Redshirting my son for pre-k - May birthday

[Anonymous]

We did not redshirt our May kid. There were kids in their grade that were more than a year older (as old as redshirted with a February bday) and there were kids a year behind who were older as well.

At the end of the day, it didn't matter that much.

Take the spot and move on.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t listen to the anti-redshirt hysteria on here. Most of it comes from scarcity mindset. Certain parents believe that kids are marked as advanced or whatever early on, and that redshirted kids have an advantage over their non-redshirted kid in that regard. That is the real source of pushback here. If what they believe is true, they’d rather it be your kid that is disadvantaged. BTW, I don’t think it is true and neither of my DC’s redshirted.

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I didn’t redshirt and I think DCUM anti-redshirters are largely insane and bizarrely competitive weirdos.

If they were bizarrely competitive, then they would be pro-redshirters.

They are very bizarrely competitive, being anti-redshirters on this forum.
They just don't want other redshirted kids to be in the same cohort with their kids. It shows they know the benefit of redshirting, and they don't want their own kids to have to compete with them.

More like your redshirted kid loses any advantage that you’ve tried to give him.

I did not redshirt and I completely agree that DCUM anti-redshirt posters are basically insane and weirdly competitive. It is truly bizarre.

My not-redshirted kids are doing great and have redshirted and not redshirted friends. Normal kids and families do not think about this. This is purely an obsession of socially stunted DCUM parents. Be wary of their bizarre obsession.

What’s with these posters saying anti redshirts are the competitive ones. That’s kind of the opposite. The red shirters are trying to compete and therefore positioning to be able to do so.

Because anti-redshirts on DCUM have years of showing themselves to be competitive weirdos. And by weird, I mean really really weird. Natural law lady should be showing up just about now.

I can use the word weirdo and weird. And by that I mean really weird in a weird way. So weird, that it’s weirder than weird to all the weirdos. I mean weird, like weridly weird. So weird and weird.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t listen to the anti-redshirt hysteria on here. Most of it comes from scarcity mindset. Certain parents believe that kids are marked as advanced or whatever early on, and that redshirted kids have an advantage over their non-redshirted kid in that regard. That is the real source of pushback here. If what they believe is true, they’d rather it be your kid that is disadvantaged. BTW, I don’t think it is true and neither of my DC’s redshirted.

+1

I didn’t redshirt and I think DCUM anti-redshirters are largely insane and bizarrely competitive weirdos.

If they were bizarrely competitive, then they would be pro-redshirters.

They are very bizarrely competitive, being anti-redshirters on this forum.
They just don't want other redshirted kids to be in the same cohort with their kids. It shows they know the benefit of redshirting, and they don't want their own kids to have to compete with them.

More like your redshirted kid loses any advantage that you’ve tried to give him.

I did not redshirt and I completely agree that DCUM anti-redshirt posters are basically insane and weirdly competitive. It is truly bizarre.

My not-redshirted kids are doing great and have redshirted and not redshirted friends. Normal kids and families do not think about this. This is purely an obsession of socially stunted DCUM parents. Be wary of their bizarre obsession.

What’s with these posters saying anti redshirts are the competitive ones. That’s kind of the opposite. The red shirters are trying to compete and therefore positioning to be able to do so.

Because anti-redshirts on DCUM have years of showing themselves to be competitive weirdos. And by weird, I mean really really weird. Natural law lady should be showing up just about now.

So no answer and again being competitive would be a trait of a redshirter as a one up means.

You just don’t like the accuracy of the answer.

I didn’t redshirt.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t listen to the anti-redshirt hysteria on here. Most of it comes from scarcity mindset. Certain parents believe that kids are marked as advanced or whatever early on, and that redshirted kids have an advantage over their non-redshirted kid in that regard. That is the real source of pushback here. If what they believe is true, they’d rather it be your kid that is disadvantaged. BTW, I don’t think it is true and neither of my DC’s redshirted.

+1

I didn’t redshirt and I think DCUM anti-redshirters are largely insane and bizarrely competitive weirdos.

If they were bizarrely competitive, then they would be pro-redshirters.

They are very bizarrely competitive, being anti-redshirters on this forum.
They just don't want other redshirted kids to be in the same cohort with their kids. It shows they know the benefit of redshirting, and they don't want their own kids to have to compete with them.

More like your redshirted kid loses any advantage that you’ve tried to give him.

