Wait do most alpha men get jealous and women like this?

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Anonymous wrote:I have dated a lot of "alpha" men and yes, you can expect some jealousy and kind of "mate guarding" behavior. As in, the hot bartender is flirting with you and they will make it known that youre together and do something to put the bartender in his place. Or you run into an old male friend and they make it very clear that youre together and that the guy can keep it moving.

It's too be expected. I mean, I'm sure evol psych has plenty of explanations for this behavior. I dont let it bother me.

See, if a guy I was with picked a fight with a bartender, there would not be second date. Only have to date a guy like that once to know they're bad news. Like one guy I dated didn't like me going to office hours if the TA was male. Dumped that guy so fast.

Well you and i have different preferences, obviously. It was also never a fight as the guys I dated were very socially smooth and knew exactly how to firmly put the guy in his place without it being an issue. They're also fairly ripped which meant dudes hardly ever started fights with them. Now that's alpha- you probably wouldnt get it.

Why does the guy need to be put in his place? You are not property and you choose who you want to interact with and if you like how they interact with you. Maybe you like that sort of thing, but what you describe isn't alpha it's a misogynistic bozo, but you also sound young so you might grow out of it.

When did I say I was property, lol? Of course I know that. But he's my man, and I WANT him to defend me. It's actually a tough world for women, so it's nice to know that a strong, physically fit man has my back. Otherwise, what's the point of men, lol? Physical strength and protection is one of the main things they bring to the table.

So yeah, i love it. Plus it's HOT.

Sorry you're old and never experienced it 🤷🏼‍♀️

Why do you need defending from someone who is flirting with you?

Young and dumb.

You need defending from sexual harassment you absolute clown. But you probably cant relate because no one would glance twice at you. What a loser

So now the bartender was sexually harassing you and not flirting with you. You sound like a confused little girl.

But answer me this, why are you miss young and hot who has all the answers posting on a parenting board at 8#0 pm on a Saturday night insead of hanging out with your amazing BF?

Flirting can often = sexual harassment. If you really need proof of all the ways women get sexually preyed upon moving through this world then youre a bigger incel than I already thought.

I'm home with my parents right now for Thanksgiving, nit wit. You might understand if you had a family who loved and tolerated you <3

I've also worked at a bar and seen how weird couples get their rocks off accusing the waiter/bartender who's just trying to do his job of flirting. No one wants to be involved in your weird 50 Shades role play.

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That idea of “alpha” has been around long before Trump. I remember reading about it online 20+ years ago. It was basically taken by men who lacked social and relationship skills to explain why they struggled with females. Instead of looking at themselves or recognizing that maybe that particular hot female they’d been lusting after just wasn’t interested and it’s nothing personal, it was easier to come up with the stereotype that women only want “alphas”, who are tall, muscular, rich, a-holes, etc. Because it’s easier to blame external factors (“women only like a-holes but I’m a nice guy and refuse to stoop to their level!”) rather than look at yourself and recognize maybe most women don’t want a guy who washes his hair once a week, watches anime all day, and does weird things around her family/friends. And it’s a lot easier to blame women for, say, only wanting tall men since they can’t grow taller, but facing the fact that they have poor leadership skills or can’t handle challenges or lack social skills is a lot more difficult.

It ends up being a bullshit concept, but in fairness, it worked as a marketing tool because there was a grain of truth to it. Assholes in high school were legitimately more likely to have girlfriends than legitimately kind, funny, intelligent guys who were shy. For reasons having to do with socialization, women were less forthright about saying they wanted a guy who was strong, athletic, and good looking. So when asked about what they wanted in a guy, they'd say things like "kind" and "good sense of humor" -- when the hottest girls with the most options were obviously making looks and athletic ability a way higher priority. Also the jerks were more likely to be aggressive in asking girls out. Easier to go out with the jerk who makes the first move than for the girl to make the first move herself on a boy who was likely to treat her better but was shy.

As women mature, their tastes in men tend to mature as well. But those first impressions last -- so it looks like their preference is for aggressive athletic guys. Giving rise to the myth of Chad Thundercock the Alpha.

Real talk, as a woman I don't know many women who truly only dated jerks or were into jerks as teens and young women, in my experience that's something of a myth. The few who did go through a jerk phase had mental health or daddy issues.

Maybe but plenty of those jerks identify as sweet liberal men who will gaslight the hell out of the women theyre with as well as use weaponized incompetence. I'd much rather go with an alpha man who is supportive to his partner, defends her, and creates boundaries around her towards other men. That's so much healthier and actgually not toxic at all 💜

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Anonymous wrote:I have dated a lot of "alpha" men and yes, you can expect some jealousy and kind of "mate guarding" behavior. As in, the hot bartender is flirting with you and they will make it known that youre together and do something to put the bartender in his place. Or you run into an old male friend and they make it very clear that youre together and that the guy can keep it moving.

