early 40s in sexless relationship

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you rejected him many times in the past that he’s given up hope. This is me. (Go on, tell me how inadequate and what a terrible negligent husband I am without knowing anything about me.)

No, I won't tell you that and I don't think I've ever rejected my husband!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are we seeing like the third ED thread today all from supposedly different people? lol.

Because it happens. And we finally are able to get some traction on a conversation about it rather than people saying it’s not happening….or blaming the woman somehow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like low T. Happened with my ExH at mid 30s. I actually think he had it in his early 30s when we were dating and he told me when he stopped wanting to have sex all the time he thought he should just get married. We had an almost completely sexless marriage…7 out of 10 years nothing. The first 3 years might have been 5 times total. Divorced in 40s. Get him to an endocrinologist.

I’ve been asking my husband to do this for years. We’ve been largely sexless (his choice) for 7 years. He’s promised me a doc appointment for about half of that but has yet to go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you rejected him many times in the past that he’s given up hope. This is me. (Go on, tell me how inadequate and what a terrible negligent husband I am without knowing anything about me.)

No, I won't tell you that and I don't think I've ever rejected my husband!

Perhaps you’re in the latter category but there’s a difference between “not rejected” and “desiring” and men can tell.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like low T. Happened with my ExH at mid 30s. I actually think he had it in his early 30s when we were dating and he told me when he stopped wanting to have sex all the time he thought he should just get married. We had an almost completely sexless marriage…7 out of 10 years nothing. The first 3 years might have been 5 times total. Divorced in 40s. Get him to an endocrinologist.

I’ve been asking my husband to do this for years. We’ve been largely sexless (his choice) for 7 years. He’s promised me a doc appointment for about half of that but has yet to go.

Mine went but he did not want the treatment for it. I also did not want to have sex with him…I only stayed as long as I did due to a pregnancy accident.

[Anonymous]

My husband has had no desire these years in his mid-40's. This girl needs what she needs so I see other people with NSA relationships. I am happy with the NSA yummies and with DH in other areas of my life. He would be devastated if he found out but him working nights has its advantages.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you rejected him many times in the past that he’s given up hope. This is me. (Go on, tell me how inadequate and what a terrible negligent husband I am without knowing anything about me.)

No, I won't tell you that and I don't think I've ever rejected my husband!

Perhaps you’re in the latter category but there’s a difference between “not rejected” and “desiring” and men can tell.

Stop. She’s already said that’s not the dynamic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Normal. Wait a few years until you hit menopause - then you’ll complain that once a month is too much!

Not true for all women. I’m still high drive at 58!

[Anonymous]

I was in a similar situation and it turned out that he was an alcoholic. The drinking was interfering with his ability to perform.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Normal. Wait a few years until you hit menopause - then you’ll complain that once a month is too much!

Not true for all women. I’m still high drive at 58!

Agree. Also it’s super dismissive of the woman’s experience. PLUS direct stimulation and orgasm help with symptoms of perimenopause and prevent atrophy in menopause. My solo game is good, but it’s so much nicer with a connected partner. And if PIV isn’t possible there are so many more partnered options.

[Anonymous]

Wow, this is from a woman? I wish my wife wanted sex. But maybe she thinks I don't want it any more since I stopped asking. Anyway, not normal