I did not redshirt and I completely agree that DCUM anti-redshirt posters are basically insane and weirdly competitive. It is truly bizarre.

My not-redshirted kids are doing great and have redshirted and not redshirted friends. Normal kids and families do not think about this. This is purely an obsession of socially stunted DCUM parents. Be wary of their bizarre obsession.

What’s with these posters saying anti redshirts are the competitive ones. That’s kind of the opposite. The red shirters are trying to compete and therefore positioning to be able to do so.

Because anti-redshirts on DCUM have years of showing themselves to be competitive weirdos. And by weird, I mean really really weird. Natural law lady should be showing up just about now.

So no answer and again being competitive would be a trait of a redshirter as a one up means.

You just don’t like the accuracy of the answer.

I didn’t redshirt.

Yes, you are a mind reader and know what I am thinking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP, I would say the boys are on the older side in that birthdays in August-September are redshirted normally. A May birthday is an outlier.

I knew a set of twins some years ago - redshirted with April birthday. Senior year was really hard for them.

[Anonymous]

Without a valid developmental delay, do not hold back and find a school that he can start kinder. Later you can try again to get him in. Otherwise, being a redshirted kid will always follow him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Without a valid developmental delay, do not hold back and find a school that he can start kinder. Later you can try again to get him in. Otherwise, being a redshirted kid will always follow him.

100%

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t listen to the anti-redshirt hysteria on here. Most of it comes from scarcity mindset. Certain parents believe that kids are marked as advanced or whatever early on, and that redshirted kids have an advantage over their non-redshirted kid in that regard. That is the real source of pushback here. If what they believe is true, they’d rather it be your kid that is disadvantaged. BTW, I don’t think it is true and neither of my DC’s redshirted.

+1

I didn’t redshirt and I think DCUM anti-redshirters are largely insane and bizarrely competitive weirdos.

If they were bizarrely competitive, then they would be pro-redshirters.

They are very bizarrely competitive, being anti-redshirters on this forum.
They just don't want other redshirted kids to be in the same cohort with their kids. It shows they know the benefit of redshirting, and they don't want their own kids to have to compete with them.

More like your redshirted kid loses any advantage that you’ve tried to give him.

I did not redshirt and I completely agree that DCUM anti-redshirt posters are basically insane and weirdly competitive. It is truly bizarre.

My not-redshirted kids are doing great and have redshirted and not redshirted friends. Normal kids and families do not think about this. This is purely an obsession of socially stunted DCUM parents. Be wary of their bizarre obsession.

What’s with these posters saying anti redshirts are the competitive ones. That’s kind of the opposite. The red shirters are trying to compete and therefore positioning to be able to do so.

Because anti-redshirts on DCUM have years of showing themselves to be competitive weirdos. And by weird, I mean really really weird. Natural law lady should be showing up just about now.

So no answer and again being competitive would be a trait of a redshirter as a one up means.

You just don’t like the accuracy of the answer.

I didn’t redshirt.

Yes, you are a mind reader and know what I am thinking.

It doesn’t take mind-reading. You are pretty transparent.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t listen to the anti-redshirt hysteria on here. Most of it comes from scarcity mindset. Certain parents believe that kids are marked as advanced or whatever early on, and that redshirted kids have an advantage over their non-redshirted kid in that regard. That is the real source of pushback here. If what they believe is true, they’d rather it be your kid that is disadvantaged. BTW, I don’t think it is true and neither of my DC’s redshirted.

+1

I didn’t redshirt and I think DCUM anti-redshirters are largely insane and bizarrely competitive weirdos.

If they were bizarrely competitive, then they would be pro-redshirters.

They are very bizarrely competitive, being anti-redshirters on this forum.
They just don't want other redshirted kids to be in the same cohort with their kids. It shows they know the benefit of redshirting, and they don't want their own kids to have to compete with them.

More like your redshirted kid loses any advantage that you’ve tried to give him.

I did not redshirt and I completely agree that DCUM anti-redshirt posters are basically insane and weirdly competitive. It is truly bizarre.

My not-redshirted kids are doing great and have redshirted and not redshirted friends. Normal kids and families do not think about this. This is purely an obsession of socially stunted DCUM parents. Be wary of their bizarre obsession.

What’s with these posters saying anti redshirts are the competitive ones. That’s kind of the opposite. The red shirters are trying to compete and therefore positioning to be able to do so.

Because anti-redshirts on DCUM have years of showing themselves to be competitive weirdos. And by weird, I mean really really weird. Natural law lady should be showing up just about now.