It's too be expected. I mean, I'm sure evol psych has plenty of explanations for this behavior. I dont let it bother me.

See, if a guy I was with picked a fight with a bartender, there would not be second date. Only have to date a guy like that once to know they're bad news. Like one guy I dated didn't like me going to office hours if the TA was male. Dumped that guy so fast.

Well you and i have different preferences, obviously. It was also never a fight as the guys I dated were very socially smooth and knew exactly how to firmly put the guy in his place without it being an issue. They're also fairly ripped which meant dudes hardly ever started fights with them. Now that's alpha- you probably wouldnt get it.

Why does the guy need to be put in his place? You are not property and you choose who you want to interact with and if you like how they interact with you. Maybe you like that sort of thing, but what you describe isn't alpha it's a misogynistic bozo, but you also sound young so you might grow out of it.

When did I say I was property, lol? Of course I know that. But he's my man, and I WANT him to defend me. It's actually a tough world for women, so it's nice to know that a strong, physically fit man has my back. Otherwise, what's the point of men, lol? Physical strength and protection is one of the main things they bring to the table.

So yeah, i love it. Plus it's HOT.

Sorry you're old and never experienced it 🤷🏼‍♀️

Why do you need defending from someone who is flirting with you?

Young and dumb.

You need defending from sexual harassment you absolute clown. But you probably cant relate because no one would glance twice at you. What a loser

So now the bartender was sexually harassing you and not flirting with you. You sound like a confused little girl.

But answer me this, why are you miss young and hot who has all the answers posting on a parenting board at 8#0 pm on a Saturday night insead of hanging out with your amazing BF?

Because it's fan fiction.

This is true, and likely written by someone who has never had a relationship.

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Anonymous wrote:I have dated a lot of "alpha" men and yes, you can expect some jealousy and kind of "mate guarding" behavior. As in, the hot bartender is flirting with you and they will make it known that youre together and do something to put the bartender in his place. Or you run into an old male friend and they make it very clear that youre together and that the guy can keep it moving.

It's too be expected. I mean, I'm sure evol psych has plenty of explanations for this behavior. I dont let it bother me.

See, if a guy I was with picked a fight with a bartender, there would not be second date. Only have to date a guy like that once to know they're bad news. Like one guy I dated didn't like me going to office hours if the TA was male. Dumped that guy so fast.

Well you and i have different preferences, obviously. It was also never a fight as the guys I dated were very socially smooth and knew exactly how to firmly put the guy in his place without it being an issue. They're also fairly ripped which meant dudes hardly ever started fights with them. Now that's alpha- you probably wouldnt get it.

Why does the guy need to be put in his place? You are not property and you choose who you want to interact with and if you like how they interact with you. Maybe you like that sort of thing, but what you describe isn't alpha it's a misogynistic bozo, but you also sound young so you might grow out of it.

When did I say I was property, lol? Of course I know that. But he's my man, and I WANT him to defend me. It's actually a tough world for women, so it's nice to know that a strong, physically fit man has my back. Otherwise, what's the point of men, lol? Physical strength and protection is one of the main things they bring to the table.

So yeah, i love it. Plus it's HOT.

Sorry you're old and never experienced it 🤷🏼‍♀️

Why do you need defending from someone who is flirting with you?

Young and dumb.

You need defending from sexual harassment you absolute clown. But you probably cant relate because no one would glance twice at you. What a loser

So now the bartender was sexually harassing you and not flirting with you. You sound like a confused little girl.

But answer me this, why are you miss young and hot who has all the answers posting on a parenting board at 8#0 pm on a Saturday night insead of hanging out with your amazing BF?

Flirting can often = sexual harassment. If you really need proof of all the ways women get sexually preyed upon moving through this world then youre a bigger incel than I already thought.

I'm home with my parents right now for Thanksgiving, nit wit. You might understand if you had a family who loved and tolerated you <3

I've also worked at a bar and seen how weird couples get their rocks off accusing the waiter/bartender who's just trying to do his job of flirting. No one wants to be involved in your weird 50 Shades role play.

And youre acting like bartenders DONT flirt with customers something? Talk about a role play- you're acting willfully delusional, and it shows.

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That idea of “alpha” has been around long before Trump. I remember reading about it online 20+ years ago. It was basically taken by men who lacked social and relationship skills to explain why they struggled with females. Instead of looking at themselves or recognizing that maybe that particular hot female they’d been lusting after just wasn’t interested and it’s nothing personal, it was easier to come up with the stereotype that women only want “alphas”, who are tall, muscular, rich, a-holes, etc. Because it’s easier to blame external factors (“women only like a-holes but I’m a nice guy and refuse to stoop to their level!”) rather than look at yourself and recognize maybe most women don’t want a guy who washes his hair once a week, watches anime all day, and does weird things around her family/friends. And it’s a lot easier to blame women for, say, only wanting tall men since they can’t grow taller, but facing the fact that they have poor leadership skills or can’t handle challenges or lack social skills is a lot more difficult.

