early 40s in sexless relationship

[Anonymous]

really good looking in early 40s. one child. healthy. we have sex once in two months. husband is also in early 40s. he is very loyal and loves me but does not care about sex? can it be true?

Again in a really good shape female 41 years old. I know it's not normal but can men do not care about sex? Does he masturbate? I am lost.

[Anonymous]

Low T perhaps?

[Anonymous]

If he loves you why not ask him if he does? Do you think this board knows if he does?

[Anonymous]

Why do your looks matter?

[Anonymous]

Do you just lay there like a fish?

[Anonymous]

Have you tried dressing up? Male here, and totally different behaving depending on wife’s dress when she’s asking. Sorry I’m one of those visual guys

[Anonymous]

Not normal. Low T, depression, affair or not attracted to you. Since you are cute, I'd say not the latter. Have him go to the doctor and get a hormone evaluation.

[Anonymous]

Normal. Wait a few years until you hit menopause - then you’ll complain that once a month is too much!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you just lay there like a fish?

This. The hottest women I’ve slept with, just laid there and did nothing. Didn’t initiate anything, didn’t really try to do any foreplay, etc. Op have you tried to do more in terms of turning him on?

[Anonymous]

Not normal. There is something either significantly wrong with the relationship or wrong with him.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he’s tired from doing the dishes everyday, have you treated him to a spa day?

[Anonymous]

47 year old man. We do it once a week and it’s barely enough from keeping me climbing the walls. He is probably masterbating unsure why if you are eager. Do you initiate and he actually turns you down? Maybe he needs to know ahead of time to make sure he keeps his powder dry

[Anonymous]

Low t is real. Also in early 40s, have sex a few times a year, and don't really mind either.

[Anonymous]

PP here: I must admit I find sex more irritating than not because I'd have to change the sheets.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you just lay there like a fish?

This. The hottest women I’ve slept with, just laid there and did nothing. Didn’t initiate anything, didn’t really try to do any foreplay, etc. Op have you tried to do more in terms of turning him on?

Are you saying she didn’t even reciprocate?