So no answer and again being competitive would be a trait of a redshirter as a one up means.

You just don’t like the accuracy of the answer.

I didn’t redshirt.

Yes, you are a mind reader and know what I am thinking.

It doesn’t take mind-reading. You are pretty transparent.

Bless your auger heart.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t listen to the anti-redshirt hysteria on here. Most of it comes from scarcity mindset. Certain parents believe that kids are marked as advanced or whatever early on, and that redshirted kids have an advantage over their non-redshirted kid in that regard. That is the real source of pushback here. If what they believe is true, they’d rather it be your kid that is disadvantaged. BTW, I don’t think it is true and neither of my DC’s redshirted.

+1

I didn’t redshirt and I think DCUM anti-redshirters are largely insane and bizarrely competitive weirdos.

If they were bizarrely competitive, then they would be pro-redshirters.

They are very bizarrely competitive, being anti-redshirters on this forum.
They just don't want other redshirted kids to be in the same cohort with their kids. It shows they know the benefit of redshirting, and they don't want their own kids to have to compete with them.

More like your redshirted kid loses any advantage that you’ve tried to give him.

I did not redshirt and I completely agree that DCUM anti-redshirt posters are basically insane and weirdly competitive. It is truly bizarre.

My not-redshirted kids are doing great and have redshirted and not redshirted friends. Normal kids and families do not think about this. This is purely an obsession of socially stunted DCUM parents. Be wary of their bizarre obsession.

Putting a child in kindergarten at the age of what is the norm and within the guidelines of what states allow is not a bizarre obsession. If anyone has a bizarre obsession, the ones who hold back would have it. They’ve gone against and made a different decision that others would not obsess about. Besides that, calling this a bizarre obsession is so over the top. It is ironic.

[Anonymous]

I wish schools were strict with sending your kid on time (unless there is a compelling reason). That means there will be a max 12 months between oldest and youngest. It seems crazy to me that there can be over 2 years difference between kids ages - it is unfair. There was a redshirted girl with a march birthday in my dd's 5th grade class. I don't know why as she was top of the class academically and thought that everyone else was babyish. I wouldn't do this unless there is a developmental reason. He will turn 18 in his junior year, I think most 18 year olds are done with high school and he will have one more year to go.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t listen to the anti-redshirt hysteria on here. Most of it comes from scarcity mindset. Certain parents believe that kids are marked as advanced or whatever early on, and that redshirted kids have an advantage over their non-redshirted kid in that regard. That is the real source of pushback here. If what they believe is true, they’d rather it be your kid that is disadvantaged. BTW, I don’t think it is true and neither of my DC’s redshirted.

+1

I didn’t redshirt and I think DCUM anti-redshirters are largely insane and bizarrely competitive weirdos.

If they were bizarrely competitive, then they would be pro-redshirters.

They are very bizarrely competitive, being anti-redshirters on this forum.
They just don't want other redshirted kids to be in the same cohort with their kids. It shows they know the benefit of redshirting, and they don't want their own kids to have to compete with them.

More like your redshirted kid loses any advantage that you’ve tried to give him.

I did not redshirt and I completely agree that DCUM anti-redshirt posters are basically insane and weirdly competitive. It is truly bizarre.

My not-redshirted kids are doing great and have redshirted and not redshirted friends. Normal kids and families do not think about this. This is purely an obsession of socially stunted DCUM parents. Be wary of their bizarre obsession.

Putting a child in kindergarten at the age of what is the norm and within the guidelines of what states allow is not a bizarre obsession. If anyone has a bizarre obsession, the ones who hold back would have it. They’ve gone against and made a different decision that others would not obsess about. Besides that, calling this a bizarre obsession is so over the top. It is ironic.

I think the bizarre obsession is caring THIS much what a stranger on the internet chooses to do with her child.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t listen to the anti-redshirt hysteria on here. Most of it comes from scarcity mindset. Certain parents believe that kids are marked as advanced or whatever early on, and that redshirted kids have an advantage over their non-redshirted kid in that regard. That is the real source of pushback here. If what they believe is true, they’d rather it be your kid that is disadvantaged. BTW, I don’t think it is true and neither of my DC’s redshirted.

+1

I didn’t redshirt and I think DCUM anti-redshirters are largely insane and bizarrely competitive weirdos.

If they were bizarrely competitive, then they would be pro-redshirters.