It ends up being a bullshit concept, but in fairness, it worked as a marketing tool because there was a grain of truth to it. Assholes in high school were legitimately more likely to have girlfriends than legitimately kind, funny, intelligent guys who were shy. For reasons having to do with socialization, women were less forthright about saying they wanted a guy who was strong, athletic, and good looking. So when asked about what they wanted in a guy, they'd say things like "kind" and "good sense of humor" -- when the hottest girls with the most options were obviously making looks and athletic ability a way higher priority. Also the jerks were more likely to be aggressive in asking girls out. Easier to go out with the jerk who makes the first move than for the girl to make the first move herself on a boy who was likely to treat her better but was shy.

As women mature, their tastes in men tend to mature as well. But those first impressions last -- so it looks like their preference is for aggressive athletic guys. Giving rise to the myth of Chad Thundercock the Alpha.

Real talk, as a woman I don't know many women who truly only dated jerks or were into jerks as teens and young women, in my experience that's something of a myth. The few who did go through a jerk phase had mental health or daddy issues.

Maybe but plenty of those jerks identify as sweet liberal men who will gaslight the hell out of the women theyre with as well as use weaponized incompetence. I'd much rather go with an alpha man who is supportive to his partner, defends her, and creates boundaries around her towards other men. That's so much healthier and actgually not toxic at all 💜

There's a lot wrong with your post, but Ill just pick this one , it's not your boyfriend or your husband's job to determine your boundaries.

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That idea of “alpha” has been around long before Trump. I remember reading about it online 20+ years ago. It was basically taken by men who lacked social and relationship skills to explain why they struggled with females. Instead of looking at themselves or recognizing that maybe that particular hot female they’d been lusting after just wasn’t interested and it’s nothing personal, it was easier to come up with the stereotype that women only want “alphas”, who are tall, muscular, rich, a-holes, etc. Because it’s easier to blame external factors (“women only like a-holes but I’m a nice guy and refuse to stoop to their level!”) rather than look at yourself and recognize maybe most women don’t want a guy who washes his hair once a week, watches anime all day, and does weird things around her family/friends. And it’s a lot easier to blame women for, say, only wanting tall men since they can’t grow taller, but facing the fact that they have poor leadership skills or can’t handle challenges or lack social skills is a lot more difficult.

It ends up being a bullshit concept, but in fairness, it worked as a marketing tool because there was a grain of truth to it. Assholes in high school were legitimately more likely to have girlfriends than legitimately kind, funny, intelligent guys who were shy. For reasons having to do with socialization, women were less forthright about saying they wanted a guy who was strong, athletic, and good looking. So when asked about what they wanted in a guy, they'd say things like "kind" and "good sense of humor" -- when the hottest girls with the most options were obviously making looks and athletic ability a way higher priority. Also the jerks were more likely to be aggressive in asking girls out. Easier to go out with the jerk who makes the first move than for the girl to make the first move herself on a boy who was likely to treat her better but was shy.

As women mature, their tastes in men tend to mature as well. But those first impressions last -- so it looks like their preference is for aggressive athletic guys. Giving rise to the myth of Chad Thundercock the Alpha.

Real talk, as a woman I don't know many women who truly only dated jerks or were into jerks as teens and young women, in my experience that's something of a myth. The few who did go through a jerk phase had mental health or daddy issues.

Maybe but plenty of those jerks identify as sweet liberal men who will gaslight the hell out of the women theyre with as well as use weaponized incompetence. I'd much rather go with an alpha man who is supportive to his partner, defends her, and creates boundaries around her towards other men. That's so much healthier and actgually not toxic at all 💜

There's a lot wrong with your post, but Ill just pick this one , it's not your boyfriend or your husband's job to determine your boundaries.

And I never said it was. But they can create THEIR boundaries with other men. And if I'm on the same page, they can enforce them. It's awesome when your man actually does stuff for you, you should try it sometime

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Anonymous wrote:I have dated a lot of "alpha" men and yes, you can expect some jealousy and kind of "mate guarding" behavior. As in, the hot bartender is flirting with you and they will make it known that youre together and do something to put the bartender in his place. Or you run into an old male friend and they make it very clear that youre together and that the guy can keep it moving.

It's too be expected. I mean, I'm sure evol psych has plenty of explanations for this behavior. I dont let it bother me.

See, if a guy I was with picked a fight with a bartender, there would not be second date. Only have to date a guy like that once to know they're bad news. Like one guy I dated didn't like me going to office hours if the TA was male. Dumped that guy so fast.

