I’m not sure what else to call the behavior and it’s not bidirectional. It’s pretty one-sided weirdness.

You’ve exceeded the allowable amount of post with using the word “weird.”

Fine, call it strange behavior if you prefer. Oddball, singular, peculiar.

Doesn’t change the history.