They are very bizarrely competitive, being anti-redshirters on this forum.
They just don't want other redshirted kids to be in the same cohort with their kids. It shows they know the benefit of redshirting, and they don't want their own kids to have to compete with them.

More like your redshirted kid loses any advantage that you’ve tried to give him.

I did not redshirt and I completely agree that DCUM anti-redshirt posters are basically insane and weirdly competitive. It is truly bizarre.

My not-redshirted kids are doing great and have redshirted and not redshirted friends. Normal kids and families do not think about this. This is purely an obsession of socially stunted DCUM parents. Be wary of their bizarre obsession.

Putting a child in kindergarten at the age of what is the norm and within the guidelines of what states allow is not a bizarre obsession. If anyone has a bizarre obsession, the ones who hold back would have it. They’ve gone against and made a different decision that others would not obsess about. Besides that, calling this a bizarre obsession is so over the top. It is ironic.

I get the sense you are new here. I’m a long-time reader of DCUM (for better or worse haha). There are years of DCUM history here with anti-redshirters showing bizarre and obsessive behavior. Things like memorizing class birthday lists, going on unhinged rants about very young children, spying on kids in the playground from outside school, etc. They boast about that behavior, which is how we know about it. And they do really weird stuff that they don’t seem to understand is weird. For example, I remember one poster having an absolute temper tantrum because the private school her kids attended had a spring carnival and some of the rides for the kindergartners were too tall for her kindergartner, so she was lashing out at the redshirted kids in her kid’s K classroom because they could ride the rides her kid couldn’t. There is also natural law anti-redshirter who believes that it is natural law that kids attend based on calendar year, and refers to on-time fall birthday kids as “redshirted.” Also, there is a group who appear to genuinely not understand the difference between private and public schools (maybe this is you too; the state guidelines are not relevant to choices made by a private school admissions committee).

I’m just saying that there many years of truly bizarre posts from anti-redshirt posters, and those of us who have seen them sometimes warn new K parents who is posting here on DCUM so they know not to take the anti-redshirters too seriously. Maybe you are normal and low-key, but you are joining a group that doesn’t have a great history of either being normal or low-key on DCUM. I mean, I didn’t redshirt but I remember the anti-redshirter posts because they stand out in their weirdness. They are like bobcat girl or the lightly fried tuna of the education forums, but a lot meaner and nastier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wish schools were strict with sending your kid on time (unless there is a compelling reason). That means there will be a max 12 months between oldest and youngest. It seems crazy to me that there can be over 2 years difference between kids ages - it is unfair. There was a redshirted girl with a march birthday in my dd's 5th grade class. I don't know why as she was top of the class academically and thought that everyone else was babyish. I wouldn't do this unless there is a developmental reason. He will turn 18 in his junior year, I think most 18 year olds are done with high school and he will have one more year to go.

So don’t send your kids to private schools that redshirt. Problem solved.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t listen to the anti-redshirt hysteria on here. Most of it comes from scarcity mindset. Certain parents believe that kids are marked as advanced or whatever early on, and that redshirted kids have an advantage over their non-redshirted kid in that regard. That is the real source of pushback here. If what they believe is true, they’d rather it be your kid that is disadvantaged. BTW, I don’t think it is true and neither of my DC’s redshirted.

+1

I didn’t redshirt and I think DCUM anti-redshirters are largely insane and bizarrely competitive weirdos.

If they were bizarrely competitive, then they would be pro-redshirters.

They are very bizarrely competitive, being anti-redshirters on this forum.
They just don't want other redshirted kids to be in the same cohort with their kids. It shows they know the benefit of redshirting, and they don't want their own kids to have to compete with them.

More like your redshirted kid loses any advantage that you’ve tried to give him.

I did not redshirt and I completely agree that DCUM anti-redshirt posters are basically insane and weirdly competitive. It is truly bizarre.

My not-redshirted kids are doing great and have redshirted and not redshirted friends. Normal kids and families do not think about this. This is purely an obsession of socially stunted DCUM parents. Be wary of their bizarre obsession.

Putting a child in kindergarten at the age of what is the norm and within the guidelines of what states allow is not a bizarre obsession. If anyone has a bizarre obsession, the ones who hold back would have it. They’ve gone against and made a different decision that others would not obsess about. Besides that, calling this a bizarre obsession is so over the top. It is ironic.

I think the bizarre obsession is caring THIS much what a stranger on the internet chooses to do with her child.

Much like yourself.