Well you and i have different preferences, obviously. It was also never a fight as the guys I dated were very socially smooth and knew exactly how to firmly put the guy in his place without it being an issue. They're also fairly ripped which meant dudes hardly ever started fights with them. Now that's alpha- you probably wouldnt get it.

Why does the guy need to be put in his place? You are not property and you choose who you want to interact with and if you like how they interact with you. Maybe you like that sort of thing, but what you describe isn't alpha it's a misogynistic bozo, but you also sound young so you might grow out of it.

When did I say I was property, lol? Of course I know that. But he's my man, and I WANT him to defend me. It's actually a tough world for women, so it's nice to know that a strong, physically fit man has my back. Otherwise, what's the point of men, lol? Physical strength and protection is one of the main things they bring to the table.

So yeah, i love it. Plus it's HOT.

Sorry you're old and never experienced it 🤷🏼‍♀️

Why do you need defending from someone who is flirting with you?

Young and dumb.

You need defending from sexual harassment you absolute clown. But you probably cant relate because no one would glance twice at you. What a loser

So now the bartender was sexually harassing you and not flirting with you. You sound like a confused little girl.

But answer me this, why are you miss young and hot who has all the answers posting on a parenting board at 8#0 pm on a Saturday night insead of hanging out with your amazing BF?

Because it's fan fiction.

This is true, and likely written by someone who has never had a relationship.

It's textbook Twilight fanfiction. Save me Edward! Watch me sleep!

[Anonymous]

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That idea of “alpha” has been around long before Trump. I remember reading about it online 20+ years ago. It was basically taken by men who lacked social and relationship skills to explain why they struggled with females. Instead of looking at themselves or recognizing that maybe that particular hot female they’d been lusting after just wasn’t interested and it’s nothing personal, it was easier to come up with the stereotype that women only want “alphas”, who are tall, muscular, rich, a-holes, etc. Because it’s easier to blame external factors (“women only like a-holes but I’m a nice guy and refuse to stoop to their level!”) rather than look at yourself and recognize maybe most women don’t want a guy who washes his hair once a week, watches anime all day, and does weird things around her family/friends. And it’s a lot easier to blame women for, say, only wanting tall men since they can’t grow taller, but facing the fact that they have poor leadership skills or can’t handle challenges or lack social skills is a lot more difficult.

It ends up being a bullshit concept, but in fairness, it worked as a marketing tool because there was a grain of truth to it. Assholes in high school were legitimately more likely to have girlfriends than legitimately kind, funny, intelligent guys who were shy. For reasons having to do with socialization, women were less forthright about saying they wanted a guy who was strong, athletic, and good looking. So when asked about what they wanted in a guy, they'd say things like "kind" and "good sense of humor" -- when the hottest girls with the most options were obviously making looks and athletic ability a way higher priority. Also the jerks were more likely to be aggressive in asking girls out. Easier to go out with the jerk who makes the first move than for the girl to make the first move herself on a boy who was likely to treat her better but was shy.

As women mature, their tastes in men tend to mature as well. But those first impressions last -- so it looks like their preference is for aggressive athletic guys. Giving rise to the myth of Chad Thundercock the Alpha.

Real talk, as a woman I don't know many women who truly only dated jerks or were into jerks as teens and young women, in my experience that's something of a myth. The few who did go through a jerk phase had mental health or daddy issues.

Maybe but plenty of those jerks identify as sweet liberal men who will gaslight the hell out of the women theyre with as well as use weaponized incompetence. I'd much rather go with an alpha man who is supportive to his partner, defends her, and creates boundaries around her towards other men. That's so much healthier and actgually not toxic at all 💜

There's a lot wrong with your post, but Ill just pick this one , it's not your boyfriend or your husband's job to determine your boundaries.

And I never said it was. But they can create THEIR boundaries with other men. And if I'm on the same page, they can enforce them. It's awesome when your man actually does stuff for you, you should try it sometime

They don't have a right to create boundaries with other men when it comes to you, The woman/ wife./gf determines her own boundaries they can take it or leave it.

You'll enjoy being a woman and experiencing an adult relationship of mutual trust and respect when you get there.

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Anonymous wrote:I have dated a lot of "alpha" men and yes, you can expect some jealousy and kind of "mate guarding" behavior. As in, the hot bartender is flirting with you and they will make it known that youre together and do something to put the bartender in his place. Or you run into an old male friend and they make it very clear that youre together and that the guy can keep it moving.

It's too be expected. I mean, I'm sure evol psych has plenty of explanations for this behavior. I dont let it bother me.

See, if a guy I was with picked a fight with a bartender, there would not be second date. Only have to date a guy like that once to know they're bad news. Like one guy I dated didn't like me going to office hours if the TA was male. Dumped that guy so fast.

