Why can’t I just be honest and tell my daughter that living as a fat woman is hard

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:


Encourage, bribe and insist on your daughter playing a team sport. Start her on swim team, she doesn’t have to be super talented and will be placed with othersin her skill set. Really talk it up and get hyperbolic about all sports accomplishments, even if it is just complimenting her persistence- “she’s not a quitter.” There is heaps of media now to help you out with the “strong, competent women” pep talk. Show her rugby player IIona Maher. Chances are good that your dd’s genetics are not going to skew thin- work on muscular and the body confidence that comes with mastering a sport.

This is great advice. Swimming and tennis are great choices. They are lifelong sports. If she becomes proficient and enjoys them now at a young age, she will always have a fun way to keep her body strong and active without it feeling like a duty. Everyone hates being forced on a treadmill like a hamster. Playing a sport is so much more enjoyable and sustainable.

[Anonymous]

Many have said the reasons why you shouldn't say this, but I'll repeat:

1. Focusing on weight, particularly if the reason is society's perception of you, creates unhealthy complexes and reinforced stereotypes and behaviours we should collectively be trying to discourage.
2. Focusing on the positive effects of staying active and healthy, and modeling that, will get better outcomes both for physical and mental health.

You'd do better to teach your daughter not to care so much about other people's perceptions of her than to teach her to worry about them. That life skill is one of the most important if you want your child to be a happy adult.

[Anonymous]

So OP posted and ghosted? Typical and explains a lot.