Do you think your kids will find good partners and have happy relationships

[Anonymous]

My kids are still so little (8, 6, and 3) that is impossible to tell. I am also raising them thinking that a family is important and that healthy relationship (like I believe their dad and I have), is important.

That said, my parents have a great relationship and raised my brother and I to want that for ourselves, but we did not both have that. We both married youngish (28 and 30), but while I picked a good man and we have a good relationship, my brother chose a crazy and hateful woman and is not getting divorced.

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Anonymous wrote:Even if they do marry, what are the odds of them staying in one for more than 10 years?

Yup. Most marriages around me started between 27-37 and ended within 1-10 years.

This really varies. I'm 55 and have been married for 30 years. I actually know very few divorced people, though I'm not religious at all. All my college friends who married are still with their first husbands. Most of the people I work with have been married for years. My 3 closest friends from high school have all been married 20-30 years. In my bookclub that's been meeting for 15 years, just one divorce.

Wait until you turn 60+

Oh FFS. You've obviously got a narrative to sell. If I had said I was 60, you'd have posted, "wait until you're 65."

How old are you, PP? I'm guessing you are nowhere near 60.

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Anonymous wrote:Odds of this generation for finding happily forever are really low.

This!

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Anonymous wrote:Even if they do marry, what are the odds of them staying in one for more than 10 years?

Yup. Most marriages around me started between 27-37 and ended within 1-10 years.

This really varies. I'm 55 and have been married for 30 years. I actually know very few divorced people, though I'm not religious at all. All my college friends who married are still with their first husbands. Most of the people I work with have been married for years. My 3 closest friends from high school have all been married 20-30 years. In my bookclub that's been meeting for 15 years, just one divorce.

Wait until you turn 60+

Oh FFS. You've obviously got a narrative to sell. If I had said I was 60, you'd have posted, "wait until you're 65."

How old are you, PP? I'm guessing you are nowhere near 60.

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No.

[Anonymous]

Just like not every single person isn't going to get married or find bliss, not every married person is going to be unhappy or get divorced. Marriages are hard work and not fairytales but not the prison sentence either.

[Anonymous]

I see many young people finding and losing good partners because they are not ready to commit, others committing for attractive physical attributes and thinking it’s love, only to find out there is more to love than looks.

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Anonymous wrote:No, I will be surprised if either of the marry.

lol love the honesty

[Anonymous]

DS is 17 and says he’d like to marry and have children some day. He has had a few GFs in high school, but none that lasted very long. He wants to be single now and in the foreseeable future.

He thinks women nag/order men around and try to control their lives. His general dating experience thus far has been girls trying to guilt or control his movements. One GF insisted he be friends with her friends. Another was very liberal and tried to change his viewpoint on everything. He thought she was exhausting. And another would complain if he hadn’t seen her enough.

For better or worse, he’s an attractive young man who doesn’t try to go after girls. Maybe it’s his aloofness, but all his dates have pursued him. DH thinks it’s odd, because DH was always dating in high school and had a serious GF.

Interestingly, he’d like to marry a woman who works. He doesn’t think it’s fair for a woman to stay home while he works. His father and I have both always worked, so I guess it’s what he knows. Who knows how his views will change as he gets older or falls in love.

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Everyone wants their women to work, it’s not sustainable to raise a family on single income. It’s not a sign of being liberal and supporting equal rights any more, it’s self-interest. Good for women because they can be dependent on fickle man and disposable relationships, even if they are ready to accept it to raise kids and when they leave workforce, rejoining with a gap on resume, lack of experience and no continuing education can be really limiting.

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Anonymous wrote:DS is 17 and says he’d like to marry and have children some day. He has had a few GFs in high school, but none that lasted very long. He wants to be single now and in the foreseeable future.

He thinks women nag/order men around and try to control their lives. His general dating experience thus far has been girls trying to guilt or control his movements. One GF insisted he be friends with her friends. Another was very liberal and tried to change his viewpoint on everything. He thought she was exhausting. And another would complain if he hadn’t seen her enough.

For better or worse, he’s an attractive young man who doesn’t try to go after girls. Maybe it’s his aloofness, but all his dates have pursued him. DH thinks it’s odd, because DH was always dating in high school and had a serious GF.

Interestingly, he’d like to marry a woman who works. He doesn’t think it’s fair for a woman to stay home while he works. His father and I have both always worked, so I guess it’s what he knows. Who knows how his views will change as he gets older or falls in love.

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No idea, but my daughter will need to find someone willing to live with BOSSY, and my son will need to find someone willing to take over scheduling/organizing/socializing, since he's a daydreaming introvert with ADHD.

I have 10 cousins. Besides me, only one of the ten is married with kids. Another two are married but no kids. The rest are in relationships but not married and no kids. We're all 35-50. It's weird.

No, your son will have to figure out how to hold it together. Women are looking to marry, not adopt grown men.

Exactly. This is what’s wrong with some parents. Why don’t you teach your kids basic skills so they can find someone out there instead of relying on their partners. Moms and sons especially ugh

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Anonymous wrote:DS is 17 and says he’d like to marry and have children some day. He has had a few GFs in high school, but none that lasted very long. He wants to be single now and in the foreseeable future.

He thinks women nag/order men around and try to control their lives. His general dating experience thus far has been girls trying to guilt or control his movements. One GF insisted he be friends with her friends. Another was very liberal and tried to change his viewpoint on everything. He thought she was exhausting. And another would complain if he hadn’t seen her enough.

For better or worse, he’s an attractive young man who doesn’t try to go after girls. Maybe it’s his aloofness, but all his dates have pursued him. DH thinks it’s odd, because DH was always dating in high school and had a serious GF.

Interestingly, he’d like to marry a woman who works. He doesn’t think it’s fair for a woman to stay home while he works. His father and I have both always worked, so I guess it’s what he knows. Who knows how his views will change as he gets older or falls in love.

I don’t get this “serious relationship” in high school or college notion, serious is when you have intention to make it permanent if things worked out and you sincerely and actively try for things to work out.

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No idea, but my daughter will need to find someone willing to live with BOSSY, and my son will need to find someone willing to take over scheduling/organizing/socializing, since he's a daydreaming introvert with ADHD.

I have 10 cousins. Besides me, only one of the ten is married with kids. Another two are married but no kids. The rest are in relationships but not married and no kids. We're all 35-50. It's weird.

Your son was bossu would you call it that? And your son needs to get organized, not his spouse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DS is 17 and says he’d like to marry and have children some day. He has had a few GFs in high school, but none that lasted very long. He wants to be single now and in the foreseeable future.

He thinks women nag/order men around and try to control their lives. His general dating experience thus far has been girls trying to guilt or control his movements. One GF insisted he be friends with her friends. Another was very liberal and tried to change his viewpoint on everything. He thought she was exhausting. And another would complain if he hadn’t seen her enough.

For better or worse, he’s an attractive young man who doesn’t try to go after girls. Maybe it’s his aloofness, but all his dates have pursued him. DH thinks it’s odd, because DH was always dating in high school and had a serious GF.

Interestingly, he’d like to marry a woman who works. He doesn’t think it’s fair for a woman to stay home while he works. His father and I have both always worked, so I guess it’s what he knows. Who knows how his views will change as he gets older or falls in love.

I hope he doesn't have kids because he sounds like he wouldn't respect his wife once she did have kids. I bet he thinks taking care of the kids is mostly the woman's job? Doesn't sound like you are raising a good person, pp