Well you and i have different preferences, obviously. It was also never a fight as the guys I dated were very socially smooth and knew exactly how to firmly put the guy in his place without it being an issue. They're also fairly ripped which meant dudes hardly ever started fights with them. Now that's alpha- you probably wouldnt get it.

Why does the guy need to be put in his place? You are not property and you choose who you want to interact with and if you like how they interact with you. Maybe you like that sort of thing, but what you describe isn't alpha it's a misogynistic bozo, but you also sound young so you might grow out of it.

When did I say I was property, lol? Of course I know that. But he's my man, and I WANT him to defend me. It's actually a tough world for women, so it's nice to know that a strong, physically fit man has my back. Otherwise, what's the point of men, lol? Physical strength and protection is one of the main things they bring to the table.

So yeah, i love it. Plus it's HOT.

Sorry you're old and never experienced it 🤷🏼‍♀️

Why do you need defending from someone who is flirting with you?

Young and dumb.

You need defending from sexual harassment you absolute clown. But you probably cant relate because no one would glance twice at you. What a loser

So now the bartender was sexually harassing you and not flirting with you. You sound like a confused little girl.

But answer me this, why are you miss young and hot who has all the answers posting on a parenting board at 8#0 pm on a Saturday night insead of hanging out with your amazing BF?

Because it's fan fiction.

This is true, and likely written by someone who has never had a relationship.

It's textbook Twilight fanfiction. Save me Edward! Watch me sleep!

it's sad that you really think the concept of a man standing up for you is fanfiction. Some of you have such sad, lonely, and just embarrassing lives. Probably never get checked out either. Oh well- not everyone gets a good life 🤷🏼‍♀️

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That idea of “alpha” has been around long before Trump. I remember reading about it online 20+ years ago. It was basically taken by men who lacked social and relationship skills to explain why they struggled with females. Instead of looking at themselves or recognizing that maybe that particular hot female they’d been lusting after just wasn’t interested and it’s nothing personal, it was easier to come up with the stereotype that women only want “alphas”, who are tall, muscular, rich, a-holes, etc. Because it’s easier to blame external factors (“women only like a-holes but I’m a nice guy and refuse to stoop to their level!”) rather than look at yourself and recognize maybe most women don’t want a guy who washes his hair once a week, watches anime all day, and does weird things around her family/friends. And it’s a lot easier to blame women for, say, only wanting tall men since they can’t grow taller, but facing the fact that they have poor leadership skills or can’t handle challenges or lack social skills is a lot more difficult.

It ends up being a bullshit concept, but in fairness, it worked as a marketing tool because there was a grain of truth to it. Assholes in high school were legitimately more likely to have girlfriends than legitimately kind, funny, intelligent guys who were shy. For reasons having to do with socialization, women were less forthright about saying they wanted a guy who was strong, athletic, and good looking. So when asked about what they wanted in a guy, they'd say things like "kind" and "good sense of humor" -- when the hottest girls with the most options were obviously making looks and athletic ability a way higher priority. Also the jerks were more likely to be aggressive in asking girls out. Easier to go out with the jerk who makes the first move than for the girl to make the first move herself on a boy who was likely to treat her better but was shy.

As women mature, their tastes in men tend to mature as well. But those first impressions last -- so it looks like their preference is for aggressive athletic guys. Giving rise to the myth of Chad Thundercock the Alpha.

Real talk, as a woman I don't know many women who truly only dated jerks or were into jerks as teens and young women, in my experience that's something of a myth. The few who did go through a jerk phase had mental health or daddy issues.

Maybe but plenty of those jerks identify as sweet liberal men who will gaslight the hell out of the women theyre with as well as use weaponized incompetence. I'd much rather go with an alpha man who is supportive to his partner, defends her, and creates boundaries around her towards other men. That's so much healthier and actgually not toxic at all 💜

There's a lot wrong with your post, but Ill just pick this one , it's not your boyfriend or your husband's job to determine your boundaries.

And I never said it was. But they can create THEIR boundaries with other men. And if I'm on the same page, they can enforce them. It's awesome when your man actually does stuff for you, you should try it sometime

They don't have a right to create boundaries with other men when it comes to you, The woman/ wife./gf determines her own boundaries they can take it or leave it.

You'll enjoy being a woman and experiencing an adult relationship of mutual trust and respect when you get there.

They actually do! Everyone gets the right to say what they want/tolerate in a relationship. I'm also not the type who necessarily wants to flirt with the bartender, although I'm friendly and get a ton of attention, so these boyfriends stepping up and putting up a boundary is super welcomed by me. Like I said, I love it. In a world of dudes constantly trying to get it in with an attractive woman, that is a HUGE relief. Just high value things!

