Travelling with nanny is it ok to put her in economy when we all do first?

[Anonymous]

So, you treat her as less than an equal. How would you feel if she treated your child with the same level of disdain that you treat her?

If you expect her to come on a trip with you, then you treat her as an equal and her time and travel comforts as important as your own. If you aren't willing to do that, let her stay home and take care of your own children. Frankly, your suggestion is not only rude, but clueless as well as rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, you treat her as less than an equal. How would you feel if she treated your child with the same level of disdain that you treat her?

If you expect her to come on a trip with you, then you treat her as an equal and her time and travel comforts as important as your own. If you aren't willing to do that, let her stay home and take care of your own children. Frankly, your suggestion is not only rude, but clueless as well as rude.

Does your boss treat you exactly as an equal? Or if you were ever a lower level staff did you have to fly economy while your c-suite or execs flew business or first? This is to be expected in the real world.

[Anonymous]

Mom here. Kids are too old for a nanny. But if we had travelled with one when they were younger, I would have happily given up a first class seat to my nanny so I could sit on the plane by myself and enjoy quiet time. I guess it's different since Op's kids are older, but I wouldn't be so quick to assume that flying first class with the family is a treat, or that flying apart from them is a disappointment.

[Anonymous]

I’m guessing that you are renting a house, and you offered her a room?
I have done this before. My suggestion is to make it really clear to her whether or not you expect her to work. If she is working, then pay for her first class ticket, all of her meals, transportation, admissions, etc.
If she isn’t working, then give her the address of the accommodations, tell her the dates and times you will be there, and let her have her own vacation. She isn’t your child. She is an adult with a full time job who can book and pay for her own airline tickets. Maybe you can treat her to dinner with your family a few times, but I wouldn’t buy her plane ticket, and I wouldn’t expect her to be around much.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So, you treat her as less than an equal. How would you feel if she treated your child with the same level of disdain that you treat her?

If you expect her to come on a trip with you, then you treat her as an equal and her time and travel comforts as important as your own. If you aren't willing to do that, let her stay home and take care of your own children. Frankly, your suggestion is not only rude, but clueless as well as rude.

Does your boss treat you exactly as an equal? Or if you were ever a lower level staff did you have to fly economy while your c-suite or execs flew business or first? This is to be expected in the real world.

I don't think the situations are equivalent. Someone you hire for a business and someone you hire to come into your home to take care of your children are not equivalent. This is a person who is helping to raise your children.

If you only view the nanny as hired help and support staff, then I supposed that attitude fits. But many nannies, especially ones that are taken on family travel, are considered a critical part of the family unit. They care for the children and should be more than just the hired help. If you treat your nanny like that, you teach your children about a two tiered world and system and that it is okay to treat others, even ones that hold an important role in your family, like they are lesser and less important. SMH.

[Anonymous]

Neither.

If she isn’t working, nanny buys her own ticket.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So, you treat her as less than an equal. How would you feel if she treated your child with the same level of disdain that you treat her?

If you expect her to come on a trip with you, then you treat her as an equal and her time and travel comforts as important as your own. If you aren't willing to do that, let her stay home and take care of your own children. Frankly, your suggestion is not only rude, but clueless as well as rude.

Does your boss treat you exactly as an equal? Or if you were ever a lower level staff did you have to fly economy while your c-suite or execs flew business or first? This is to be expected in the real world.

I don't think the situations are equivalent. Someone you hire for a business and someone you hire to come into your home to take care of your children are not equivalent. This is a person who is helping to raise your children.

If you only view the nanny as hired help and support staff, then I supposed that attitude fits. But many nannies, especially ones that are taken on family travel, are considered a critical part of the family unit. They care for the children and should be more than just the hired help. If you treat your nanny like that, you teach your children about a two tiered world and system and that it is okay to treat others, even ones that hold an important role in your family, like they are lesser and less important. SMH.

Should I also write the nanny into the will to get an equal inheritance? If I don't am I sending my kids the wrong message?

[Anonymous]

This is nuts. Nanny is not working and is going on an all paid vacation. No need to get her a first class ticket. She may not even want to sit with all of you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Kids don't need help they are tweens and teens , I guess it sounds like first for all. Lol

Then why are you bringing the nanny???

She wanted to go on vacation and we offered to add her to ours. We wouldn't be using her as a nanny on Vacation.

In this case, she's getting a free vacation and ride - economy is fine. If she was expected to work it would be a different story.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kids don't need help they are tweens and teens , I guess it sounds like first for all. Lol

Then why are you bringing the nanny???

She wanted to go on vacation and we offered to add her to ours. We wouldn't be using her as a nanny on Vacation.

In this case, she's getting a free vacation and ride - economy is fine. If she was expected to work it would be a different story.

Do you really believe the nanny ideas getting a free vacation with zero work expectations?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Kids don't need help they are tweens and teens , I guess it sounds like first for all. Lol

Then why are you bringing the nanny???

Why do they even HAVE a nanny for tweens & teens?? 😳

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, you treat her as less than an equal. How would you feel if she treated your child with the same level of disdain that you treat her?

If you expect her to come on a trip with you, then you treat her as an equal and her time and travel comforts as important as your own. If you aren't willing to do that, let her stay home and take care of your own children. Frankly, your suggestion is not only rude, but clueless as well as rude.

The OP doesn’t expect the nanny to come on the trip. The nanny asked if she could come.

I would treat her as an equal adult, not as one of your children. Do what you would do if an adult sibling or a friend were joining you on vacation. Would you buy them a plane ticket? I wouldn’t.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Kids don't need help they are tweens and teens , I guess it sounds like first for all. Lol

Then why are you bringing the nanny???

Then why do you HAVE a nanny?

SP. Our youngest children are now in their tweens and early teens. We still have a nanny. She helps if someone is at home from school (like last year, remember!?!), she volunteers in the kids' schools, she does a lot of the afternoon driving around like pick-ups from school, and she monitors all after school activities like homework and play time. Believe me, she's busy!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kids don't need help they are tweens and teens , I guess it sounds like first for all. Lol

Then why are you bringing the nanny???

Then why do you HAVE a nanny?

SP. Our youngest children are now in their tweens and early teens. We still have a nanny. She helps if someone is at home from school (like last year, remember!?!), she volunteers in the kids' schools, she does a lot of the afternoon driving around like pick-ups from school, and she monitors all after school activities like homework and play time. Believe me, she's busy!

Sigh. DP, not SP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would Fedex her ahead of time to the destination so she could help set everything up.

Omg that’s funny. I’m surprised they didn’t think of this.