Huge Fight w/Mother

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And to add, just because he said something still doesn't mean he deserves to be screamed at.

There is no justification in that.

Sounds like you enjoy drama and stirring the pot. Rather than getting in the way of her family, best thing husband could have done is make sure all the kids get outside ASAP. That’s the real way to have your spouse/family’s back, not saying dumb sh*t to your mother-in-law. Instead of saying wife is a good parent to her family, how about maybe do a little good parenting?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Comfort husband and thank him for backing you.
Learn from this experience (hotel next time)

Think about what kind of relationship you want with your. Other before talking to her.

I would Apologize for any role in the blow up but lay down some boundaries.

“Mom I appreciate your hosting everyone to bring us together. We clearly see the numbers were too large to have under one roof. We will stay in hotel or AirBNB from now on. But when we do get together, here are some basic values that are important to me:
1. Please do not say hurtful critiques of me or my family especially if not in private
2. No shouting
3. Whatever other red line you see fit

Good luck!

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