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Anonymous wrote:I have dated a lot of "alpha" men and yes, you can expect some jealousy and kind of "mate guarding" behavior. As in, the hot bartender is flirting with you and they will make it known that youre together and do something to put the bartender in his place. Or you run into an old male friend and they make it very clear that youre together and that the guy can keep it moving.

It's too be expected. I mean, I'm sure evol psych has plenty of explanations for this behavior. I dont let it bother me.

See, if a guy I was with picked a fight with a bartender, there would not be second date. Only have to date a guy like that once to know they're bad news. Like one guy I dated didn't like me going to office hours if the TA was male. Dumped that guy so fast.

Well you and i have different preferences, obviously. It was also never a fight as the guys I dated were very socially smooth and knew exactly how to firmly put the guy in his place without it being an issue. They're also fairly ripped which meant dudes hardly ever started fights with them. Now that's alpha- you probably wouldnt get it.

Why does the guy need to be put in his place? You are not property and you choose who you want to interact with and if you like how they interact with you. Maybe you like that sort of thing, but what you describe isn't alpha it's a misogynistic bozo, but you also sound young so you might grow out of it.

When did I say I was property, lol? Of course I know that. But he's my man, and I WANT him to defend me. It's actually a tough world for women, so it's nice to know that a strong, physically fit man has my back. Otherwise, what's the point of men, lol? Physical strength and protection is one of the main things they bring to the table.

So yeah, i love it. Plus it's HOT.

Sorry you're old and never experienced it 🤷🏼‍♀️

Why do you need defending from someone who is flirting with you?

Young and dumb.

You need defending from sexual harassment you absolute clown. But you probably cant relate because no one would glance twice at you. What a loser

So now the bartender was sexually harassing you and not flirting with you. You sound like a confused little girl.

But answer me this, why are you miss young and hot who has all the answers posting on a parenting board at 8#0 pm on a Saturday night insead of hanging out with your amazing BF?

Because it's fan fiction.

This is true, and likely written by someone who has never had a relationship.

It's textbook Twilight fanfiction. Save me Edward! Watch me sleep!

Fantasies are safe, and relationships with a real person can be scary. Though I'm not sure pp is female seems a lot like someone who drifted over from Reddit's red pill training boards thinking they lnow what women want. But at least they admitted they are at home in their parent's basement.

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Anonymous wrote:I have dated a lot of "alpha" men and yes, you can expect some jealousy and kind of "mate guarding" behavior. As in, the hot bartender is flirting with you and they will make it known that youre together and do something to put the bartender in his place. Or you run into an old male friend and they make it very clear that youre together and that the guy can keep it moving.

It's too be expected. I mean, I'm sure evol psych has plenty of explanations for this behavior. I dont let it bother me.

See, if a guy I was with picked a fight with a bartender, there would not be second date. Only have to date a guy like that once to know they're bad news. Like one guy I dated didn't like me going to office hours if the TA was male. Dumped that guy so fast.

Well you and i have different preferences, obviously. It was also never a fight as the guys I dated were very socially smooth and knew exactly how to firmly put the guy in his place without it being an issue. They're also fairly ripped which meant dudes hardly ever started fights with them. Now that's alpha- you probably wouldnt get it.

Why does the guy need to be put in his place? You are not property and you choose who you want to interact with and if you like how they interact with you. Maybe you like that sort of thing, but what you describe isn't alpha it's a misogynistic bozo, but you also sound young so you might grow out of it.

When did I say I was property, lol? Of course I know that. But he's my man, and I WANT him to defend me. It's actually a tough world for women, so it's nice to know that a strong, physically fit man has my back. Otherwise, what's the point of men, lol? Physical strength and protection is one of the main things they bring to the table.

So yeah, i love it. Plus it's HOT.

Sorry you're old and never experienced it 🤷🏼‍♀️

Why do you need defending from someone who is flirting with you?

Young and dumb.

You need defending from sexual harassment you absolute clown. But you probably cant relate because no one would glance twice at you. What a loser

So now the bartender was sexually harassing you and not flirting with you. You sound like a confused little girl.

But answer me this, why are you miss young and hot who has all the answers posting on a parenting board at 8#0 pm on a Saturday night insead of hanging out with your amazing BF?

Because it's fan fiction.

This is true, and likely written by someone who has never had a relationship.

It's textbook Twilight fanfiction. Save me Edward! Watch me sleep!

it's sad that you really think the concept of a man standing up for you is fanfiction. Some of you have such sad, lonely, and just embarrassing lives. Probably never get checked out either. Oh well- not everyone gets a good life 🤷🏼‍♀️

Yeah, I've heard that line... from DV victims whose "alpha" boyfriends then turned that aggression on them. But tell us about how your love is so special and every guy put there wants you so your aggressive white knight has to put men in their places.

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That idea of “alpha” has been around long before Trump. I remember reading about it online 20+ years ago. It was basically taken by men who lacked social and relationship skills to explain why they struggled with females. Instead of looking at themselves or recognizing that maybe that particular hot female they’d been lusting after just wasn’t interested and it’s nothing personal, it was easier to come up with the stereotype that women only want “alphas”, who are tall, muscular, rich, a-holes, etc. Because it’s easier to blame external factors (“women only like a-holes but I’m a nice guy and refuse to stoop to their level!”) rather than look at yourself and recognize maybe most women don’t want a guy who washes his hair once a week, watches anime all day, and does weird things around her family/friends. And it’s a lot easier to blame women for, say, only wanting tall men since they can’t grow taller, but facing the fact that they have poor leadership skills or can’t handle challenges or lack social skills is a lot more difficult.

It ends up being a bullshit concept, but in fairness, it worked as a marketing tool because there was a grain of truth to it. Assholes in high school were legitimately more likely to have girlfriends than legitimately kind, funny, intelligent guys who were shy. For reasons having to do with socialization, women were less forthright about saying they wanted a guy who was strong, athletic, and good looking. So when asked about what they wanted in a guy, they'd say things like "kind" and "good sense of humor" -- when the hottest girls with the most options were obviously making looks and athletic ability a way higher priority. Also the jerks were more likely to be aggressive in asking girls out. Easier to go out with the jerk who makes the first move than for the girl to make the first move herself on a boy who was likely to treat her better but was shy.

As women mature, their tastes in men tend to mature as well. But those first impressions last -- so it looks like their preference is for aggressive athletic guys. Giving rise to the myth of Chad Thundercock the Alpha.

Real talk, as a woman I don't know many women who truly only dated jerks or were into jerks as teens and young women, in my experience that's something of a myth. The few who did go through a jerk phase had mental health or daddy issues.

Maybe but plenty of those jerks identify as sweet liberal men who will gaslight the hell out of the women theyre with as well as use weaponized incompetence. I'd much rather go with an alpha man who is supportive to his partner, defends her, and creates boundaries around her towards other men. That's so much healthier and actgually not toxic at all 💜

There's a lot wrong with your post, but Ill just pick this one , it's not your boyfriend or your husband's job to determine your boundaries.

And I never said it was. But they can create THEIR boundaries with other men. And if I'm on the same page, they can enforce them. It's awesome when your man actually does stuff for you, you should try it sometime

They don't have a right to create boundaries with other men when it comes to you, The woman/ wife./gf determines her own boundaries they can take it or leave it.

You'll enjoy being a woman and experiencing an adult relationship of mutual trust and respect when you get there.

They actually do! Everyone gets the right to say what they want/tolerate in a relationship. I'm also not the type who necessarily wants to flirt with the bartender, although I'm friendly and get a ton of attention, so these boyfriends stepping up and putting up a boundary is super welcomed by me. Like I said, I love it. In a world of dudes constantly trying to get it in with an attractive woman, that is a HUGE relief. Just high value things!

No, they don't. They don't get to tell another man not to flirt with you or to get pissy about it when he does that's not high value that's abusive. You've got a lot to learn and hopefully, you don't have to learn it the hard way.


Put down the Kevin Samuels.

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Anonymous wrote:I have dated a lot of "alpha" men and yes, you can expect some jealousy and kind of "mate guarding" behavior. As in, the hot bartender is flirting with you and they will make it known that youre together and do something to put the bartender in his place. Or you run into an old male friend and they make it very clear that youre together and that the guy can keep it moving.

It's too be expected. I mean, I'm sure evol psych has plenty of explanations for this behavior. I dont let it bother me.

See, if a guy I was with picked a fight with a bartender, there would not be second date. Only have to date a guy like that once to know they're bad news. Like one guy I dated didn't like me going to office hours if the TA was male. Dumped that guy so fast.

Well you and i have different preferences, obviously. It was also never a fight as the guys I dated were very socially smooth and knew exactly how to firmly put the guy in his place without it being an issue. They're also fairly ripped which meant dudes hardly ever started fights with them. Now that's alpha- you probably wouldnt get it.

Why does the guy need to be put in his place? You are not property and you choose who you want to interact with and if you like how they interact with you. Maybe you like that sort of thing, but what you describe isn't alpha it's a misogynistic bozo, but you also sound young so you might grow out of it.

When did I say I was property, lol? Of course I know that. But he's my man, and I WANT him to defend me. It's actually a tough world for women, so it's nice to know that a strong, physically fit man has my back. Otherwise, what's the point of men, lol? Physical strength and protection is one of the main things they bring to the table.

So yeah, i love it. Plus it's HOT.

Sorry you're old and never experienced it 🤷🏼‍♀️

Why do you need defending from someone who is flirting with you?

Young and dumb.

You need defending from sexual harassment you absolute clown. But you probably cant relate because no one would glance twice at you. What a loser

So now the bartender was sexually harassing you and not flirting with you. You sound like a confused little girl.

But answer me this, why are you miss young and hot who has all the answers posting on a parenting board at 8#0 pm on a Saturday night insead of hanging out with your amazing BF?

Because it's fan fiction.

This is true, and likely written by someone who has never had a relationship.

It's textbook Twilight fanfiction. Save me Edward! Watch me sleep!

it's sad that you really think the concept of a man standing up for you is fanfiction. Some of you have such sad, lonely, and just embarrassing lives. Probably never get checked out either. Oh well- not everyone gets a good life 🤷🏼‍♀️

Yeah, I've heard that line... from DV victims whose "alpha" boyfriends then turned that aggression on them. But tell us about how your love is so special and every guy put there wants you so your aggressive white knight has to put men in their places.

None of my boyfriends have ever been violent with me. With other guys- sure. I WANT a guy who is protective and masculine. But anyone... keep grasping at random straws to defend your mediocre man and make me feel bad about the men I've been with. I dont. Not one bit!!! 😍

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That idea of “alpha” has been around long before Trump. I remember reading about it online 20+ years ago. It was basically taken by men who lacked social and relationship skills to explain why they struggled with females. Instead of looking at themselves or recognizing that maybe that particular hot female they’d been lusting after just wasn’t interested and it’s nothing personal, it was easier to come up with the stereotype that women only want “alphas”, who are tall, muscular, rich, a-holes, etc. Because it’s easier to blame external factors (“women only like a-holes but I’m a nice guy and refuse to stoop to their level!”) rather than look at yourself and recognize maybe most women don’t want a guy who washes his hair once a week, watches anime all day, and does weird things around her family/friends. And it’s a lot easier to blame women for, say, only wanting tall men since they can’t grow taller, but facing the fact that they have poor leadership skills or can’t handle challenges or lack social skills is a lot more difficult.

It ends up being a bullshit concept, but in fairness, it worked as a marketing tool because there was a grain of truth to it. Assholes in high school were legitimately more likely to have girlfriends than legitimately kind, funny, intelligent guys who were shy. For reasons having to do with socialization, women were less forthright about saying they wanted a guy who was strong, athletic, and good looking. So when asked about what they wanted in a guy, they'd say things like "kind" and "good sense of humor" -- when the hottest girls with the most options were obviously making looks and athletic ability a way higher priority. Also the jerks were more likely to be aggressive in asking girls out. Easier to go out with the jerk who makes the first move than for the girl to make the first move herself on a boy who was likely to treat her better but was shy.

As women mature, their tastes in men tend to mature as well. But those first impressions last -- so it looks like their preference is for aggressive athletic guys. Giving rise to the myth of Chad Thundercock the Alpha.

Real talk, as a woman I don't know many women who truly only dated jerks or were into jerks as teens and young women, in my experience that's something of a myth. The few who did go through a jerk phase had mental health or daddy issues.

Maybe but plenty of those jerks identify as sweet liberal men who will gaslight the hell out of the women theyre with as well as use weaponized incompetence. I'd much rather go with an alpha man who is supportive to his partner, defends her, and creates boundaries around her towards other men. That's so much healthier and actgually not toxic at all 💜

There's a lot wrong with your post, but Ill just pick this one , it's not your boyfriend or your husband's job to determine your boundaries.

And I never said it was. But they can create THEIR boundaries with other men. And if I'm on the same page, they can enforce them. It's awesome when your man actually does stuff for you, you should try it sometime

They don't have a right to create boundaries with other men when it comes to you, The woman/ wife./gf determines her own boundaries they can take it or leave it.

You'll enjoy being a woman and experiencing an adult relationship of mutual trust and respect when you get there.

They actually do! Everyone gets the right to say what they want/tolerate in a relationship. I'm also not the type who necessarily wants to flirt with the bartender, although I'm friendly and get a ton of attention, so these boyfriends stepping up and putting up a boundary is super welcomed by me. Like I said, I love it. In a world of dudes constantly trying to get it in with an attractive woman, that is a HUGE relief. Just high value things!

No, they don't. They don't get to tell another man not to flirt with you or to get pissy about it when he does that's not high value that's abusive. You've got a lot to learn and hopefully, you don't have to learn it the hard way.


Put down the Kevin Samuels.

I dont even know who kevin samuels is- is that an incel/shut in thing?

They do, and they can make it clear, without it even turning into a huge deal. And I'm super grateful for it. When my man protects me, I can be my most feminine, happy, carefree self. Love it!!! Lucky me!!!